I’m worried about your answer. And I’ve been thinking a lot about you lately. Because sometimes this world of blogging can become just one more opportunity for the biggest Liar of them all to tell you that you don’t measure up. Especially if our blogging identity starts to feel like our true identity; then we are in danger of living and dying on the number of “likes” or comments one post gets.
Because, let’s face it, we want to be liked. We need to know we matter. It’s in our DNA.
“I realized there was this other part of me, and it was a big part of me, that needed something outside myself to tell me who I was.And so [it] became obvious; I was very concerned with getting other people to say I was good or valuable or important because the thing that was supposed to make me feel this way was gone.” ~Donald Miller, Searching For God Knows What (p.44).
The truth of that statement resonates all the way down to my toes. I feel it in the hairs that stand up on the back of my neck and the achey breaky feeling in my tummy that wants to know it matters with a hunger that is insatiable.
We have a built in need to be valued. And blogging feeds that need with comments fattening our inbox and fan pages fluttering their eyelashes, lovingly reminding us that we are well liked.
But what if the comment box is empty? What if the fans are few and far between? Does a voice whisper to you late in the night that you are irrelevant when you’ve shared parts of your soul and no one has showed up to read them?
That voice is a liar.
Because here’s the thing: you are wonderful, whether or not you feel wonderful. You matter because God says so. Everything else is fluff. To convince you I would make you s’mores if I could. Because sometimes sweet food speaks louder than sweet words. And while you ate all that sticky goodness, I would tell you just how delicious you truly are.
How your value comes from the God who made a fool of Himself in His crazy, amazing love for you. How you matter because of Him, not because of how witty your tweets are, how many facebook likes you have, or how high the number of people who subscribe to your blog.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16.
He gave up everything – even Himself – for you.
Hear that. Believe that. Eat that. It is the only way I know to satisfy the need to be loved. Since He created the need, let Him fill it for you.
And I hope you discover you are not so small after all. Not even a little bit.