It was our fourth year of youth ministry. We had a huge missions pledge for our youth group and we needed an epic idea to raise it.
My hubby’s epiphany: Sleep on the Roof.
For every thousand dollars, he agreed to spend one night on the roof of the church.
I was so proud.
(What can I say? We were very young and very dumb).
Money poured in and he pitched a tent on the roof….only to be begged down by board members and parents due to bad weather and um, the possibility of rolling off. I think he was disappointed. I was relieved.
But I will tell you, there have been many days since that my hubby would have gladly packed up backpack, climbed a ladder and camped out on our roof.
And not to raise money.
It would have to been to get away from me.
Apparently, this is even Biblical. Proverbs 21:9 “It is better to live (dwell, sit) on the corner of the housetop, than to share a house with a quarrelsome (contentious, brawling, bitter-tongued) wife.
Houses back in Bible days had flat roofs. It was actually common for men to take a mat and relax or take a nap on the rooftop. But it was exposed to all manner of weather. The point of the Proverb: a man could take his chances with wind and rain on the roof because sometimes it’s better than than the tempest within the four walls.
Now I’ve gone to meddling.
The author offers us such a drastic contrast: a bare, lonely, uncomfortable roof, lacking every convenience, compared to a spacious, warm abode-the difference: one has a noisy and quarrelsome wife with violent passions, storming language, and thundering voice.
I’ve done it. I do it. I prattle, push, peck. Our husbands are not one of our children. It’s not our responsibility to guide, direct and control them.
And it is our nature.
Our pastor has been teaching a phenomenal series on marriage and family. He unpacked Genesis 3:16 in such a life-changing way for me. The passage is referring to the results of the Fall of Man:
To the woman he said,
“I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing;
with pain you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”
I always got the childbirth part because HELLO, IT’S TRUE. ouch.
But I never understood the “desire will be for your husband….”
If you dissect the word desire it creates a word picture-not of love, but of opposition, of crouching behind a door, ready to pounce on him…
Because of the Fall, we desire to oppose our husbands.
I find the more I submit to my Heavenly Father, the more the desire to oppose my husband fades.
Pray about the point of contention, don’t nag. Place it at His feet, don’t pick. Praise your spouse, don’t partake from the cup of bitterness.
Ask yourself these three questions:
- What am I trying to control?
- Am I submitting myself to my Heavenly Father?
- Can I pray for my husband more?
Girls, let’s invite our hubbies off the roof!
by Kristen Welch, We are THAT family