My family’s transient lifestyle means I’ve said hello to crazy adventure and glorious opportunities I never imagined. It also means I’ve said goodbye to familiar gal pals as I’ve missed get-together good times and camaraderie. I’ve looked at facebook pictures of friends and mentors livin’ it up there while I’m all by my lonesome here.

With the Relevant Conference around the corner, I wonder if some of you feel this way, too? Maybe you read the twitter chatter and facebook posts about it and feel left out? I understand. I’ve never been to Blissdom or several other conferences, and it’s easy to believe I’m missing out while all those friends and mentors I admire are livin’ it up.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to attend those conferences or regretting it when you can’t. But when I choose to sit and stew in left-out feelings, the door of my heart inches more and more open ’til the unwelcome guests of ungratefulness and discontent walk right inside and make themselves at home.

I love how Emily writes of the choices we have in life:

“We have a hand in how this whole thing plays out. You cannot always control your circumstance, but you and you alone make your choices.” Emily Freeman

Maybe circumstances are such that attending this conference or that get-together is impossible this year. I can’t control that, but I can control my reaction to it. So, will I choose to stew in what I don’t have or embrace what I do have?

I re-think my circumstances and remember all the livin’ it up I can do right where I am. My pastor’s sermon from last Sunday comes to mind, the one where he describes koinonia as a hallmark of the early Acts 2 church. The Greek koine literally means “common,” and the idea behind koinonia is fellowship, community, and joint participation.

Perhaps my left-out feelings are just a symptom for what I’m really missing, which is fellowship with friends? Being and belonging in community with others? True, I moved to Colorado only a year ago and don’t have the largest in-my-neck-of-the-woods posse. But maybe I can do something to grow it? Or simply choose to fellowship with the community I have?

The folks of (in)courage have Texas-sized hearts bent on encouraging women everywhere to develop near and dear relationships. That is the motivation behind (in)RL. We cherish this community seeded online, but can you imagine the incredible fellowship potential in growing together offline?

So what if, just maybe, you signed up to host an (in)RL event? Initiated a little koinonia right where you are? Maybe you’re uncomfortable doing it in your home. No worries! Meet at a local Starbucks. Maybe you want to stay in your jammies and not go out. No worries! Invite a few gals to your home. The beauty of the conference that comes to you is you get to be the boss and choose what works for you!

Maybe just the thought of this gives you the jitters. I understand that, too. Maybe you’re more comfortable signing up to attend a meet-up rather than host. Either way, can you picture the (in)courage community holding your hand and cheering you on? Because we are. Just look at all who’ve signed up thus far! Women everywhere will be in it right alongside you!

I may not be able to fellowship at that conference, but I can fellowship in my hometown community. God placed me here at a specific time for a specific purpose. Girls, let’s stop believing the lie that tells us contentment is found in our presence anywhere other than where the Lord plans us to be. Our contentment lies in His presence where we are, wherever we are. And when we choose to believe this, we show ungratefulness and discontent the door as Christ steps in to take full residence of our hearts.

In Him, we are all (in).

Ramp-Up-to-Relevant Progressive Party!

Well before becoming an (in)courage writer, I was blown-over blessed to be the “Hope & Encouragement” sponsorship winner for Relevant. Since (in)courage is the premier go-to place for sincere, God-inspired encouragement, winning that made me bawl from the happy.

In honor of Relevant, (in)courage is hosting a progressive party with giveaways! Each day this week, one sponsorship winner will be sharing her heart as well as a giveaway opportunity. I’m kicking it off by giving away  this beautiful DaySpring God Will Be With You Mirror!

It’s mighty swoony, dontcha think?

To win it, leave a comment with an idea of how you fight the left-out feelings funk. For extra chances to win, follow @DaySpringCards or @incourage on twitter and like our facebook pages DaySpringFans and incourage. You receive one entry per twitter follow or facebook like. Just leave one comment per follow or like.

Aaaaand if you decide to register right now to host or attend an (in)RL meet-up, please say so in an additional comment for an extra opportunity to win!

Folks, that’s a total of *6* chances to win! You have until October 31st to enter!

Tomorrow, the party continues at Jennifer’s place, You are My Girls!  Jennifer’s blog is a place for women pursuing the truth of their identity – the truth of who they are in the eyes of their Father. I love this because what woman doesn’t need this reminder from time to time? And Jennifer, who leaves beautiful, heartfelt encouragement all over the blogosphere, has unique insights and wisdom on how to make this truth seep deep into your soul. Don’t just visit her place, become a member of her vibrant, growing community! Follow her on twitter here or like her facebook page here.

Kristen Strong, Chasing Blue Skies

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  • http://youaremygirls.com Jennifer

    Hi Kristen, Wow, your words here, “Girls, let’s stop believing the lie that tells us contentment is found in our presence anywhere other than where the Lord plans us to be. Our contentment lies in His presence where we are, wherever we are. And when we choose to believe this, we show ungratefulness and discontent the door as Christ steps in to take full residence of our hearts” so hit home. I can find myself struggling with this, and I am grateful for your bold encouraging reminder. Thank you so much. And I am so excited that I do get to meet you face-to-face soon! Blessings to you! ~ Jennifer

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Jennifer, I write this because I forget and need reminded, too. I’m excited to continue the progressive party at your casa tomorrow *and* to meet you face-to-face soon! Love you, Dearie!

  • http://pensieve.me Robin Dance ~ PENSIEVE

    You’re the PERFECT person to write this encouraging post, Kristen! I’m not going to Relevant, oh, how that HURTS! Because I LIKE my friends I’ve met and made through our online community.

    But perspective is key and you’ve helped shaped that.

    Have a blast, girlieQ…I know you (and a few hundred other friends) will do just that!

    <3

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Girl, you *make* the party wherever you are! Your golden heart and welcoming, dynamic spirit make every gal you love on feel like she’s your BFF. You are joy, Sweetness, and I couldn’t love you more! xoxoxo

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  • http://exceptionallyavg.com Kelly

    Thanks so much for this post! It went right along with what God and I have been working through lately. It was a real encouragement! My plan of attack for my lack of gratitude is to focus on all that I do have and meditated on Ps. 107:1 “Oh give thanks to the LORD, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever.”

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      I love the way you call it a plan of attack, Kelly. Perfect description. Thank you for that good Word this morning, too. Going in with guns blazing right alongside you…

  • http://makingajoyfulhome.blogspot.com Amy

    What an encouraging post! I really wish I could go to Relevant, but maybe next year… As I think I’ve mentioned before, I moved not all that long ago so that left-out feeling is one I fight. For me, I find that spending time with God helps me to remember that He has a reason for me being right here where I am right now and that helps a lot. Getting more involved at my new church and starting to get plugged in with tutoring students is also helping.

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Three cheers and a herky for you, Amy! Not only is your perspective gloriously encouraging, but you’re doing something to help fight the left-out feeling. Praying God’s grace makes each day a bit easier…

  • http://exceptionallyavg.com Kelly

    I follow (in)courage on Twitter.

  • http://www.butterflyjewels.wordpress.com ap

    this is where i am, i had to leave one community to join a new one where i m like really uncomfortable and i dont really like it. I have to accept though this is my new reality and realize that perhaps God allowed it because He didn’t want me to get too comfortable, or maybe He knew i would be hurt, or perhaps it was time for something new. after all im not here forever. Just passing through. I suppose you can beat the funk by listing things you have to be thankful for everyday and putting them on your mirror. Putting a scripture next to it. Or maybe finding those who need a friend and inviting them to lunch for a contentment chat, it helps keep the focus off yourself you could write in your journals and b committed to adding one person to the group each month

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Thank you for reminding me that changing communities may not be easy, but it is good because He is good. Also, *love* your gratitude and others-centered ideas! So thankful for your voice here, ap…

  • http://amyatheart.blogspot.com AmyW

    Wow I can not believe I ran across this. I am feeling so unattached these days. I do need to find a way to reach out. I have a special needs daughter so my life is around what she needs most of the day. Plus, I have a husband who is struggling majorly with depression and a major attachment problem these days. He comes home from work and is on the computer or watching tv all night and all weekend. No desire to find any friends at all. He is saved but Satan is using him and it brings him down and then it brings me down. I am learning to lean on God but I am also learning how much I need fellowship in these hardships of life. If they are only online it’s not as deep as what I need but it’s safe as I speak of my issues with my husband. Thank-you for this. And love that mirror! (-;

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      You most assuredly have a safe place here, Amy. Praying for your man *and* you to find real life connection with those who can hug you and love on you in person. So much love to you, Friend…

  • http://brenda-thethingsiponder.blogspot.com/ Brenda

    Whenever I feel left out I realize instead of feeling sorry for myself, I just need to reach out and do something kind for someone else. Or I go read my favorite blogs, because I feel such a connection to so many of my favorite bloggers that sometimes it truly is like we are sitting down having a conversation.

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      I feel the same way, Brenda. Beautiful ideas!

  • http://puttinggodfirstplace.com Ashley Wells

    I’m so super bummed about not going to Relevant, however I know that it is all in God’s plan. See, I didn’t plan to go to Relevant again this year because my husband and I thought that we would have our adopted children home with us by now. However, the time has come and they aren’t with us yet. Not only has my heart been hurting because of them not being with us yet, but now that I am missing out on Relevant again, when I could have actually gone, my heart is hurting from missing out on the opportunity to continue to grow some online relationships I have developed.

    However, I truly believe it is for the best, for some reason in God’s plans. I just keep reminding myself that God’s plan are for my good and He sees the whole picture, not just this small moment. And, I keep holding on to my excitement about our children coming home to us soon!!!

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      I’m so sorry the adoption hasn’t come through, Ashley. And not being able to go to Relevant after all? Well, that’s just insult to injury. Still, I believe right along with you the Lord *will* make His plans and purpose known, Sweet Friend. Your faith inspires, Ashley. Love you!

  • http://puttinggodfirstplace.com Ashley Wells

    I follow DaySpring on twitter.

  • Renee J

    Thank you for sharing your heart with us. God has really been speaking to me lately about how much power is in that…in the sharing and fellowship that comes with being real and honest with each other. :)
    I know the left out feeling very well and have still not figured out one solution that works. I usually call up an old friend, or write an e-mail…reach out to someone in some way. Then, if I’m honest, as a last resort sometimes, I read my Bible. There is peace and acceptance there- I don’t know why it’s not my first response.

  • http://puttinggodfirstplace.com Ashley Wells

    I follow (in)courage on twitter.

  • http://puttinggodfirstplace.com Ashley Wells

    I like DaySpring on facebook.

  • http://puttinggodfirstplace.com Ashley Wells

    I like (in)courage on facebook.

  • Renee J

    I ‘like’ incourage on facebook. :)

  • Renee J

    And I just ‘liked’ Dayspring on facebook. :)

  • http://grettajohns.blogspot.com Gretta

    While the human nature tends to make us wallow in the “left-out feeling funk”, we have to remind ourselves that God is still in control and look for the meaning and purpose behind not being able to do whatever we are feeling “left-out” of. Sometimes in life, we can learn the greatest lessons when we don’t get to participate in things our heart desires.

    Loved your words today…they are a beautiful reminder that I so needed to hear! Thanks for the chance to win too!

    bamagv at aol dot com

  • http://www.OneRoofAfrica.com Michelle@OneRoofAfrica

    I follow (in)courage on Twitter.

  • http://www.arock4him.blogspot.com Amy Hunt

    This was such a richly packed post, Kristen! Your voice is becoming so evident to me and I appreciate your voice. So. Much.

    I’m learning that before I do anything, being honest with my feelings is key. Facing the feelings shows me the lies more clearly than anything, and it helps to not cover-up with a band-aid, but truly guard my heart the way He leads me–not letting the lies take up residence. He is reminding me in this discipline to be strong in answering who I am in His eyes; no comparison, just trust in the purposes of my uniqueness. It’s hard sometimes, but always when I’m honest first the healing truly begins.

    Personally, I’m becoming more ready to receive Grace through the encouragement of others and choosing the courage to attend a conference in the coming year. It’s a big step for me. A necessary one.

    Rich blessings, Kristen, as He continues to use your encouragement to lift others up. I so much appreciate you, girl!

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      I *love* your encouragement to honestly own your feelings. And this here…”just trust in the purposes of my uniqueness.” That is golden, Amy! I trust with you in the uniqueness of His plan for each of us. LOVE.

      • http://www.arock4him.blogspot.com Amy Hunt

        Oh how I’d love to give you a hug, my friend! His Love is within us–such a gift!

  • http://grettajohns.blogspot.com Gretta

    I follow @dayspringcards on Twitter (@TheJohnsFamily)

    bamagv at aol dot com

  • http://grettajohns.blogspot.com Gretta

    I follow @incourage on Twitter (@TheJohnsFamily)

    bamagv at aol dot com

  • http://www.OneRoofAfrica.com Michelle@OneRoofAfrica

    Thanks for this. An (in)couraging word.

  • http://grettajohns.blogspot.com Gretta

    I like DaySpring on Facebook

    bamagv at aol dot com

  • http://grettajohns.blogspot.com Gretta

    I like InCourage on Facebook

    bamagv at aol dot com

  • http://www.SimplyRebekah.com Rebekah from Simply Rebekah

    Uhhhh… This is something I’m not very good at. I really struggle to fight that funk, but the best way I’ve come up with is to be honest with my husband about it. Venting my true feelings can really help.

  • http://www.SimplyRebekah.com Rebekah from Simply Rebekah

    I follow DaySpring Cards on Twitter.

  • http://www.SimplyRebekah.com Rebekah from Simply Rebekah

    I follow incourage on Twitter.

  • April

    Like you on facebook

  • April

    I like Day Spring on Facebook.

  • April

    There is not a day that goes by that I don’t have to fight the funk, and there are some days where I just give in to it. it seems to help to talk to my husband about what I am feeling despite the eye roll I occasionally get back but it’s still nice to talk about it. Thanks for posting this, helps me feel like I am not alone as I fight the funk…

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      April, you most certainly are *not* alone! So much love to you…

  • rapunzel

    I’m calling out the enemy today by recognizing that he has been trying to disconnect me from my family in Christ, especially where I go to church. The truth is that God is leading us toward perfect unity – for the glory of His kingdom. The waiting period is intense, but I’m thanking Him even for that – because I can thank Him in ALL circumstances, and because He’s training me to trust Him more. I know that out of this will grow a deeper intimacy with Him, and truer worship.

    Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.
    Ephesians 3:20-21

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Beautifully said. LOVE this.

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  • Ng

    I just remember that the Lord puts me right where he wants me – whether that is at the conference having fun and challenges – or not. He puts those who need to be there at those special get-togethers, and though I don’t know why, I need to trust that in His wisdom he knows that it was not my turn.

  • Courtney

    I visit (in)courage! The sense of community here is always uplifting and encouraging… no feelings of being left out here! :)

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Courtney, *that* is our sincerest heart’s desire. No one left out, everyone (in). So thankful for your part in this beautiful community…

  • Courtney

    Liked Dayspring on Facebook.

  • Courtney

    Already Liked incourage on Facebook! :)

  • Courtney

    Following Dayspring on Twitter!

  • Suzanne

    I think we all have opportunities to become discouraged..and almost daily…
    One way I try to fight that is to try to see these opportunities as exactly what they are…opportunities. I can choose to see it as an opportunity to do or see something positive with it or to gain something positive out of it. I can be the determining factor. It’s my choice. All else is out of my control, hence, what can I do about it? It takes work to do that, but it’s worth it, even if not easy.

    Another thing…I try to stay spiritually aware.

    I like incourage on facebook!!!

  • Courtney

    Following incourage on Twitter!

  • Courtney

    Signed up to host an (in)RL meet-up on the first day of registration! (Yes, I was excited… can you tell? LOL) Does that count as an extra entry? I REALLY like that mirror! :P

  • http://www.jennadamsblog.blogspot.com Jennifer

    I fight the “left-out feelings” by keeping my eyes on Him and remembering 1 Timothy 6:6, “But godliness with contentment is great gain.”

  • http://www.jennadamsblog.blogspot.com Jennifer

    Liked Dayspring on Facebook!

  • http://www.jennadamsblog.blogspot.com Jennifer

    I already like incourage on facebook!

  • http://www.jennadamsblog.blogspot.com Jennifer

    I’m registered!

  • http://www.jennadamsblog.blogspot.com Jennifer

    And…I’m hosting in Milledgeville, Ga!

  • http://www.gretchenknuffke.com gretchen

    I needed to read this today. I really miss having some girlfriends. We moved 9 months ago and I still don’t have any friends and it sure does get lonely some days. I just have to embrace the little ones that I am home with and treasure every minute with these little friends. Blessings.

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Oh girl, I’ve been there and bought the t-shirt. ;) Snuggle those sweet babies and know – really know – the Lord hears your heart’s cry! Praying near and dear friendships find you soon…

  • http://www.gretchenknuffke.com gretchen

    Like dayspring on facebook :)

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    Like In Courage on facebook:)

  • Jennifer

    At 65 years of age and physically disabled living with oxygen and COPD, I am not physically able to participate in many outside activities, however I find great encouragement from all of you young women through your writings of faith and love for Christ and each other. And like Sara….I’m working really hard to ‘Choose JOY! God bless you all… such promise for the future.

    P.S. I’d truly love the mirror but know it will go to the right person. :)

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Jennifer, we *treasure* you, beautiful girl! And thank you thank you thank you for reminding me of our Sara’s mantra. Choosing joy with you tonight…

  • http://www.designsbylindar.blogspot.com Linda Robison

    When I see something as wonderful as Relevant and realize I can’t go – I write it down, kind of an artsy bucket list and focus on ways to be more prepared for the next opportunity. Be more creative financially and a better steward of my funds. Mostly know that God knows my heart and that He is constantly working on my plan adding threads to the tapesty that will gently guide me back to where He wants me to be and in the end He ALWAYS has plan C when I had only thought of Plan A or B. Thank you for the opportunity.

    • http://chasingblueskies.net/ Kristen Strong

      Love that, Linda.

  • http://www.designsbylindar.blogspot.com Linda Robison

    Following Day Spring on Twitter

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    Following incourage on Twitter

  • Meghan

    We just moved to a new town and I haven’t made any friends yet. I keep running into barriers when I try to sign up to volunteer somewhere and haven’t had any bites on jobs yet. I’ve asked God to help me out with the loneliness issue and realized in church yesterday that his answer was not for me to find others, but to find Him. So I’ve been trying to spend more time asking God to be enough and less time on feeling alone.

  • http://www.chelseysjourney.com Chelsey

    “So, will I choose to stew in what I don’t have or embrace what I do have?” Wow… those words are a cold glass of water thrown in my face! Sad to say… I needed to hear that. It is so easy to “stew”…. to just throw the covers over my head and stay there… But I am realizing I have to be intentional in my living… or I’m really NOT living!

  • http://www.designsbylindar.blogspot.com Linda Robison

    I like DaySpring on Facebook!

  • http://www.designsbylindar.blogspot.com Linda Robison

    I like incourage on Facebook!!

  • http://www.chelseysjourney.com Chelsey

    I follow @DaySpringCards

  • http://www.chelseysjourney.com Chelsey

    I follow @incourage on twitter

  • http://www.chelseysjourney.com Chelsey

    I like DaySpringFans on Facebook

  • http://www.chelseysjourney.com Chelsey

    I like incourage on facebook!

  • http://inquietmemory.blogspot.com Marleah

    I fight the missing-out feeling by, frankly, avoiding the Relevant website right now. :) It only makes me dwell more on how much I wish I could be there by seeing how excited everyone is about it. And then, I remind myself that maybe I can go next year. Also, I find it helps to make sure that I’m getting involved in community things that are right here in my own town, like going to the women’s bible study group at church.

  • Jenell

    The best way for me to get out of my funk is to start counting my blessings…when I focus on what I have rather than on what I don’t have, it doesn’t take long to regain perspective and realize how very very blessed I am.

  • Jenell

    I follow incourage on facebook

  • Jenell

    I follow dayspring on facbook

  • http://www.makemeamary.com Amy @ Make me a Mary

    I’m so sad to be missing Relevant. But I get myself out of the blues by counting my blessings. The Lord allowed me to go to She Speaks this past summer, and I feel like a spoiled brat pouting about not getting to go to another conference this soon.

    ps … I’m following Dayspring now:)

  • http://www.makemeamary.com Amy @ Make me a Mary

    Following (in)courage!!!

  • http://www.makemeamary.com Amy @ Make me a Mary

    “Liked” Dayspring on FB …

  • http://www.makemeamary.com Amy @ Make me a Mary

    and “liked” (in)courage:)

  • http://www.makemeamary.com Amy @ Make me a Mary

    Did I mention I’m going to (in)RL?? Can’t wait! Blessings!

  • http://heavensreef.com Maxine Gonzalez

    Myself and my best buddy are lucky enough this year to go to RELEVANT – I don’t know what to expect for my first time and am anxious about all of it. I do know what it is like to have those left out feelings – but I try to focus on HIM and that pulls me out of my pity party. The good news for YOU is that my friend and I BOTH live here in COLORADO as well. WE MUST MEET UP WITH YOU!!! See how GOD WORKS??

  • http://www.cranberryteatime.com Rachel Lundy

    I fight the left out feelings by focusing on what I do have and all of the many blessings God has given me. I may not be able to travel to a conference, but I sure have been blessed right where I am!

  • http://www.cranberryteatime.com Rachel Lundy

    I follow (in)courage on twitter.

  • http://www.cranberryteatime.com Rachel Lundy

    I like (in)courage on facebook.

  • jamie

    left out feelings. i feel left out the most when i see other families getting together with other families. we don’t have friends that do stuff like that. well, we don’t have many friends {sad faces}. i just surround myself with family life and taking care of our home that i love so much. that’s how i do it…

  • http://www.cranberryteatime.com Rachel Lundy

    I follow DaySpringCards on twitter.

  • http://www.cranberryteatime.com Rachel Lundy

    I like DaySpring on facebook.

    Thanks so much for this great giveaway!

  • beth

    I have been reading a great deal by and about Bowlby’s theories (psychology having to do with attachment). Whether a Christian agrees with Bowlby or not, he and his collegues have interesting theories. It includes descriptions of what a secure attachment looks like and what insecure attachment looks like. He calls the insecure anxious attachment and another avoidant attachment. Characteristics of this avoidant style tend toward self- reliance, feeling left out, inability to get close, trouble revealing their thoughts/needs…
    Armed with this information and after long years of wondering why I felt so alone so much of the time, I am taking baby steps to learn how to be close and let others in. I have begun to ask for help from my husband and accept the help he offers. I don’t mean help with the laundry, but things like accepting his offer to hold me. Accepting his offer to go for a walk. Letting him know when things in my inner world are off kilter. None of this am I very good at- i have to stop, process and try to figure out what I’m feeling and express it, then recieve his offers without dismissing my inner world or his offers. For a self-reliant, smart woman this is hard. But for a broken, lonely, mistrustful little girl who lives in me, it is critical.

  • http://penniesandblessings.com Mandy

    Aww, sweet Kristen! You were the perfect one for this opening post!! You encourage my heart so much! And yes, to the transient lifestyle {aka military life}, and yes, to the feeling slightly left out at times, and YES, to closing the door on discontentment and ungratefulness! I’m so super thankful for this community and all the fabulous prayer warriors walking along side me! Much love, and see you SOON!! :)

  • Janet

    Keep your eyes not on what your missing but on Jesus.

  • http://www.leighkramer.com HopefulLeigh

    When a particular circumstance makes me feel left out, I try to remember all the times I’ve been included, as well as all the people who love me. Then I pick up the phone and call someone, either to catch up or to make plans of our own.

  • http://www.CreeksideMinistries.blogspot.com Linda Stoll

    LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that mirror!

    And love that we get to make the choice how we’ll respond when life just doesn’t seem fair, or things aren’t working out the way I hoped they would, or everyone gets to go play and I end up left behind.

    Looking back, it was exactly those times when I was feeling left out or left behind that I was in a place of sweet vulnerability to the attentions and love of my heavenly Father, who was waiting for me all along … while I was so very busy, busy with my oh-so-important plans …

  • Chris

    Great post….something every single person struggles with, no doubt. When I feel alone, or feel disconnected one of the things I might try is to repeat, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus….until the uneasiness subsides. It works for me…..

  • Becky J.

    One of the best ways to beat the blues is to begin to sing to the Lord as “He inhabits the praises of His people”..then count some blessings-like having food to eat and a place to sleep and then do something kind for someone less fortunate around you- the blues have to beat it then!! :) Blessings, Becky J.

  • Tiffany

    i am fighting with these feelings today more than i have in a very long time. I put on worship music to get my mind off it and onto the most important.

  • Tiffany

    i am registered to attend an (in)RL event.

  • Tiffany

    I follow DaySpringCards on Twitter

  • Tiffany

    I follow (in)courage on Twitter

  • Tiffany

    I like DaySpring on Facebook

  • Tiffany

    i like (in)courage on Facebook

  • Cindy

    When I feel left out I find something to do that lifts my spirits and soon I forget about the other stuff.

  • Suzanne G.

    I keep in God’s word and follow wonderful communities and blogs such as (in)courage:) This definitely keeps my cup filled up with joy so I can pour that back into my family, which by the way, is spread all over the country at the moment:(

  • Suzanne G.

    Liked (in)courage on FB!

  • http://www.lindseyvanniekerk.blogspot.com Lindsey van Niekerk

    Oh, man! I used to think I had a good handle on that funky-left-out-feeling, but with LIFE JUNK the past couple of years, it has threatened to overwhelm me again. But God is doing a RE-newal in me…and think I am really glad…because I am changing my mindset, my attitude, my heart and learning to connect where I can and give the best that I can for THAT day, THAT moment.

    Well…I am trying anyway….thankful for His grace.

  • http://www.lindseyvanniekerk.blogspot.com Lindsey van Niekerk

    I follow DaySpring on Twitter

  • http://www.lindseyvanniekerk.blogspot.com Lindsey van Niekerk

    I follow {in}courage on Twitter

  • http://www.lindseyvanniekerk.blogspot.com Lindsey van Niekerk

    I like DaySpring on Facebook.

  • http://www.scrappykitkat.blogspot.com Kathy

    The Bible college my hubby and I went to just had it’s reunion this past weekend. It’s something they only do every 5 yrs but it’s also halfway across the country so there was no way we could afford to go. Instead of allowing myself to feel down in the dumps I chose to have a fun weekend with family and friends and be thankful that I have so many wonderful family and friends close by that I can enjoy. =)
    kathy k.

  • http://www.lindseyvanniekerk.blogspot.com Lindsey van Niekerk

    I like {in}courage on Facebook

  • Lynn Bass

    I cannot even remember how or when I found incourage though I know Jesus had a lot to do with it. I am always amazed at how I feel left out even at 47 so I read the blogs at incourage which helps and I pray and remind myself that God is with me no matter what.

  • Olivia

    After throwing myself a pity party – which is never any fun, since I’m the only one who shows up, I try to do something special for myself! A rare hot bubble bath with candles and Bocceli playing in the background, my favorite book and/or my journal. It’s also a great opportunity to pull out those great Bath and Body works lotions I don’t use often enough!

  • Olivia

    I “like” DaySpring on FB

  • Olivia

    I “like” incourage on FB

  • Olivia

    I am registered for {in}RL

  • Connie Lutz

    Read the Bible!

  • Olivia

    I’m hosting an {in}RL meet-up in my home!
    Eeep! I’m so excited! :D

  • Connie Lutz

    I liked Dayspring on fb!

  • Connie Lutz

    I like inCourage on FB.

  • http://rhondisrosecoloredglasses.blogspot.com/ Rhondi

    I will call up someone and invite them for tea. I figure if I am feeling like I’m missing out , probably someone I know is too.

  • http://rhondisrosecoloredglasses.blogspot.com/ Rhondi

    I’m already signed up for the (in)courage event

  • http://rhondisrosecoloredglasses.blogspot.com/ Rhondi

    Signed up to follow on twitter

  • http://rhondisrosecoloredglasses.blogspot.com/ Rhondi

    I LIKE you on Facebook

  • http://rhondisrosecoloredglasses.blogspot.com/ Rhondi

    For one more chance to win I also now like DAYSPRING on Facebook :)

  • Kandra

    After a lifetime of feeling left out and isolated,even in a crowded room, I have found that starting each day with God and focusing on loving and supporting others, I can find contentment. Thanks for this site, it’s amazing :)

  • Pamela Gore

    I normally get your posts on Facebook, but this morning I went straight to your link. Isn’t it ‘funny’ how God works?! Last week I was feeling pretty lonely and disconnected from friends, family, church. I love my church! Good worship and praise, good music, great teaching from the Word… yet I felt like I was standing around looking for someone to talk to, visit with, Connect with.
    I started making it a habit long ago to reach out to others, because as human beings, we tend to be similar in feeling awkward or ‘new’, and there is often anxiety about fitting in. We all want to– and NEED– to be accepted, welcomed.
    However, recently, it was taking me a little time to get over mySelf, :), and I felt isolated; left out. I don’t have a ‘circle of friends’ or family that attend there, and I mostly link up with people from church on FB. I find that when I get to church: everyone already HAS someone to talk to, sit with, kids to take care of, etc.

    It came down to me and God. No problem. Me an’ Him do very Well together!
    Yet He WANTS us to interact with each other as believers in Jesus, and He wants us to share in the “unity of the faith”!
    SO, I had to be willing to let go of my self-focus, get my focus back on God and others.
    I did some talking to my Self, too! I started out reading David’s Psalms and how miserable he was in his circumstances, but by the end of his discourse he was praising and thanking GOD! HE had plenty of reason to feel sorry for himself! It seems to me that as David wrote his songs or hymns, that he was processing his FEELINGS at the same time until he came around to where HIS focus needed to be, and to what was True.
    I had to look myself in the eye, in the mirror, and tell myself that I wasn’t going to ‘go there!’ (self-pity) and that the Lord loves me, accepts me, and Longs for me to spend time with Him, and in His Word. HE is my source of love and security, whatever the state of my relationships in this life are.
    Choice. I make the choice about what I’m going to orient myself to each day. “Set your mind on Christ; on things above. ” “Renew your mind…” “if anything is pure, lovely, of good-report…think on these things.” [THINK on THESE!] “In everything, let your requests be made known to God, with prayer and supplication…” [in EVERYTHING.] “..casting down every [vain imagination] thing that exalts itself above the name of Christ.” [EVERY THING? YES.]
    I look in that mirror of the Word of God, and I receive the truth, allowing it to change me so that I can look in the mirror of self-focus, and TELL mySelf the TRUTH.
    God makes the changes I am willing to ask Him and allow Him to make, in me.
    ♫ “…and I am changed, in the presence of a Holy God.” ♫ [wonderful song!]

    May the Lord Bless and keep each one of you in the faith, always looking forward toward those changes!

    Love in Jesus,
    pam ♥

  • Jerry

    It is so hard to reveal even a small amount of yourself when inferiority and hurt has been your experience. There are so many OTHER things that interfere with taking that step to break out and make new friends and acquaintances. Your blog is certainly what it is called ( In)Courage. Thanks!! -your father seemed surprised that I was following your blog when I visited with him at that sweet little fellows 3rd birthday party!

  • http://2sweetthings.blogspot.com Mandy

    When I feel left out I remind (force) myself to remember what I have. The awesome things in my life, the amazing church community we are a part of, and the amazing opportunities I have every day… plus when I’m really wanting to do something, I remind myself that on a daily basis I feel too busy to even fit in everything already on my plate! =)

  • http://2sweetthings.blogspot.com Mandy

    I like incourage on FB!

  • http://2sweetthings.blogspot.com Mandy

    I also follow (in)courage on twitter (I’m @2sweetthings)

  • http://wildoptimisminoviedo.blogspot.com/ PJ

    I come back here and surf around a little when I need to be encouraged :)

  • http://gainingmomentum.benschoter.info/ Melody

    I love this mirror!
    I moved 4 years ago and at first was very lonely for friendship. I used the opportunity to try some new things, I joined a bible study, a MOPS group, an online MeetUp group, we found a church home, etc. Not all of these groups stuck, but I branched out and did some things I normally wouldn’t have done. I’m so glad I did- I have med the best friends here (they came from our church) and I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

  • http://gainingmomentum.benschoter.info/ Melody

    I like (in)courage on fb!

  • http://www.imperfectpeople.net Katie @ Imperfect People

    Signed up to host an inRL confrence when you first announced it. I am so excited! I fight theleft out feelings by remembering everyone feels that way at some time!

  • sheila

    Wow, yeah, hosting an inRL conferences scares me too much, however the fact that I’ve been whining about my situation not being able to attend the WOF conferenece in a few weeks, either though everything seemed to line up perfectly this year, perhaps I should pray about it first. I think I will, pray about it. Thanks for the opportunity to enter IN. In God’s Love, sheila

  • Chelsea H. K.

    I try to remember where I do.

  • http://rcspcss8.blogspot.com Reese

    Wonderful words of Wisdom, Kristen. I wish you still lived in Oklahoma. :)

  • http://cantelmofamily.blogspot.com Melanie Cantelmo

    Thanks for sharing!! I can’t remember if I posted or not. But great message. I am following on twitter.

  • Fredi McAndrew

    I had more trouble with feeling left out earlier in my life but I still struggle with it at times now. The Lord is teaching me to be dependent on His presence in my life and less on being with people. I am talking about in the area of fitting in with groups of people not in fellowship. We are highly blessed to have a pastor who discourages clicks in our congregation. Everyone is encouraged to included everyone.

  • Amy

    I make myself get out of bed, get ready, go to church, and talk to people…even when I do not want to do so. God’s Word is encouraging and working and changing me even if I’m still trying to find a community there.

  • http://thoughtsnwhatnots.blogspot.com LeAnna

    I’ve missed out on the wedding AND the birth of my BFF’s first baby all within a years time. Now, as we are waiting for my Grandfather to pass (he has Hodgkin’s) I’ve been tied to home, with good reason. And still, I’ve fought that left out feeling. But, God knows all things, and I have to remind myself of that. In turn, I can rest in the peace that comes from being where I need to be, in the timing that is divinely appointed. I rather be in that place, then anywhere else. Such a timely post for me to read today. Thank you.

  • http://www.crumbsfromhistable.com tinuviel

    My heart goes out to Leanna above (133). I have missed the same kinds of big events for unavoidable reasons, and it’s hard. Leanna, you have such a good, faithful attitude in the losses! May God comfort you and reassure you in a personal, tangible way today that you are right where He wants you.

    As to how I fight the left-out feelings funk, the best medicine I’ve found is to look around and reach out to someone else who might be feeling the same way. Perhaps an aging relative or friend needs a phone call or there’s someone who comes to mind I could encourage with a card. As a mentor told me once that an old-fashioned cure for the blues (not, mind you, full-scale clinical depression) was, “Put on your hat and help somebody else.”

  • http://laughingfamily.blogspot.com tarena

    that is a beautiful mirror!
    scripture always seems to get my eyes focused on the truth…knowing how much my savior loves me does a lot!

  • Charity L.

    As a senior pastor’s wife, I often feel left out by other women. But I know that the Lord will fulfill my every need and without fail, He does faithfully every time. I go to Him for comfort and boldness to step out and be vulnerable with other women and putting myself out there to build and maintain relationships.

  • Charity L.

    I like (in)courage on Facebook.

  • Charity L.

    I follow (in)courage on Twitter.

  • Betsy

    WOW!!!! This is so needed! I fight this a lot! Even though we have lived here for more than 10yrs, its still hard! Thanks, I really needed to hear these words. To fight these feelings I, too enjoy reading my favorite blog (Incourage) and right now I am loving listening/watching the book club do What Women Fear by Angie!

  • http://timzladee@carolina.rr.com Denise Y

    When I feel “out of it”….I like to go out to a store (like Walmart) and do stuff for others….give someone a hello/smile……leave coupons by products like the coupon fairy…..just reach out to others because it takes my mind off ME!

  • Lacey C.

    I do feel “left out” a lot, but it always gets my focus back in the right place when I dwell on the fact that I am God’s creation: cared for, planned for, loved, treasured, redeemed. How could I think I know better than my Master where I am supposed to be or what I am supposed to be doing? That gets my focus off of ME!

  • http://thestollcrew.blogspot.com shana

    the mirror is beautiful!
    i combat my left out feelings with coffee. it does wonders for many things. otherwise i try to set up a girls night out or just call a friend and chat.
    thanks,
    shana

  • http://www.aholyexperience.com Ann Voskamp

    I just love your heart, Kristen.

    Thank you.

  • http://thegirlfriendgap.blogspot.com janita

    I fight the left out feeling by finding ways to use my gifts to bless others And stay connected to God making sure I’m reading my bible consistently. He never leaves me lonely :) . going for a walk and getting some fresh air also helps lift me from the funk .
    this is a beautiful mirror. thank you for a chance to win. appreciate your words of encouragement. Janita

  • http://hopeandwriting.blogspot.com Maxine

    I am so excited about the (in)RL conference. I can’t handle the physical or financial part of a regular conference, so being able to attend this one is such a point of excitement for me. I’ve already signed up and brought 3 friends with me. I reall am so looking forward to it! Yep, that’s all I had to say :).

  • Adella

    I just remember that this too shall pass. It’s all a season.

  • http://www.staceydawnimages.com/ Stacey Dawn

    I do my best to reach out to someone else when I feel left out… it starts the connectedness again!!

  • http://www.staceydawnimages.com/ Stacey Dawn

    I liked DaySpring on Facebook

  • http://www.staceydawnimages.com/ Stacey Dawn

    I liked (in)courage on facebook long ago, too!

  • hippie4ever

    I talk to my husband, its great that I always move with my best friend :) Eat DARK, DARK chocolate and complain…errr…pray to God :)

  • Beth B.

    Every time I start to feel left out and lonely, I go to God and tell Him everything I’m going through. He gives me a peace that no other relationship here on earth could ever provide.

  • http://mommadaybyday.blogspot.com Christina Gilliland

    This struggle has long been one of my biggest to fight-fear of having no friends, fear of feeling left out. This all started back in Jr. High due to not being in the field hockey team while all my friends were. I was in the “un cool” volleyball team instead :) As a result, I was left out of numerous sleepovers and parties. That started a fear that has grown to be something I have to fight or it will take residence in my life.

    I guess one way I fight the fear and loneliness is thinking about someone I don’t know that well and pursuing that relationship. Instead of focusing on the friends I wish I could see more, I can focus on the women I admire from afar but don’t know that well. Some of my best friendships in my new residence of a year and a half, have come from the people I didn’t start out knowing as well. I have loved gaining those kinds of friendships!

    But overall, I have come to accept that my current phase of life does not call for lots of social gatherings and friends oozing out of my pores. I am called to pour into my young kids and to continue to slowly reach out to those in my community. It’s simple really, but somehow I think its how God wanted it :)

    P.S. I am going to one of those cool events though-Relevant in little over a week!!

  • http://mommadaybyday.blogspot.com Christina Gilliland

    I’m also a follower on Twitter

  • http://mommadaybyday.blogspot.com Christina Gilliland

    I am also a follower on facebook too :)

  • Karen

    Facebook

  • K.O.

    I fight the funk by reading inspirational blogs, and by surrounding myself with people that love me.

  • K.O.

    I like Dayspring on fb.

  • K.O.

    I like incourage on fb.

  • http://betty-wiseheartedwomen.blogspot.com Betty Draper

    WE are in this transit stage that hinders me from taking part on so much with you incourage ladies and the ladies at our church…even with the relationships i am developing in our future home in California. So very grateful though I can still gleam from incourage which is about all i do. I would love to win that great looking mirror since we are totally starting from scratch in California…..so here is my one entry.

    When I feel left out I remind my self God has a better plan for me and is sharpening my patience skills…oh do i need them. I want to be a part of everything….a very social person….but He is asking me to talk to Him more then anytime before…so I listen and write, listen and write…listen, listen…

  • Diane N

    I constantly battle the” left-out” feelings. But I just push through it, if there’s an event or activity that sounds remotely interesting to me, I sign up for it. Of course, that’s the easy part, then I have to push thru the negative thoughts of the coulda,shoulda, what-ifs of being left out. But if I don’t overthink it, push thru those feelings and like Nike…..just do it. Most of the time, I get blessed and have a great time of NOT being left out.

  • http://mistysmornings.blogspot.com Misty

    When I am feeling a little left out I call my best friends who happen to live far away. Being reminded that those who know me best still love me can overcome those poor me feelings.

  • ~VA~

    I often feel left out because I really struggle socially which means I have trouble making friends and end up being forgotten a lot…I tend to deal with those feelings by hanging out on facebook–it doesn’t always work though…especially when the feelings come more frequently and nothing has happened since last log-in and I realize I’ve written 20 status updates in one day (true story…and it’s happened more than once)

  • Rebecca

    I’m so thankful for you wonderful words. I so appreciate you sharing your heart with so many of us. It’s truly a blessing to receive your emails. I’m excited to be following you now on facebook. God bless

  • Rebecca

    I’m following (in)courage on facebook. What an awesome way to share our hearts and feelings. God comforts us to know that we are never alone!

  • Jennifer

    When I get that rotten “left out” feeling …..I just pray that I could see Jesus
    a little more clearly that day. I fix my eyes on The One that never leaves us
    alone. And I preach The Gospel to my self.
    I come here for encouagement and comraderie, but try to remind myself
    to encourage myself with God’s Word.

  • Becki Woodsmall

    Well, this post was made just for me! I, too, struggle with being left out. Let me explain, I have lots of great friends and am active in my church. However, I am an empty nester of 5 children. My struggle is that they have left their momma behind :( I still long for relationship with them. I would love to have just a “hey, momma” from them every now and then. Jesus gently nudges me and let’s me know that I am accepted by Him and need to put Him first! I’ve actively been doing that and hope the rest will fall in line. Maybe my kiddos will turn the corner and see they still need me but I know my Saviour takes first place in my life and I’ve given my children roots and wings. It’s time to let them fly!!

  • http://www.dominicandkristin.blogspot.com Kristin Smith

    Thank you for this post. I struggle with feeling left out esp. now that I am working FT from my home and don’t get to see “people” all day long. I think for me I have to find other ways toi have fellowship even if they aren’t in the traditional ways I would like.

  • http://www.dominicandkristin.blogspot.com Kristin Smith

    I follow Dayspringcards on Twitter

  • http://www.dominicandkristin.blogspot.com Kristin Smith

    I follow (in)courage on Twitter

  • http://www.dominicandkristin.blogspot.com Kristin Smith

    I follow (in)courage on FB as well

  • http://www.dominicandkristin.blogspot.com Kristin Smith

    I like Dayspring on FB also!

  • Amy Pitman

    I fight feeling left out by keeping my eyes on God. That may sound cliche’, but when I do that, He reminds me that he always has my best interest in mind. He knows the plans He has for me and they are awesome plans–nothing to hurt me. I try to think that God is “saving” me from something, whether it be physical, mental, or maybe even a missed opportunity. I don’t mind as much being left out anymore. I do LOVE to hear the updates on how it went, though! Haha! Love the mirror…..I already have the perfect spot for it! Thanks for your blog post.

  • Nanci D

    Sometimes it is so much easier to not do something. We moved to South Dakota 3 years ago and I so struggled with making new friends. I was in an auto accident so had a hard time getting around, didn’t like the church we were going to, did not live in the same community that my kids went to school – so I just felt so out of it. And, where to start? I didn’t have a clue. I prayed and prayed. Then….there was this lady mowing her lawn down the street and I decided to walk over there. Wow! What a blessing. Now we get together once a week and talk. I had to just step out of my comfort zone and DO something. I still have a ways to go but at least it is a start. Thanks for your devotion. Attitude is my choice. :-)

  • Nanci D

    I’m a follower on fb for DaySpring

  • Nanci D

    I’m a follower on fb for (in)courage. :-)

  • http://rachmiller4011@yahoo.com annette

    when I feel left out…if I have strength, I try to find someone who is alone and reach out to them. love this!

  • lauren

    Very important topic… I think all women long for acceptance, but don’t always open our hearts up to it. One way I fight that feeling is to try to concentrate on what I do have… a wonderful family, a good job, a hometown church who has members I can always count on.

  • jules

    When I’m feeling the left out blues, I remember that the last place God called me to be was as a wife to my Husband. I also will go sit on the deck of a dear, sweet friend and contemplate my place in the world, and what God wants of me at this point in time.

  • http://www.psalm127mom.blogspot.com jodie

    I’ve always struggled with self-esteem and feeling left out. Satan knows that is a struggle for me, so he plays on it often.For the longest time I used self-pity as my way of dealing with it, but am learning each day now how to think of others before myself. I try to not focus on what I’m feeling left out on, but instead of how to include others along with me. I can only learn this from Christ’s example. For that very reason I’m considering hosting an (in)RL event for the conference in my home. Just today I shared the video link and emailed some friends to share the (in)courage community with them and see if they’d be interested in attending with me.

  • http://www.psalm127mom.blogspot.com jodie

    i ‘liked’ Dayspring on facebook!

  • http://www.psalm127mom.blogspot.com jodie

    i ‘liked’ (in)courage on facebook-and not just for this giveaway-i was already wanting to find them on facebook anyway because i am LOVING this new found site and community!

  • http://www.sixbrickshigh.com Jamie @ Six Bricks High

    Yes, you said it right! Contentment lies in His presence. Love your encouraging heart! Now I’m off to check and make sure I’m a fan and a follower, ’cause that mirror is delightful.

  • http://www.sixbrickshigh.com Jamie @ Six Bricks High

    Oh and I’m excited to be hosting an (in)RL meet-up :)

  • http://www.sixbrickshigh.com Jamie @ Six Bricks High

    I proudly follow @incourage on Twitter!

  • http://www.sixbrickshigh.com Jamie @ Six Bricks High

    I follow @dayspringcards on twitter :)

  • http://www.sixbrickshigh.com Jamie @ Six Bricks High

    I’m a fan of incourage on facebook!

  • http://www.sixbrickshigh.com Jamie @ Six Bricks High

    I’m a facebook DaySpring fan too :)

  • Heidi

    I follow Dayspring on FB

  • Heidi

    I follow (in)courage on FB

  • Heidi

    Signed up to attend an (in)RL meet-up back when it was announced:)

  • http://Www.elmerandcricket.blogspot.com Lisa H

    When I start to get that left-out feeling, I fight it by reaching out to others. Inviting a new friend over for coffee or a young mom to meet at the park does wonders for a bad attitude. :)

  • Lisa Buchanan

    Signed up to attend an (in)RL meet-up back when it was announced:)

  • Lisa Buchanan

    I follow (in)courage on FB

  • Lisa Buchanan

    I am a dayspring facebook fan!

  • Lisa Buchanan

    I hate that left out feeling and wish that I handled it better….lately I am praying about it and my part in it!

  • http://www.bringingyoumorethanasong.blogspot.com Jessica Mumford

    That mirror is gorgeous and it would be perfect for our (future adopted) little girl’s room!

    I have often felt left out in life….and the sad thing is, two of my closest friends told me when they first met me, I seemed ‘stuck up’….really, I was just feeling left out! I never knew why people didn’t talk to me/include me. But, now I know that I just need to suck it up, get out of my little box, and join myself into the conversation. Ask questions. Get to know people. It works. :)

  • JHollyhock (aka Jennifer)

    I try to remember that there are seasons of life and while this may be true of this season the next one will probably hold something different.

  • JHollyhock (aka Jennifer)

    follow @DaySpringCards on twitter

  • JHollyhock (aka Jennifer)

    follow @incourage on twitter

  • JHollyhock (aka Jennifer)

    Like DaySpringFans on FB

  • JHollyhock (aka Jennifer)

    Like incourage on FB

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  • ellen

    I am stay at home ‘mom’ to our five grandchildren we are raising
    This makes me not really fit with women my age or the other mothers
    of my kids
    So i sometimes feel left out
    I usually spend fun time with the kids
    Or find something to read (my favorite thing to do)
    I am new to this blog reading thing and greatly enjoy reading yours
    God bless you

  • Traci R

    My “left out” feelings come when I am down heartened. I find myself comparing my life to my friends and their outings or activities become the disappointments in my life. Honestly I do soak them in and review where I went wrong in my life that I can’t have the spontaneity and spirit they have. When I notice this happening I host a Girl Night Out or get together at my house so surround me in their friendship. I also talk to my husband and we reconnect to make us both feel like one again.
    God Bless and thank you for your encouraging blog!

  • Kristin

    What a powerful reminder Kristen! I was on the side lines (a.k.a. Following on twitter) of Relevant last year and living in a new state but God met me powerfully in my need to connect with women and I am thankful He know best.

  • Deanna

    Think about all of the blessings that I do have.

  • http://www.wanibug.blogspot.com Wani

    wow – I can’t believe that your topic is the “left-out-funk”… I have totally been there lately. I am taking action and making girls nights happen. I’m tired of being out of the loop so I’m making my own loop! I miss my girlfriends!

  • Jeannie S

    I fight the left out feelings by telling myself that even if I don’t have a group of women to be in community with I have the Lord and He is the best friend I could ask for.
    Sweet Blessings.

  • http://makeroomfor.blogspot.com/ Tracey

    Oh goodness, I remember those feelings well. I don’t get them near as often now that I have a husband and family I would rather be with than anyone else. If they do creep in I try to remember that not all things are intended for ME.

  • http://www.somuchshoutingsomuchlaughter.com suzannah {so much shouting, so much laughter}

    oh, i know those left out feelings well. i try to stop sulking and look for ways to reach out and practice hospitality.

  • http://www.somuchshoutingsomuchlaughter.com suzannah {so much shouting, so much laughter}

    i follow incourage on twitter @ShoutLaughLove

  • http://www.somuchshoutingsomuchlaughter.com suzannah {so much shouting, so much laughter}

    and i follow dayspringcards, too.

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  • http://www.adustyframe.com Lizzie

    Well, how I fight the left out funk? Keep busy–do something else I really enjoy–ask the Lord to help me be content where I am–or like my sister says? “Suck it up cupcake”
    Thanks for entering me:)

  • Sharon O

    I am going to change my feelings of being left out by praying for those who are going. It will be wonderful and life changing perhaps for some so I can pray they get blessed and have a wonderful time of learning and of refreshment.

  • http://www.binaspad.net Bina

    I work on my “left out” feelings by going to God. As “trite” as that sounds, I have found how He can work to the root of my feelings and show me the reality… That, and I live with five amazing kids and a great husband…kinda hard to stay down too long :)

  • http://www.binaspad.net Bina

    I follow @DaySpringCards and @incourage on Twitter.

    @binaspad

  • http://outofmyallegedmind.blogspot.com Nancy

    I have to admit, sometimes I allow myself to slide into the felling left-out funk. I think it’s important to acknowledge that it’s something I’m allowing myself to do. Then I can check myself and choose to do something else. Sometimes it’s watching a favorite old move, sometimes it’s phoning a friend; sometimes it’s cleaning out a junk drawer or a closet I haven’t had time to get to, and delighting in the result. It helps to re-think the left behind feeling and learn to accept it as a gift of time for something else.

  • http://outofmyallegedmind.blogspot.com Nancy

    Following (in)courage on Twitter.

  • http://www.titus2homemaker.com Rachel Ramey

    Help! I got lost along the way! Myra’s blog (http://casabellaproject.com/) doesn’t seem to have any posts newer than August, so I can’t find the Ramp-Up-To-Relevant page to move forward to the next blog. :( Do you know if there’s a master list or something somewhere?

  • http://www.titus2homemaker.com Rachel Ramey

    Never mind; I found it. It should be at: myblessedlife.net

  • Kyla

    I live in rural NE on a farm. My husband works full time in town and part time on the farm. Two of my girls are in school, 7th grade and Kindergarten. My youngest daughter, age 4 1/2, is at home with me. When I get feeling lonely and issolated I remember that staying home full time is CHOICE that I GET to make . . . so many moms don’t get to make the same choice. GOD is sufficient for me and HE provides for my needs. So, when I am lonely or feeling left out, I connect via email or FB or phone with my friends. And, I wait for the bus to roll up in the driveway, when all 3 girls are home, it is anything but quiet around here :-)

  • Beth

    I like Dayspring on Facebook.

  • Beth

    I also like ‘incourage’ on Facebook.

  • Beth

    When I am feeling left out, I make a phone call or go visit someone, or sometimes just plow into my housework, because the main thing is to get “me” off my mind.

  • Jan

    Reading a good book…especially God’s word helps me to put things in perspective.

  • http://themudandmire.blogspot.com Karen

    I am following @DaySpringCards on twitter.

    @threelogans

  • http://themudandmire.blogspot.com Karen

    I am following @incourage on twitter.

    @threelogans

  • http://themudandmire.blogspot.com Karen

    I liked facebook page DaySpringFans

    facebook.com/mrskarenlogan

  • http://themudandmire.blogspot.com Karen

    I like ‘incourage’ on Facebook.

    facebook.com/mrskarenlogan

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  • http://sarahcomley.blogspot.com Sarah Comley Caldwell

    I take a moment to be grateful for the things I am included in!
    (I also follow incourage on twitter) (on twitter I’m sarahsmile35)