I get asked a lot about who I had in mind when I wrote Graceful {For Young Women}. Rather than give you a description of the girl I had in mind, I want to offer you 10 ways to know if your teen girl might need to read Graceful. Maybe I wrote it for her?

1. If she is a first-born child or has the typical characteristics of a first-born (responsible, dependable, organized), then she might need to read Graceful. (I’m not a first-born, but play one in real life).

2. If she loses sleep because of worry about school, homework, or grades then she might need to read Graceful.

3. If she thinks her real life won’t start until she finishes high school, then she might need to read Graceful.

4. If she seems overly concerned with the opinions of others, then she might need to read Graceful.

5. If she thinks pleasing God is more important than trusting God, then she might need to read Graceful.

6. If she is a leader at school, in her youth group, and among her peers but tends to keep her problems and emotions to herself, then she might need to read Graceful.

7. If she is a rule-follower who sees all the world in black and white, then she might need to read Graceful.

8. If she is always the “good influence” in all of her peer groups, then she might need to read Graceful.

9.  If she seems exhausted, overwhelmed, or distant, than she might need to read Graceful.

10. If she watches the video below and gets teary around minute 2:07, then she might need to read Graceful. (but she can’t skip to 2:07 – she has to watch the whole thing).

If you are a high school girl, have a high school girl, or lead a small group of high school girls, here are some free resources that might be of help or encouragement to you as you consider reading or leading a small group through Graceful.

Free Small Group Leader Guide

Six-week guide for small group leaders to lead girls through the book. Complete with questions, examples and illustration suggestions.

Flyer for Youth Pastors

Like what you know about Graceful so far? Want to help spread the word? Download or forward this flyer to the youth leaders or pastor at your church.

Would love to hear from you today! Have you read the book on your own or with a group? What was your experience?

Do you have any questions for me? I’m (mostly) willing to answer anything.


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  • http://www.annieblogs.com Jennifer Adams

    You just described me perfectly. Oy. I guess that makes me a good candidate to lead a Graceful Bible Study? I actually recently moved to a new church with little in place for youth. I think I will get a group together for this book. Can’t wait!

  • http://redemptionsbeauty.com Shelly Miller

    Yikes, 8 out of 10. She needs it. Thanks for this Emily. I tried to get her to read Grace for the Good Girl with me in the summer but she was too busy being one. So thankful you’ve written a book just for her at this season of life. Good Christmas gift.

  • Amy Donaldson

    Looks terrific and I want to help promote it…but where is the video?!

    • http://www.chattingatthesky.com emily freeman

      oh no! Can you not see the video? It’s showing up for me, right under number 10 – anyone else having trouble seeing the video?

      • Kat

        It didn’t show up in the e-mail, but I found it at the site. Amy, did you try clicking to load the page at the web site? Seems like the embedded thingys don’t get through sometimes. BTW, great video, Emily! Will show dd right after we finish physics, lol.

  • http://www.tptrust.org Jo Parsons

    Wow. I see them all in my 10 year old and I see them all in me. I have praying the last couple of years that the things of habit and “learnt” religion would be cut off in my generation and not passed on to her. I am nearly 40 and they have tied me up. He is setting me free. I am going to trust it for her too. Thank you so much Emily.

  • Linda Rose

    I love the title and topic of your book — my question is … would the book apply to or work for beyond-high-school-age women as well? I’m considerably beyond those years but the quiz describes me … and many others I know.

    • http://www.chattingatthesky.com emily freeman

      Sure would.

      Or you could just read Grace for the Good Girl – the book I wrote for everyone else (meaning older than high school).

      Although I know several women who have read the teen one and really enjoyed it.

  • http://29lincolnavenue.com Stacey

    And if you are a teen times by about 3, and all of these apply to you, you might need to read it, too.

    Just sayin. I did. Loved it.

  • Aubrey R

    I want to thank you so much for giving the preview chapters and the other freebies today. I am your sister in Christ, and your sister in being a Good Girl, so I swallowed up your first book. My daughter is so, so not like me in 100 ways (she’s 13) that I didn’t really plan to get this book for her. But because of the preview, I downloaded the chapters for her and asked her to read them and let me know if she’d be interested in the book. She was! I’m excited to give her this perspective. Thank you for all you do, and for helping out a mama in the process!

  • ~va~

    Love the video!

  • Kristi Trotter

    Love this! Anyone know of a book that would match for a boy? My oldest is a boy, fits similar description. ;)

  • Jessi

    I participated in this book study this past summer with my church youth group and absolutely loved it. I am hoping to use this material in a bible/book study for my freshman dorm. Any advice in modifying the material to fit a college student’s life? I feel like a good portion of the material is still very applicable to college students as well or any age women for the matter.