I come from a long line of strong women. Independent. Self-sufficient. Smart. Savvy. Talented. And did I mention independent? Yep. That’s us. Collectively, we’ve been through a lot, and our strength has served us well. We can accomplish quite a bit, all by ourselves. We put our minds to it, we focus, we tighten our belts, we put our shoulders to the wheel. We make things happen.
We are a force to be reckoned with.
And therein lies the problem. At least for me. Because all of that independence and focus? It’s tricky. The truth is there really is a lot I can get done — all by myself. I set my mind to it and before I know it, I think my strength and the strength of all those women who came before me is the only thing I need. I take a look at the track record, and I start patting myself on my own back, checking stuff off my to-do list, and tacking up gold stars on my chore chart. I start to think there’s nothing I can’t do on my own.
But — force or no force — life isn’t meant to be done on my own. And I wasn’t created for all this independence.
The longer I live, the more I recognize the really important things in life revolve around relationships. Relationships where I need you and you need me. Relationships God sets up because he knows — while I may be a force to be reckoned with — that force will only get me so far. I will reach my limit. The force will fail. I will need to (gulp!) ask for help, admit my limitations, and let someone help me across the finish line.
It’s true God is strong where I am weak. He builds me up where I waver. Sometimes, he does that in ways we consider supernatural. Other times, God gives me courage to admit I’ve reached my limit, I need help, I need you. And admitting that, my friend, is nothing short of a miracle.
How about you? Do you find it easy to let down your guard and ask for help?