I used to think that once we moved to the right house and really settled down, that would be when I could create our real home. Cue the picket fence and heavy crown molding.
Our oldest boy had just started third grade when we sold our average dream house, lost a business and moved into a two-bedroom condo with three boys in one bedroom. For the next seven years we lived in four different rentals while we got back on our feet and paid off a gross amount of debt. We finally bought a house again, and a few months later that boy turned sixteen.
Don’t do what I did.
Don’t believe the lie that you have to wait until the circumstances are better, more acceptable, perfect even, until you can create a real home. You might just find yourself wishing your life away.
I used to think that a dream home was a place that was awarded to a lucky few whose circumstances happened to turn out just right. I didn’t realize that wherever we were was home, and that I had the means to create a beauty right where I was with what I already had. I wasted so much time whining, fretting, complaining and worrying about when we’d finally get ‘home’ that I almost missed the homes we had. I was so busy being jealous of my friends who had foyers and hardwoods and gardens I almost missed the fact that I was growing something, too.
Even in a rental with builder beige walls.
Real homes are filled with meaningful beauty, messes and imperfections. Real homes are approachable. And as much as I hate to admit it, imperfections actually play a role in our homes and in our lives. They connect us. If I would have made up a story about how my life has turned out perfect in every way you probably wouldn’t feel like you had much in common with me.
There is beauty in the imperfection. There is beauty in the lived-in and loved-on and used-just-about-up. Imperfections actually play a starring role in our homes and lives. Imperfections put people at ease.
Once we learn to accept and find beauty in the imperfections, we are free to take a risk in our home and create the home we’ve always wanted.
Join the community of beautiful imperfectionists.
Come as you are. Let’s turn our houses into homes. Right now. Because every house has a silver lining.