As the band started playing, I stepped forward on the stage and started my communion solo.
“How deep the Father’s love for us, How vast beyond all measure.”
Verses filled with such depth of truth.
“That He should give His only Son and make a wretch His treasure.”
The front is a privileged spot from which to minister because I can view members bowed in worshipful contemplation as they prepare to take the cup.
“How great the pain of searing loss. The Father turns His face away . . .”
I closed my eyes and worshiped while I sang. I can do that more earnestly because I’m not focused on trying to remember the words. I know that when I glance up, the “confidence monitor” (a.k.a. teleprompter) on the stage will give me the phrases I don’t have solidified.
As I sang the next stanza from the monitor, I realized the words were wrong. Nothing that came out of my mouth matched the band. My mind shut down. I stumbled to vocalize, the microphone shook, my stomach lurched, and I scrambled to save the song. The person running the confidence monitor tried to correct it, but slides were flipflopping back and forth, all of which was obvious to the thousands in the audience.
I’ve sung this hymn many times, but attempting to retrieve the correct words, while others are in front of you, is similar to the kids’ challenge of patting your head and rubbing your tummy.
I don’t know how I finished the song. It’s still a blur. I scurried back to our “green room” trying not to cry. I was completely rattled, and honestly, I don’t rattle easily. I sat with my head in my hands trying to breathe deeply and settle my soul. Nausea settled. I was humiliated. The thought of having to go back out and lead worship for another service did me in.
It was the first time in years, I remember wanting to just walk away.
The rest of the band joined me. They tried to assure me that it wasn’t my fault; it would have thrown the best of musicians.
We discussed our hard balance. As a musician, we want to offer the Lord our best. Our church isn’t about perfection. We balance truth and grace in beautifully profound ways, but as a large church, we are well-rehearsed, so while the music isn’t “perfect,” it’s nearly always flawless.
My solo screamed huge, flawed imperfection.
The bass guitarist added in jest, “Yep, Jen, my prayer is that my playing will lead them through a sweet time of worship and not be a distraction.”
I nearly threw my snacks at him, “Thanks a lot. I was a huge distraction. I’m envisioning wafers and grape juice spilled throughout the sanctuary. I think the Lord allowed that to happen so that a lot of other people can feel that much better about themselves.”
We laughed and the mood lightened. In my heart, I knew it was a first-world problem.
I know this isn’t about me, Lord. What can I learn? I’m making this about me.
I felt five, kicking and screaming. Please don’t make me go back out there.
It was that time again. I was still rattled, but I sang. I worshiped. The house lights faded as I finished. The confidence monitor had done its job.
The song flowed perfectly, yet as tears streamed down my face, it wasn’t from humiliation, but rather heart stirring conviction.
You see, I started the third stanza and began to belt,
I will not boast in anything
No gifts, no power, no wisdom
But I will boast in Jesus Christ
His death and resurrection
Why should I gain from His reward?
I cannot give an answer
But this I know with all my heart
His wounds have paid my ransom.
Yes, Lord! This is what it’s about.
In what had I placed my trust, my confidence? Ironically, I placed my dependance on a confidence monitor.
The harder I tried, the worse it got. The harder the man in the booth attempted to correct his mistake, the worse the outcome. Trying harder didn’t work.
Doesn’t that mimic our relationship with God? We fall into a jaded “try hard Christianity” and place our confidence in temporal, fleeting things. Our confidence doesn’t come from our abilities or wealth or accomplishing an impressive to do list, nor does our dependence upon God come from a hierarchy of Christian activities that elevate our relationship with Him.
Ultimate confidence comes from a complete abandon to a saving knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ. Our dependence must be on Him — the only reliable source that will not disappoint or fail.
Donald Baillie says:
“Jesus lived His life in complete dependence upon God, as we all ought to live our lives. But such dependence does not destroy human personality. Man is never so truly and fully personal as when he is living in complete dependence upon God. This is how personality comes into its own. This is humanity at its most personal.”
Yes, Lord. Draw me ever nearer to a dependence on You — the One and Only.
As our Sunday service ended, I placed my microphone back on its stand and then took a picture to mark where my spirit unraveled.
“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.” {Galatians 2:20}
Appropriately, the confidence monitor was black.
We all have a “confidence monitor” in our lives — that situation, person, or stumbling block that makes it difficult to transfer complete dependence to Him. If you want to name it in the comments, I’ll pray for you as we wrestle through this unleashing together.
by Jen Schmidt of Balancing Beauty and Bedlam
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Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Jen,
This is absolutely beautiful…and so honest. We have come to think of “dependence” as a four letter word in our society. Our world screams dependence is a bad thing. On some things it is, but pure dependence and reliance on God is where our soul finds its sweet spot. I have long wrestled with being a people pleaser and I have derived confidence from making all things good for everyone. This is a recipe for failure and it’s also very “me” focused. I would like to leave it at the feet of Jesus. Not that I go out of my way to annoy people, but I pray that my confidence would come only from my relationship with my Lord. You really have me thinking this morning…loved this!
Blessings,
Bev
Jen @beautyandbedlam.com says
Yes, finding that balance of confidence/dependence and where that comes from as we walk hand in hand with Jesus is a daily submission for me.
Mo says
Jen,
Loved your vulnerability/transparency in Rattled! You sure hit the nail on the head. Our true freedom lies in complete and utter dependence on Him. I have been having a week from you-know-where, the enemy hitting his mark w/ fiery precision thrice- My weakest area. I just keep crying out, “Help Lord, You are more than enough!” And He is. God Almighty! Thanks so very much for sharing.
Jen @beautyandbedlam.com says
Oh M0 – I will be praying for you during this week from you know where!!! It’s been one of those for me as well on a personal front and my heart cries out with yours. xoxox
Mary Hood says
So timely! I just sang a song at my church. Definitely not thousands. I lost my words and made the musicians start it over. My church is so forgiving. You do all the preparation and God is faithful to still call us to complete confidence in him, no matter if we think we fail or not. Hank you for your honesty.
Jen @beautyandbedlam.com says
Oh Mary – I think Satan must know the power of those words and can’t bear to hear them proclaimed!! He just doesn’t want us to finish. xoxox
Sharee says
Jen, thank you for this message. It was beautifully done and I give you a hearty AMEN.
jen@beautyandbedlam.com says
Sharee – thank you for your kinds words!! Have a fabulous Friday! xoxo
Gretchen Hall Mercer says
Jen, this spoke loud and clear to me! There’s this insecurity in me that causes me to put way too much focus on myself. if I’m not careful I can lose the perspective that God is in control of this…not Gretchen. That whether it is good enough is up to HIM…not me. The words you were singing…oh, my goodness…just so powerful and beautiful. I’m sure your audience felt His glory through your voice. Thank you for sharing.
jen@beautyandbedlam.com says
Thank you so much, Gretchen.
Beth Williams says
Gretchen,
Loved your comment!!! Yes “God is in Control”–We believe that His children will not be forsaken!! Praise God He controls this world and not us!
Have a blessed weekend!!
Susan Kennedy says
The third stanza was/is the key. Wow….. Loved this. Thank you.
Michelle Gates says
Such a beautiful truth, Lisa… ❤️
I was Blessed to be born into a family of 6 sisters -no brothers. Each of us a completely unique masterpiece, yet we piece together like a breathtaking mosaic!! (Bless my sweet Daddy’s heart- He has a special place in heaven for surviving 6 daughters!)
I’ve also been Blessed with a “Soul Sister”… Though our paths didn’t cross until we reached our grown-up years, our life journeys have been parallel from childhood to our current breaths… God knew we would need each other, and orchestrated this friendship years before we ever even met! We even LOOK like sisters, which is just sweet icing on the Sisterhood Cupcake!! She’s the kind of friend who can complete your sentences, make you laugh to the point of tears, remind you you’re beautiful when you feel like a hot mess, and pray you through those overwhelming life hurdles that seem to stop you in your tracks… Never an ounce of judgement. EVER. She’s travelled the same paths that I’ve traveled and just “gets it”. Gets ME….
Not a day goes by that I don’t thank Jesus for ALL of my sisters… They are a priceless GIFT and I treasure them beyond all measure!!
Michelle Gates says
How BEAUTIFUL is it when God takes something that “rattles” us, and uses it for His Glory??!!
I guarantee you Blessed a multiple of hearts during those moments of panic-filled worship!! (Been there, done that myself- and you described the anxiety level to perfection!)
Thank you for reminding us to look deeper into those situations that we too easily deem as failures… We will always find there is hidden God-orchestrated beauty!!
Keep Praising and Blessing with your voice, Jen!! ❤️
Carol says
Totally understand the way you felt, and the lesson you were wise enough to ask God for …depending on Him, not the confidence monitor.However you might be surprised how many people hearing a glitch like this are not judging, but praying, and marking the faith it takes to keep going…and receiving the challenge to do likewise. I’m sure BOTH services were really worship services.
Nancy Ruegg says
I have been in both places: 1) alone on the platform, totally at a loss for the next phrase in a song (with no confidence monitor), and 2) in the congregation when someone else suddenly goes blank. When it happened to me, I was embarrassed and humiliated. When it happened to someone else, I thought, “Oh, well. No one’s perfect. Memory lapses happen to everyone.” Now why wasn’t that my reaction when I was the one who couldn’t remember? We tend to be much harder on ourselves than others. It’s time to relax and let go of impossibly high standards–which tend to generate pride anyway!
M says
A long since broken relationship and broken ties to two churches. No real home or Christian connections any more
Norma says
This was I feel God speaking to me through you. I lost my job back in April. I have been looking and looking. Meeting with recruiter after recruiter . I feel as if I was being dependent on them more than trusting God! He is all I need, I should have faith and be dependent on his promises!
Natasha says
A little over a month ago I moved to a new city, moving away from home and starting my first professional job. So far this has been one of the hardest months of my life. I like my job but it has been really hard for me not being able to see my family whenever I want, not having any friends in my new city, and having ot use a GPS to get anywhere. I feel through this process I am becoming more depedent on God as I don’t have my family with me or comfort or anything familar. It is so hard right now but I think this is going to help me grow spiritually, grow my love for God and my faith and trust in Him, and that something beautiful will come out of this challenging process. I keep listening to “Clear the Stage” by Jeremy Riddle and am reminded I cannot make my family or comfort or my my desires my idols, but must love God most of all and be dependent on Him. Thank you for this reminder.
Beth Williams says
Jen,
Loved your open honest vulnerability. I do sign language to music at my small church. Must remember not only the words to the songs but also the signs associated with them. I get nervous each time & try my best. Satan tries his best to get to flustered and make mistakes or forget the words/signs. Never have I ever made them start over I just keep going and pretend all is well. My point of doing it is to praise God and let my emotions flow to the audience.
dependence each time is on God–because this shy gal couldn’t get up in front of people without His help!!
Blessings 🙂
Marty says
This is a perfect illustration of where our confidence belongs: in HIM. I about broke out into a sweat just reading about your first service. Thank you for this timely reminder. 🙂
Amber says
Jen, I was recently “Rattled” at work. As a brand new manager at a hospital I was asked to give a presentation in front of about 50 people including the higest ranking folks at our hospital. Public speaking is my biggest fear & weakness, but I wanted to try to overcome this fear, so I said yes. As I visibly trembled from head to toe & bumbled & fumbled my words the CNO began to feel sorry for me & stopped the presentation. I literally felt like i was in a tunnel & everything was going black around me. A week & a half later, I still feel humiliated. I have felt like running away & giving up this new promotion. I now know more than ever about being called into something that only He can equip me for. I need all the prayers i can get for strength, confidence & courage!