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(in)RL Check-In

Welcome to the interactive page for the (in) real life: Check-In Series. This is where we have re-engaged on the topic of community with six months passed since (in)RL Conference 2012 in April, where nearly 2,000 women bravely met up across the world. Connect on this page with other readers, find the five  (in)courage posts on this topic from the series, and enjoy other tools and resources, including FREE downloadable prints!

We’re spending 5 weeks chatting on the sofa over hot tea, cookies, and 5 questions about in real life friendship. Won’t you join us?

  1. 09/04 Week 1: “What does community mean to you?”
  2. 09/11 Week 2: “How do we stop hiding from and open ourselves up to community?”
  3. 09/18 Week 3: “How do we forgive past hurt by community?”
  4. 09/25 Week 4: “How do we build local community: some practical ideas.”
  5. 10/02 Week 5: “How do we build community right where we are, not letting circumstances limit our connections?”

Find additional posts that explored these topics during the month of September over here.

Excerpt from Ann Voskamp’s post last week, sharing her journey with choosing joy in community:

Sara had laid in a bed, her pain at a 9 on a scale of 1 to ten, and she had sent me words. I sent her sheets and silk pink pajamas and a new keyboard. She had written more words. I had wept over deep barbs. She used vowels and consonants and the balm of the Word to free me. She couldn’t leave her house. She was dying.

But she knew it: You only really breathe inside a Body.

She didn’t let anything cut her off from the oxygen found in His Body.  

That’s what Sara had said: Choose Joy. The universe works this way: you can choose joy like your weather, like your very own sky. Like your very own oxygen.  

I look out the window to the west, to the conflicted October blue laying out over fields and I turn Sara’s ring and the pastor waits in this long gentle patience on the other end of the line and wasn’t that what Sara had wanted to encircle me: You can have every excuse — but let nothing excuse you from joy.

- To continue reading the full story, CLICK HERE.

{Free Downloadables}

For an enjoyable reminder to embrace community, we have five FREE PRINTABLES you can download! Download these FREE 8.5×11 Printables, taken from Postcards from God’s Beach House, now available on dayspring.com! Click on the prints below to download. Hang these on your fridge, decorate your office with them, or even give one as a gift to a friend!

Choose Joy

The Body of Christ

A Promise of Friendship

Things We Try to Hide

Friend At All Times

{The downloadable prints are available through dayspring.com. These are free downloads and your credit card information will not be requested. You’ll receive a link to the Printable in your confirmation email. Easy. Free. And Fun.}

{Weekly Devotional Series}

Throughout the 5 week Check-In Series, we shared a DaySpring Devotional Email on Wednesdays with messages focused on the joys and hurts of community, inspired from our (in)courage writers’ stories, shared on (in)courage and in the (in)RL resources.

CLICK HERE for Week 1: What is Community to You?

CLICK HERE for Week 2: Open Yourself to Community.

CLICK HERE for Week 3: How Do We Forgive Past Hurt?

CLICK HERE for Week 4: How Do We Build Community?

CLICK HERE for Week 5: Choose Joy – Community Beyond Circumstances

{Further Resources}

CLICK HERE to find further encouraging (in)RL tools and resources for your journey in community, and enjoy video previews below of the (in)RL content.

View the trailer of the 2012 (in)RL Keynote, where the writers from (in)courage get real honest, gritty, and vulnerable about their experiences in and out of community:

Deidra speaks to the topic of opening up in friendships:

Excerpt of an inspiring story, where God used a real life online community of women to make the impossible possible:

Watch the 30 minute video below of Sara Frankl’s story – though confined by illness, she never let her circumstances define her:

{Sara – Gitzen Girl – Downloadables}

Choose Joy Printable (PDF)

Legacy Collage (JPG)

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{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Shari September 5, 2012 at 7:23 AM

I can’t thank you enough for this opportunity. I have always struggled for strong women friendships in my life and I am seriously looking forward to becoming a ‘community’ with you.

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2 Kaitlyn@incourage October 6, 2012 at 12:27 AM

Hi Shari,
Sometimes finding those strong relationships are tough. If you’re interested, feel free to check out our new (in)couragers community groups. (in)RL is fantastic, but perhaps the Bible Study Gals group would be great for you, too? Hope these are able to bless you. :)

http://www.incourage.me/2012/10/find-your-people-meet-our-community-groups.html

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3 Diane September 5, 2012 at 5:23 PM

Wow! I really was blessed just to read about a site as this….where other women are reaching out and desire close friendships & connection with one another. For the past few years it seems that God has removed any close friendships that I was blessed with in my life either because of moving out of state or other reasons, and this past summer I have really struggled with that loss.

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4 Kaitlyn@incourage October 6, 2012 at 12:30 AM

Diana,
I am so sorry. It’s so hard when it feels like good things are coming apart. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. Have you looked into our new (in)couragers community groups? It’s such a good way to “find your people” :)

http://www.incourage.me/2012/10/find-your-people-meet-our-community-groups.html

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5 cassie h September 11, 2012 at 1:52 PM

I just came across this and am so inspired!!!! I need a community more than ever now. I am diagnosed with brain cancer that has spread to my ovary. I dont have many girlfriends because I have been hurt and taken advantage of so badly in the past. I have to admit I have a wall up. I watched some of the videos in courage sent me to you tube and i immediately started crying. I want to be part of a group like that. I am ordering the 2012 study book and dvds and cant wait for the 2013 group sign up!!!!!

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6 Kaitlyn@incourage October 6, 2012 at 12:37 AM

Oh Cassie, I’ve read your comment so many times and still am fumbling for words. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can relate a little to being sick…I had brain surgery 2 years ago to remove a tumor, and lost some girlfriends as well. It is so hard, isn’t it….there aren’t words to explain it. But girl I am so glad you’ve found (in)courage. The women here are real and genuine and they just love Jesus and want to love on you. I’m so glad you’re excited for (in)RL 2013!!! Have you heard of our new (in)couragers community groups? Go to this link and you’ll see the different groups that just started that are simply there to love on you and other women. Find the group(s) that works best for you, and know I’ll be praying for you.

http://www.incourage.me/2012/10/find-your-people-meet-our-community-groups.html

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7 Joanne September 12, 2012 at 9:32 AM

Community means someone is there. An angel or angels sent by the Lord to hold us to contain us in our times of hurt, in times of concern and someone to listen. We all need people to share things with in our lives. God created us for fellowship and that makes us reach out to each other. Ive moved across the world and don’t yet have a sense of belonging where I am. This is causing me anxious and upset. Yet I have to look like I have got it all together and everyone around me believes that and I am afraid of letting anyone know otherwise.
I need community, we need the fellowship of community to be able to share with other the things we have in common our loving Father and His blessings on our lives and learn from the unique experiences of each other. So many times I need a hand to reach out to me when I feel like I cannot make it alone and in community I will find hope when I feel like I loose sight of my journey and the plans the Lord has for me.
May we all be blessed as we reach out to each other in community and in this way through the loving support of communit our lives will be touched wherever we are.

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8 Kaitlyn@incourage October 6, 2012 at 12:32 AM

Sweet Joanne, you don’t need to look like you have it all together here. Take that mask off and let us love you for you. We all need community , a hand to reach out and walk through life with! Please, let me just encourage you to look through the different groups we just began…these women are truly waiting to encourage you and love YOU for you.

http://www.incourage.me/2012/10/find-your-people-meet-our-community-groups.html

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9 Teresa September 18, 2012 at 11:19 AM

I love the fact that in order to show up, you need to put one foot In front of the other and step out ( In Faith). Sometime it. Is so hard to take that first step. Especially if someone has hurt you and request something of you that you really don’t feel like giving. Bit once you tKe that step ( in Christ) you become the overcomer and you remove the baggage that is put in front of you and you shine and you are free.

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10 Teresa Knott September 18, 2012 at 11:21 AM

I love the fact that in order to show up, you need to put one foot In front of the other and step out ( In Faith). Sometime it. Is so hard to take that first step. Especially if someone has hurt you and request something of you that you really don’t feel like giving. Bit once you take that step ( in Christ) you become the overcomer and you remove the baggage that is put in front of you and you shine and you are free.

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11 Nancy Findley October 4, 2012 at 2:24 PM

Just saying anything is difficult. I had a friend I was being a friend to and her daughter but I couldn’t always get to things on time because I have two daughters too. Our schedules are and were different. I’d put myself down because she was homeschooling and I’m not. My children go to a Christian school which we love. I didn’t see at the time that gradually she was pulling away from me. Not wanting to go to things at the school which is a ministry of the church there and finding fault with it. My children didn’t want to spend time because her daughter was bossy and unkind. I wanted it so much I didn’t see what was happening. I’d tell my girls to forgive but she didn’t say anything to her daughter. I made my kids feel that they had to endure it for some reason. And then she was upset with me and she decided I was bad for her and her daughter. I had made her too important and I needed God and intimacy with Him. I’m struggling to have it but I’m going to keep going because He wants me to. He wants me to or I wouldn’t have seen Sara’s. Living beyond my circumstances to see it the way He does. That’s what He wants to show me. Thanks Teresa for what you said too. I still want to be a friend and have friends but I’m not sure how. I would like to learn. I pray for a good day for everyone.

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12 Kaitlyn@incourage October 6, 2012 at 12:41 AM

Thank you for sharing with us, Nancy. I’m so sorry to hear about this strained relationship with your friend and her girls. Sometimes being a friend and having friends is hard, but it’s so worth it. We just began our new (in)couragers community groups…check it out – we would so love for you to join and be loved on/encouraged by some wonderful women.

http://www.incourage.me/2012/10/find-your-people-meet-our-community-groups.html

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13 Nancy Findley October 4, 2012 at 3:04 PM

I read John 16:21 because a friend actually is having a baby today. It says also about Jesus when he was going to the Father in heaven and the joy that Sara had. “A woman, when she is in labor, has sorrow because her hour has come; but as soon as she has given birth to the child, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world. Therefore you now have sorrow, but I (Jesus) will see you again and your heart will rejoice and your joy no one will take from you.” Thank you Jesus. Xoxox N

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14 Deb Stevens October 6, 2012 at 12:01 AM

thank u for reminding me that its a choice – joy. just as much as pain or un-forgiveness is. its OUR choice.

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