It is a word that is on my mind A LOT these days.
On a recent phone call with a wise friend, she said, “when I consider opportunities, I think, will I be happy I did this when I am 75 and look back on my life? I have too little margin in my life to say yes to things I should say no to.”
Oh how that struck me.
You see, up until that call, I didn’t think too much about the fact that my life had pretty much no margin.
My days are always go, go, go.
- Nurse the baby.
- Dress everyone.
- Pick up the kiddos.
- Cook dinner.
- Bath time
- Story time
- Bed time
- Husband time.
- Blog time.
- Prayer time.
- Bed time.
And amidst all of that, I say yes a lot. Sure, I’ll email you tonight. Sure, I’d be happy to do that. Yeah, I can swing by the store and get that. I’d be happy to plan that. No trouble at all.
When really, all I want to do is snuggle on the couch with my husband and the littles.
So I have started to say no and do less. It has been so freeing to say, “you know, my life has too little margin to do that.” “I don’t think that is a good use of my time.” “This isn’t fun for me anymore – why am I doing it?”
With each of those responses, I have felt like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
Little by little, I am working to create more margin.
Margin to do the things I want to do. The things God has placed in my life to do.
It feels so good to consider the fact that my busy life has little margin and that I MUST fill that margin with things that have meaning and purpose.
Please hear me say that this is a journey for me. I am FAR from solving the issue of too little margin in my life, but I am getting better at saying no.
It isn’t easy to say no and do less in a society that is all about more.
But being a Christ-follower isn’t always easy.
And I truly believe that he does not desire for us to be running on empty.