For me, the best thing blogging has brought me are friends.
Deep. Authentic. Rich friendships.
The only problem is that none of these friends live around the corner.
They live in California and Canada. D.C and L.A.
One lived in Iowa.
Now she lives in heaven and my heart.
Sara, Sara, Sara. The friend I keep talking about these days. We all do.
She would be mortified by all this talking.
Sara was the first *deep* blog friendship I cultivated.
Probably because she took the time to cultivate too.
Nothing was one sided with Sara.
As I pray about this post and seek what would Sara want to share, I think it would be to not fear friendship. Dive in. Don’t be afraid. Even if the person lives across the country.
Cultivating friendships can be challenging – and even more so if you aren’t in the same town as your friend. Last week I shared 5 ways Sara’s in-town friends served her. Today I am going to share 5 ways to love on your out-of-town friends.
1. Call them – This is the easiest one. Just pick up the phone. I called Sara multiple times a week, which allowed me to really know what was going on in her world.
2. Send them mail – I loved, loved, LOVED sending mail to Sara because it was such a huge day brightener for her. Sometimes it was just a card, other times it was a package filled with snacks or something extra. In this day of email and text messages, people love pen to paper, REAL MAIL.
Also, if you know of a friend’s need, surprise them by meeting it! Because of Sara’s circumstances and limited budget, it was easy to send her surprises that met a need. Being able to meet needs for Sara was a gift for her, but blessed me the giver even more.
3. Read their blogs & comment– If your out-of-town friend has a blog, read it and engage. I always read Sara’s blog, but I didn’t always comment. In retrospect I wish I had because it would have shown her that I was engaged.
4. Visit – If budget and time allows, plan an in-person visit. I had the opportunity to visit Sara last August, about six weeks before she passed away. The memories of that afternoon together will stay with me forever.
5. Pray for them – Take time to pray for your out-of-town friends. It can be hard not knowing what is going on in their day to day life, but that doesn’t mean your prayers aren’t meaningful. Even if you don’t know what to specifically pray, your prayers will be heard by their loving Father who knows their needs.
How do you love on your out-of-town friends?
By Jessica Turner, The Mom Creative