Sarah Markley
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I'm the mother of two little girls, the wife of an amazing husband who'd rather play the guitar than anything else and I love to write. I spend my weekends watching my daughters ride horses and play soccer. I blog daily and my greatest wish is to see women healed...

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  1. Last year I hosted because I’d been so blessed by the blogs I’ve spent reading for so long, and it made a difference in my world!
    THIS year I’m hosting (despite being new to the community) because I KNOW that there have got to be OTHER new women that want to connect and be blessed!!
    I’m passing out the save the date cards like crazy, (even to complete strangers in coffee houses and malls!!), and have switched to the invitations (printed on 1/2 sheets) because I love the description of “who it’s for…” – so even if every woman doesn’t decide to come to the (in)RL I’m hosting, I’m hoping that they will get tuned in to (in), and maybe host their own!
    All for God’s Glory!!

  2. Sometimes people just need “down time” or “alone time”. After driving and working all week, put in workouts, etc. the stress can be there and you just want to vege out with 1 person quietly. I find hiding is cathartic for me and my husband–it beings us closer together.

    This year I decided to join in(RL) conference because I feel I know many of the writers here on this blog and I have been inspired by the writers and responders. I would love to see you all face to face and really really get to know you deep down intimately!

  3. I am registered and would love a shirt. Don’t really know what to expect doing this but I know God will meet with and bless us for doing it. Excited for what’s to come. Thanks!

  4. I’m all for hiding being a super private introvert myself but you’re right, there is a time when we are called into community. I try to remember that and balance those things in my life so I’m not too far in either camp. 🙂 I’ll have to see if there’s a meeting somewhere near my home…

    • oh i hope you do. it’s hard when we are private and introverted (raising my hand first!) but sometimes its good to get out there. good for you, becky! i’m so happy you might go. =)

  5. I didn’t exactly hide last year but I didn’t sign up partly because of the cost (thank you that it’s free) and partly because it was a really busy time of year for my professor husband, wrapping up the semester, grading.

    But this year I jumped right in and registered. Partly it’s because this year I am taking my writing more seriously (set aside Mondays to write, among other things) and so also I want to encourage the other bloggers in my city (Santa Barbara). So I’ll host, even though my house isn’t big and my screen isn’t very large, but I can probably swing a chocolate fountain.

  6. I LOVE this TSHIRT! Will they also be available to those hosting and attending? I cant wait to see God open the doors to the impossible and improbable- outside of Him! I am signed up to host, totally and absolutely a faith step!

  7. I am planning on hiding this year! The month of May is going to be CRAZY for us with a college graduation, a wedding, a high school graduation and putting our house on the market. That is my plan!

    However, God has just opened the door for me to run an 8 week bible study with the ladies in my neighborhood and I would not be surprised if He asks me to open my home to them for that weekend! 🙂 I will if He asks!

  8. Sarah, thank you for sharing. I’m an introvert as well. Recently, I have found that being an ‘introvert’ does not mean there’s something wrong with me. It just means I do things differently. I think perhaps, for us introverts this is the first step. This year I plan on attending one of the groups. Perhaps in the future, I too, may find the courage to open my home to complete strangers. Isn’t that what Christ asks of us anyway?

  9. Last year I “hid” because I was newly home from the hospital and terribly conscious of new disabilities. This year I would have liked to host, but couldn’t pull anything off, physically, since I am still quite dependent on others for the basic survival/function of our home. But I’m thrilled that a God has called an area hostess this year and I am taking this broken Temple God has chosen to dwell within, and going (actually bringing my mom, or rather she is bringing me, since I no longer can drive).

  10. I attended last year and was planning on hosting an event at my house this year, but, I’m stepping out on my own and joining a whole bunch of other women going to Pudach, KY for quilt week, all by myself. Major for me. So I’ll be finding community a different way this year. Looking forward to next year and I will host on event! Hope you have a wonderful time.

  11. The fact that you gave readers of (in)courage the “out” to forgo meet-ups is a gift. And the fact that you are hosting one this year is brave and wonderful! I hope you enjoy the tar out of this experience, Sarah! I’m hosting in New Hampshire and nervous and excited and all those good things. 🙂

  12. LOVE the shirt… LOVE the grace and permission to hide if needed! I am hosting this year and to be honest – I haven’t done much prep work or thinking or promoting it just yet! I am teaching at a women’s retreat in March and once that is off my plate – I am going to see what kind of havoc I can wreak with parking – hoping to fill my home with friends and soon-to-be friends alike! It’s not in the numbers – so if it is just a few of us – that is fine by me but I am hungering for new community… and I am leaning in to my OneWord this year in trying to be more open and take more risks… afterall, one can’t really PLAN for “Surprise!” right?

  13. Well that was weird. I clicked over because I thought, oh an (in)courage t-shirt, I’d love one! Not realizing it was for people who registered for the April conference. Thought it was registration for a group. Right before this, I was on my way to the grocery store thinking about the April conf and wondering if I should host, since there isn’t any yet in my area. Hosting is way out of my comfort zone. I asked God to let me know if he wants me to host. Lol. Guess I know now. Alright!!

  14. I kind of hid last year too, and then regretted it after I saw all the tweets. I am with you all the way on the introvert thing. I am signed up to host up here in the SF Bay Area, but would totally go to yours down south if we were down that way. We recently started a young families group at our church (our first meeting was yesterday actually), and I think this is just what we need to build our community. 🙂

  15. Last year I registered and waited for someone else to step up to host. That didn’t happen and I remember watching the videos and at one point had my 5 month old granddaughter on my lap and whispered to her that “she was my community.”

    This year I am stepping outside my comfort zone and hosting. So far there are 5 or 6 of us registered and I am already feeling blessed by voluntarily opening my home to local women I don’t know yet.

  16. i’m so proud of you. and i completely understand. maybe one day i will be able to walk out from my “private” too. in the mean time, i’m jealous. part of me would love to be there…. {{hugs}}

  17. I am registered….and would love a free shirt. BUT, will look into buying one even if i don’t “win” one.

  18. Love the honesty here…and I love how you decided to do what would be the best community for you without feeling forced to participate in ‘programmed community’…sometimes, it really does help to program community…especially for those of us who just don’t seem to be able to figure it out on our own. I love the concept of in(RL), but I am not one who is gifted in connecting. I pray that meaningful connections will be made between women around the world at this event. The potential for encouraging others is endless…

  19. ahh yes- I see this give away promo was several days ago- and alas I have most likely missed it BUT i do want to say whoever designed these T’s did a fab job and I say FAB!! BLESSINGS see you all at the event in April !

  20. Until this year did I know what (in)RL was about. I had seen it on the (in)courage site, heard others talk about it, and I so wanted to know. To be a part. I was a BIG scary room on a website and I never clicked it to find out who, what, when or why.

    Then there was this year – after becoming an (in)courager in Session 1, I began to feel more at home in community. Virtual community filled with strangers mostly. The thought of meeting any of them (in)RL (in real life), horrified me. I prayed about it. I certainly wanted to be a part, but, how much a part, I was not so sure.

    Then my husband said to me one day – you love this (in)courage community. What are you afraid of – host one – here – at our home.

    WHAT??? In my home? It’s not fancy, it’s home – our comfortable, beautiful home to me, to us.

    Well, a bit more prayer and I felt God’s gentle nudge. I’m hosting this year. HA! Yes – hosting in my home (in)RL 2013. I have four people signed up so far. I am not scared – well maybe a little.

    Anyone in my area is invited, just go here: to sign up for Corsicana, TX (near Dallas).

    Thank you for sharing your heart, Sarah.