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Sharon Gibbs is a writer, blogger, and oncology nurse with a passion for how our stories connect and heal us. Her agonizing divorce and estrangement from her two sons led her to write about relationships, faith, and life perspectives at www.sharonagibbs.com. She finds joy in knowing that nothing God has...

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  1. Sharon, You gave that mom a precious gift that day. Thank you for reminding us of the simplicity that comfort can be. Just the loved on’s name…. and remembering. Blessings to you!

  2. Sharon, I love your honesty and thank you for your encouragement to step in trusting God to give you the words, when there seem to be no words of solace to give. Thank you also for the work you do as an oncology nurse. My Mum died of cancer and the nurses who helped care for her along the way were such a blessing to her. It must be a really hard job to do.

    • Anna, For me, solace can come from being there, with the person, surrounded by their pain. That speaks volumes. I am sorry to hear about your Mum. I hope you have many joyful memories of your times together. Thank you for reading my story.

  3. This is so real. I’ve had this internal struggle to say hi to someone so many times. Not even just for people who are in difficult situations, but for anyone. I don’t know why it takes such a Herculean effort to do the thing that I logically know is the best thing. It’s meaningful to hear from someone who has been on both sides. Your story reminds me that I should trust Jesus to give me the words rather than hiding in cowardice in case I say the wrong thing or have nothing to say at all. People are more important than avoiding awkwardness, which is often my fear. Perfect love casts out fear!

    • Jessica, sometimes saying nothing is enough. A hug can say more than words. In the trusting, the awkwardness vanishes. blessings to you

  4. thanks for your advice to all of us… I lost a 19 year old daughter, and people avoided me. Just recently I lost my brother to a drunk driver, I appreciate it when people ask, or simply say I’m sorry for your loss.

  5. There is a lovely laminated pocket card published by Dicksons entitled “Cradled By God”. It is written to encourage women who’ve miscarried.

  6. I remember that time very well, glad you got your courage up, never an easy thing. Beautifully written.

  7. Oh, how vulnerable to share a story of both cowardice and courage. I’ll carry this with me, Sharon, and when I find myself tempted to back away toward the safety of the broccoli section, I’ll remember. I’ll remember, and I’ll set the melon in the cart and roll forward, toward the person, toward the fear, toward the person. Thank you.

  8. There’s nothing harder in grief than feeling alone and isolated. Acknowledging the person we’ve lost is vital to our own ability to carry on. Hard, but important. Listening, indeed.

  9. Sharon,
    Sometimes it is hard to know what to say! I have found that calling a person and saying hello or just sitting with them saying nothing is best. People love getting hugs–some kind of acknowledgement that you care. Thank you for listening to Jesus and caring enough to go talk with this woman!
    Blessings 🙂

  10. Thank you for this reminder. I’ve got several people near me right now who are going through tremendous tragedy and hardship– it is good to be reminded that just being there for them- in whatever way I can- is better than avoiding them. Thank you. I needed this.