On this Veteran’s Day, we honor you the veteran who doesn’t choose where you’re going to live or how long you’re going to live there,
who concedes safety and comfort, familiarity and stability,
and surrenders your own good for the good of others.
Thank you for giving up your freedoms so we may be given ours. We are so grateful.
And on this Veteran’s Day, I offer this prayer to the military spouse. Because when we build up military spouses, they are able to better build up and serve their own military-service member husbands and wives.
Dear Father, who knew this military spouse before she was born,
Who sees all her days lived and those yet to be lived.
And who holds in His hands a string of all her moments — her joys and her trials.
The One who promises to twine them all into a trail toward good.
Bless her in her struggles, lift her when she stumbles, and carry her in her sorrows.
When she has a to-do list miles long but is worn out from starting over, show her how to simply start with the next small thing. Nothing has to be done today but the next small thing.
When she’s tired out from filling countless roles beyond wife (and mom), freshen her with the knowledge that you are a God who works in countless ways to fill her empty places, to be what she cannot.
When she’s hungry for real community, provide her with friendships that last beyond state lines and country boarders, friends that feel like family.
When loneliness comes close, may she feel You come closer still.
When she’s depleted of resources and bare as the kitchen cabinets, fill her to the brim with Your hope that says you got this, daughter, because I got you.
Nourish her weary places with Your Spirit.
Be there for her by being there for her children, providing them with the security of home found best in people not places.
Provide for her by bringing her children good, for-them friends who invite them to their lunchroom table, their neighborhood games, and their kind-natured hearts.
Provide this brave woman with soul stability that relies on a steady, Rock-solid foundation (Psalm 18:2).
When hard goodbyes — and difficult hellos — land on her doorstep, may she get through them by welcoming the faith and trust that walk with them.
When deployment looms, may she know she is as cared for during her military husband’s absence as during his presence.
Help her to release all her fears to You, the One who wants all of them (see Psalm 34:4).
And when her husband comes to her with hard stories from difficult places, may the ears of her heart be ready to listen as he’s ready to share.
Cloak her in your mercy as she waits, waits, and waits some more.
Be her mirror that reflects an accurate vision of herself so she knows she is already enough — right here, right now.
Enough of a wife.
Enough of a mother.
Enough of a sister.
When she feels no adoration for her location, may she know her assignment is authored by You — the One who determined the exact places she should live (see Acts 17:26).
May she know the indescribable value of her own service and sacrifice as a true hero at home.
Let her know it’s okay to fall apart and that nothing is gained from having it all together all the time. And when she does fall apart, give her friends that are safe places to break wide open and share the shards of the mess.
Who encourage Christ’s love between the broken pieces.
And may she understand that You, Lord, turn shattered shards into shimmering beauty.
May gratitude be her default reaction because gratitude precedes miracles. Because You refuse to let the hard things, the crouched-in-the-corner crying things, the hard-to-be-thankful things be wasted.
And from dawn’s early light to dusk’s fading away, may laughter find her and grace feed her.
And may Your love protect her and Your hope heal her.
In the name of Your Son, Jesus, who loves her wildly,
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Note: For flow and ease of reading, I used the feminine pronouns in this prayer as most of our regular readers here at (in)courage are women. If you would like a copy of this prayer that has been written specifically for the military husband, click here.