Since I never had a sister, I always hoped I’d find a closer-than-a-sister kind of friend.
I wished for the kind of best friend I could share everything with and do everything with. I wanted a BFF who totally “got” me—who loved to celebrate the highs and would stay close during the lows, who knew when I was having a rough day and always had a kind word to say.
Maybe I could find a friend who loved to read the same kinds of books I liked to read. Maybe I could find a friend who loved to sip hot tea and savor scones with Devonshire cream. Maybe I could find a friend who loved to shop for fabric and set aside days where we could work on our quilts side by side.
More than anything, I longed for the kind of friend with whom I could really go deep. The kind of friend I could be completely honest with and know I was safe. The kind of friend I could share my deepest hurts and my darkest fears. The kind of friend I could pray with about anything.
And, of course, I wanted to be that kind of friend for her as well.
Over the years, I’ve cherished a lot of sweet friendships, but I never found that one-size-fits-all kind of best friend. Eventually, I came to the place where I stopped looking for the “perfect friend,” and I simply started enjoying the people around me. And you know what I found?
I found one friend who loves to visit tea shoppes with me. I found another friend who shares my love of quilting. I have friends who love to study the Bible together and friends who love to recommend books and share what they’ve recently read.
I’ve found that friendship comes in all shapes and sizes, in all stages and seasons.
Yes, there’s the instant friend—we have so much in common with and connect right away.
There’s the long-distance friend—we share a history and easily pick up where we left off whenever we’re together.
There’s the surprise friend—we don’t have much in common, but we like each other’s company anyway and find we have so much to learn from one another.
There’s the work friend—we see each other regularly at work, and our jobs are more enjoyable because of the other’s presence.
There’s the seasonal friend, too—we were friends for a season, perhaps when our kids were in the same class or when we lived in the same town, but when the season ended, our friendship sort of faded.
Then there’s the forever friend—we know our hearts are knit together, and we’re for each other no matter what for the rest of our lives.
In my four-and-a-half decades of life, I’ve experienced the full spectrum of friendships.
And I’m thankful for each one. I’m richer because of the many beautiful friends I’ve known through the years. I quit looking for a one-size-fits-all best friend a long time ago because I realized I’d miss out on the many different gifts that many different friends can offer.