I would like to know what to do when a friend won’t let you be their friend by helping them.
I have a friend who is a mother to a 22month old daughter. She’s an amazing mother and works tirelessly during the week. She’s always saying how tired she is and stressed out. She also doesn’t really like the child care she has for her daughter but it’s the only option that works for her right now.
She’s had a rough past with her daughters father and is a single mom. I’m a nanny during the week but on my days off I go over and babysit her daughter for free if she’s working so she doesn’t have to take her to the babysitter whom she doesn’t really care for. I love them both and would do anything for them. Recently, I’ve been trying to be more intentional with my friendships and I’ve started the Bible study “we saved you a seat”. I also have read “never unfriended” and am continuously reading it.
I want to do more with the “to be a friend you’ve got to invest the time and show up” idea and I’ve always been that type of a friend, but some friends do not make that easy. My friend is difficult to love but not at all less worthy of the love and time invested into her. I told her If she ever wants a day to sleep and relax I’d take her daughter out for the day so she could do that. She replied with “I’d never do that, I miss her too much during the week”. So now what, I feel stuck. I honestly feel hurt that she won’t let me in. When I first met her she pushed me away because she was afraid of letting me in in the first place because of her past, but we’ve gotten past that because she learned I really meant what I said and didn’t expect anything from her. I want her to take care of herself though. What do I do?