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Hey friend? Come sit next to me here on my old thrifted couch. I have a warm, soothing cup with your name on it and I want to tell you a few things.

Are you looking at that overflowing to do list and feeling bad about yourself?

Are you thinking of the week ahead and wondering how you will handle all of it?

Are you watching the news with your heart breaking and wondering how to take it all in, when your own daily life is so overwhelming already?

Here’s the thing: It’s ok to not be ok.

Right now?

Where you are at is ok.

 

It might not feel like it, and it might not look like it to the rest of the world, but I can tell you confidently that you are ok. And not because you have anything pulled together.

Let me tell you why.

Because Jesus says you are worthy.

Even when you don’t accomplish a single thing (yet again) today, you are still worthy. Even when you just survived today. Even when you’ve forgotten how to thrive. You are still worthy.

He is not ashamed to be called your God. He wants your healing and your redemption and for your broken to be whole – and he will take you there. On your own journey. He is so faithful.

You know how I know?

You see, I get you, because you are me sometimes. And I can look back at the darkness behind me and realize it wasn’t as dark as I had once thought. It had bright spots shining in when I wasn’t looking. Maybe when I was looking down instead of up.

And those lights are what drew me to the next step. And the next. And the next. One foot at a time, just doing the next thing.

A month from now, you won’t be where you are today. Because all things are in either growth or decline, for the glory of the Lord, you won’t be where you are right now. Nothing is static. Because you are worthy, and ok, you can choose tomorrow what one thing you will accomplish. Then next week maybe you’ll find two things. Even if those two things are washing a load of laundry and then putting it away.

When the expectations of the world are beating at the door and all you can do is pretend you aren’t home, just know that even if you don’t feel ok, you are ok. And tomorrow you can walk towards that door. And the day after that you can unlock it. And the day after that maybe you’ll open it.

But right now, you don’t have to be productive. You don’t have to be on time. You don’t have to be organized or pulled together or stylish or smart or lovely at all. You can just be you and you can just love Jesus.

That is enough for today.

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ABOUT ARIANNE

Arianne is a freelance writer/blogger, editor of SimpleDesign.net and mom of three boys and a baby girl. She lives in Phoenix, AZ, sifting through the Legos and trains and fluffy cloth diapers hoping...

May 21, 2013

You Are The Brave Ones

Tags:  (in)couragers

Dear friends who build benches -

You are the brave ones, the ones who see a need and slide over to make room for your sister. You bring cupcakes and coffee and invite others in with a warm smile. You choose not to wait to be invited before building community. You look out your window and feel God nudging you to be the one – the one who invites, encourages, welcomes, because the woman down the street? On Twitter? Faithfully leaving comments on your blog? You’ve been where she is and you want to offer her a safe place to sit down, take a deep breath, and feel free to be herself.

The (in)courager leaders? They are bench builders. They welcome strangers from around the world into small group community. They plan, check in, pray over, cheer with, and love on. They are the women who hold open the doors and make room for one more. They stand aside and watch in awe as God shows up and does a good work.

Here are some of their own words, from our last session:

  • This group was amazing in so many ways. During this past session we had many tragedies that affected our group. As a result we bonded stronger than ever as prayer warriors, bombarding Heaven in behalf of our sister(s) who were struggling. We shared concerns and praises. We are a very strong group! Thank you, Lord!
  • It’s been so beautiful to come together with women struggling with infertility (and those who have experienced it in the past) and pray, share our hearts, have a safe place among women. THANK YOU for opening this group–community can be hard for any woman, but infertile women can feel especially lost and isolated. Thank you for creating a space for us to come together.
  • I love this. So much. It has helped me be brave enough to connect deeply with women in real life. To share my own hauntings and be a safe place for others struggling to survive each day as a mum.
  • I am so thankful God encouraged me to go another round and stick with this community thing. He blessed me and taught me so much this time around. This group has been amazing and such a needed thing for pastor’s wives. It has truly been a place of exhortation and praise and I am so so thankful for that. God has shown up!

And to you, the bench-seekers? You are the brave ones. The ones who have not given up on community. You who hold onto the hope that there is a place for you, somewhere you can be yourself – exactly as God created you. You trust that God will answer your prayer for women who know what it’s like to walk THIS road – your road – and you search for them. You connect with a new friend on Twitter, follow a few Facebook pages, and leave blog comments faithfully, hoping to connect with like-minded sisters.

These are comments from some women – just like you – who found their bench with (in)couragers:

  • It’s a great community where I can share with people who get where I am coming from. We are aligned in experience AND faith, which makes it a lot easier to get great advice, and prayer!
  • The women in this group supported each other through prayer and art and conversation. I feel as though I have made RL friends even though I haven’t met any of them (except for one) in person… I like the fact that each group is welcoming and nurturing–ready with a prayer and a pat on the back or a virtual hand held.
  • As a somewhat new blogger/writer, the group encouraged me to have more confidence in myself as a writer. They also shared so much information on improving the skill. I felt so blessed to be a part of the group…many new friendships were made.
  • I felt included! I felt like the other ladies knew exactly what I was going through, my struggles, my joys, in a way that others just can’t. It feels difficult to meet and make time to get to know other special needs moms, but to find a whole group of them, and also to share the same faith… It gave me so much peace to know that I am not alone, although physically I am not with them, I felt their strength and courage and it made me feel stronger and more courageous.

This summer? Whether you’re a bench builder, bench seeker, or just in need of a fun and encouraging place to connect with some friends, you’re invited to join us at the (in)courager Facebook page. We’ll be joining with the Bloom book club, kicking back, making new friends, and getting ready for our fall small group session. You can find more details on the Find Friends page!

We can’t wait to see you – we have a spot saved just for you.

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