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Angela Nazworth is a shame-fighting storyteller who writes mostly about the beauty of grace, faith, friendship, vulnerability and community. She is a wife and a mother of two. Angela's also an encourager, a lover of good books, coffee, girl's night out, sunshine, and waterfalls. In the 15 years since she...

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  1. You’re talking about ME here!! What is it about being the ‘new kid on the block’ that makes you all of a sudden second guess yourself, and self-analyze over everything you do and say….
    BUT – like you, am learning to love myself a little more like He does….
    Beautifully written….
    xx

  2. Angela…this post blew me away! How right you are. As a military wife, I have been “the new girl” in an array of situations more times than I can count. Placing my eyes on Him is the only way to leave the proverbial women’s activity and not play 20 questions about my looks, words, and behavior!
    Well done, girl!

  3. I so relate! I love being in the company of my Sisters in Christ and some other women gatherings, however, I am usually the one who is quiet with a plastered smile on my face in between stuffing food into mouth hoping that no one asks me anything. But I kinda really do want to be talked to, but I worry about saying the wrong thing or saying too much or not even saying enough.
    I tell ya! 🙂
    smooches,
    Larie

  4. You’re right, Angela!
    For some of us, LIFE is one big series of social situations in which to feel awkward.
    Discovering who Christ is and who we are IN Him is the best starting place.
    Social skills can be acquired, but don’t dismiss who you are while acquiring. If you are quiet or contemplative by nature, you don’t need to become someone else. Your inherent personality is a gift, not something to be ashamed of.
    Watch the people you admire. What are they doing that is unlocking doors? Anything there you can pick up from them? God does not leave us without mentors and examples. Look around. Don’t try to BE them, but see what tip you can pick up, what God is showing you.
    In our own discomfort we often miss that someone else is just as uncomfortable or awkward feeling or in need….maybe even that confident-looking outgoing person. You just never know.
    Sorry for the little lecture. I’m a wallflower by nature, but have learned to navigate the social waters.

  5. Oh my goodness, I am such a social butterfly, but I still get so self-conscious around other social butterflies – I am much more comfortable around the quiet, warm, calm women…I am so easily intimidated! When around very outgoing women, I tend to shut down, get real quiet, and feel so out of place – even though I am naturally very outgoing. Weird. Anyway, I hope to meet you someday. I have a feeling you are just the warm cup of coffee person I would love to sit down with, one on one, and chat for hours.

  6. I SO used to be all of those women,except the 2nd one. About 2 years ago I was able to move beyond my insecurity and am now woman #2. It feels great! Sometimes I still ask the questions mentioned, but get over it pretty quickly. If I was being true to myself and having Christ like character, then I give the glory to God.

  7. Sweet post 🙂
    I moved around a lot as a kid….so like you….I learned to mingle and be social. But often times not without butterflies 🙂
    Remembering that God loves me whether I have on wrinkled pants or not..helps 🙂
    Blessings,
    Kate 🙂

  8. Thank you for this post. We need to remember this when we have vistors at our churches. Let’s meet people where they are.
    My Mother-in-law was once asked to lead the group in prayer on her visit to a new church. (I think I would have turned and walked out!)
    I once left a service at a church (that was clearly not my cup of tea) in a new city only to have a man in a suit literally run after me and grab me by the arm! I am a shy person and had recently been mugged so this REALLY shook me up. No doubt he thought he was being friendly.