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Sarah Mae has a past that would be her present if it weren’t for Jesus. A blogger, author, and co-author of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe, she’s currently writing The Complicated Heart, a book for broken-hearted lovers of Jesus. Learn more at @thecomplicatedheart on Instagram or...

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  1. I also went ahead and read the rest of the story.
    The part about how detached you were rings true! It is that way with many types of past wounds.
    Your ability to identify specific changes – ability to hug and to enjoy children – is great. Many people know the promises about being set free, but only some actually LIVE it and experience it. Many blessings on your writing and ministry! Your voice is a much-needed one.

  2. I’d like to offer a little enouragement from a different perspective. My mom had 2 abortions before she had me. She was young and on a very destructive path. I found out about this when I was 17 (now 26) and she struggled so much with accepting forgiveness on this issue. But oddly enough, it gave me purpose. My mom’s decisions made me realize that God has a promising purpose for me. He didn’t have to give her a 3rd chance to have me. But for some reason I’m here through her. My mom’s deepest regret is where I find deep confidence in a plan that God has for me.

  3. Oh Sarah Mae – I wish I could travel back in time to hug that sixteen year old you. But I am sure Jesus was there already. Holding, hugging, comforting, loving, forgiving.
    It is an honor to hear your truth.

  4. Sarah Mae, I so appreciate your honesty. Your courage is inspiring and will give you so much depth in your relationship with God and others. I love 2 Corinthians 1:3-7…it has given me so much courage and purpose in sharing my own story of sin, confession, repentance and healing. Thanks for sharing so openly! Blessings, Brooke

  5. Between readin this post this morning and reading @tothink’s still birth story last night (http://www.tothinkistocreate.com/2010/01/11/living-water/) I’m a blubbering mess.
    A friend of mine is going through a hard time right now and it was her who reminded me of the song “Blessed be your name”… so blessed be His name… in the land that is plentiful… AND on the road marked with suffering.
    It is stories like these that help people understand the very real value of each little life. To the mother. To those around her. To God.
    THank you for sharing.

  6. Sarah Mae, you inspire me with your courage to share such a personal heart-wrenching story. I am so thankful for the day that the Lord called you to himself and gave you not only salvation, but forgiveness and hope.
    with much love,
    Robin

  7. Sarah Mae-
    I’m so glad I came by today. You are a wonderful soul and thank you so much for being honest in your writing. Your story is so needed and I am passing this on to others who have struggled in the same way. How awesome that the Lord sees past where we are and draws us to Him to lead us forward for His Glory. You are being used by Him and that is clear.

  8. Sarah Mae, What courage, what a blessing to Christian women your story is! I am encouraged by your testimony of God’s faithfulness, forgiveness, and ability to set free!
    I can’t wait to meet you at Blissdom (you’re coming, right?). I’m going to give you a big hug!!!

  9. Oh my gosh Sarah Mae. I too, wish I could have been there to give you comfort…but oh how wonderful God’s grace is. To share this with everyone really shows how wonderful you truly are. I know that it took more strength and courage than you alone could muster up. I don’t know what else to say….besides I you.

  10. The courageous spirit you have when you write moves me to tears. Your story that you openly share in your posts makes a relationship with Christ so real. Thank you for opening your life so that others may open their hearts and minds to the love of Christ.

  11. Thank you for your willingness to be so open about your past. it is so easy to say “I confessed to God” and be done with it. And sometimes that really is all we need to do! But there are moments when we are presented with the opportunity to share our strength and His forgiveness with others. It makes us vulnerable to misunderstanding, vulnerability, and you were so willing to take that chance :0).Many will be blessed and encouraged by your faithfulness! Cyber hugs!

  12. Sarah Mae – thank you for sharing such a deep dark story, and the second half which is filled with so much hope. I have tears in my eyes for you, and what you’ve been through.

  13. I volunteer at a local pregnancy center, I hear the pain of women just like you on a weekly basis. The clinics tell women that it will be over soon, but they don’t tell them about the years of agonizing regrets that the women will face. It is an ugly industry.
    Thank you for sharing your story, it may give other women courage to share their own.

  14. Sarah Mae, you are a truth-teller, a woman who opens her heart and spills it out–beauty and brokenness together–like the woman who poured out glorious perfume and wiped the feet of Jesus with it. The fragrance of His work in your life fills your words and brings hope and healing to all us. Thank you.

  15. Your words are filled with transparency, honesty, and bravery; I know your story will touch a lot of women. Thank you for sharing this. I just know God is using you to bring many others hope.

  16. Bless you for having the courage to share your story. I sat in a clinic and faced a similar decision when I was 16- Jared is 13 1/2 now and I thank God I don’t have to wonder what if….(((hugs))) to you. God uses you in incredible ways!

  17. Yes, that question of how many pregnancies have you had….threw me every time also. Even at 50, when a OBGYN asks, I remember the one I discarded so thoughtlessly. A few years ago, a Dr asked me why I seemed at peace with it when so many women can’t reconcile their hearts with the action. I told him it is one thing. I know I’m forgiven. The grief is a simple sadness for the young girl who didn’t know, didn’t want to know, didn’t know where or who to go to. I have forgiven her also.
    Thanks for sharing your heart. I hope many women will find such peace.
    We are beloved…..anyways….in spite of ourselves. Grace is that good. THe good news is really this good.

  18. Thank you so much for your honesty. I went through the same thing when I was 17 and sometimes I feel like my whole life is a lie. I bask in God’s grace every day and know He loves me. But I can completely relate to filling out medical forms and having to answer how many pregnancies you’ve had and such. I can’t participate in fundraisers for the Christian Pregnancy Center because it stings a little too much.

  19. I just wanted to reach through the screen and give you a hug. God’s grace and redemption power is what enables us to share these stories. Funny how so many of them are similar.
    I love you even more for being bold (with the same resurrection power that raised Christ!) and sharing your story.
    Cathy

  20. Thank you for sharing your testimony to help other women choose life and avoid the suffering you went though or to help them find healing.
    I want to offer this link for help finding healing: hopeafterabortion.com
    Also, there is a group of women (and men!) who are standing together to share how abortion has impacted their lives: SilentNoMoreAwareness.org
    It’s so easy to mask the reality with a nice euphemism like ‘choice” and so again, I thank you for sharing.

  21. Oh my, what beautiful honesty!
    Praise Jesus for the Grace we all receive, and for the loveliness of his daughters.
    Thank you so much for this Sarah Mae.
    Cxx

  22. I too had an abortion, actually 2. I was 17 and then at 18,a year later after I got married I got another one. I didn’t think much about it then. I guess I tried not to think too much about it. But after I had my 3 sons and they were gone fishing with my husband, I was working around the house, listening to Focus on the Family and a dramatized story came on, “Tilly” by Frank Peretti. It was about a woman who had an abortion and she was dreaming about heaven and all the aborted babies. I broke down and sobbed my eyeballs out. Then I asked forgiveness and I’ve been so changed since then. I want to do something to help other women who’ve been through this. Linda

  23. I wish I could/ve been your grandmother! together we would have kept your baby. thank you for sharing your story. hopefully you will help other 16 year olds.
    My first baby died in her sleep when she was 9 weeks old, so I know a little about what you are feeing.Thank God, I had 6 children after that and appreciated them so much. so will you.
    Love to you.

  24. I am so sorry for your pain. Clearly, abortion was not the right choice for you, and equally clearly, you were not allowed to make a choice at all.
    My own experience was very different. My abortion saved my life, and I was loved, supported, and treated respectfully every step of the way. I will forever be grateful that safe, legal abortion was available to me when I needed it, and that I had the right to choose. I am so sorry that you did not.
    May you know peace.

  25. Your story is heart-wrenching — a friend of mine had the same experience. I’ll probably become the most hated women in the blogosphere for this, but “my husband and I’s” is incorrect. Would you say “It’s I’s first”? Tell people it’s “my husband’s and my first” or “it’s my and my husband’s first” but I’s is NOT personal possessive.

  26. Wow. I am going to save this story to show my daughter (who is only 3 years now) when she is old enough. I hope by doing so she can learn from you so that she never has to go through what you went through.
    You are very brave to share this with the world.
    As others have said, you may have felt alone at the time, but you were, in fact, within the loving arms of our Lord who shared your heartache.

  27. Too many of us are unable to speak out, even years later as we hide in shame. My family does not know about my abortion, I made the decision while my parents were in the middle of an ugly divorce. I had no family to turn to, I was at Catholic school and could not tell a teacher, and the baby’s father did not “rescue” me when I said “It’s my problem,I’ll take care of it.” He offered to pay, I refused because I felt it was my responsibility.
    I made my CHOICE because I had been drinking, and was convinced the baby would be born brain damaged because of my actions. I didn’t want an unhealthy baby-my parents were divorcing and I had nowhere to turn. I went for my FIRST gyn exam to Planned Parenthood-where they gave me 24 hours to abort “It” or it would be too late. They never called “it” a baby.
    Years later, I found out my parents divorced because my Mom was pregnant and my Dad insisted she abort-we were a rich family and did not need to be burdened with another child. In our family home, two babies were aborted. Nobody knew about mine.
    Years later, I married, waited 5 years to have my perfect child, and gave birth to a son who was later diagnosed with autism. I wasted the life of my unborn child.
    Forgiven by God, not forgiven by self.

  28. Wow. All I can say is God is real in you, Sarah. What a beautiful, courageous woman you are. I finished your story in Part II, and I was smiling, “Hallelujah” here in the dark with you. Thank you for sharing God’s powerful work of turning darkness in light — and how warm and bright it is!

  29. wow, i’m off to read part 2. my heart aches for you. i’ve known people who have had abortions but they’ve never explained their deep deep inner feelings. were you saved at the time? just curious how this all played a part in your walk with God.
    i’m loving your blog Sarah! thanks for sharing.

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