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Mary is a writer and speaker who lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons – but lives because of God’s grace. She writes about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places at MaryCarver.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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  1. My man is always (really…always) so good at forgiving me instantly. For our family, he is such a wonderful reflection of Christ’s love. I could take a lesson from him and you!
    Thanks so much for writing this!

  2. From a fellow eye-roller I can feel your pain. I have to think about it to avoid doing it.
    The Lord led me to teach a Sunday school class. One of the most faithful members is a woman whose son gives everyone a hard time. There were some hard feelings there, but we were able to forgive and move on. Such a blessing to me.

  3. I found myself laughing at this post, knowing I am a eye roller, too. I will try to remember the “close my eyes” method. Although, I may find myself sitting with my eyes closed for a long time, next time I visit my mother in law. There, I said it.
    Seriously though, instant forgiveness is rarely experienced by most people. I think so many people have anger, hurt, fears, anxieties… They are so consumed with their own pain, they don’t want ease the pain of others, offering the same grace they seek for themselves.
    So, I need to remember it is up to me to offer that grace to others, knowing I don’t deserve the grace given to me.
    Thanks, Mary. Good post.

  4. Oh my, i so remember getting on to my girls for their eye rolling… so really unimportant now and so easy for me to “see ” that through your post and the years past since they have grown. Oh such “Grace” to remember in my everyday life… THANK YOU!

  5. I’ve been told by my mother… and teachers… and my husband that “my face tells everything.” Even when I think I’m sneakily concealing my true emotions (anger, frustration, annoyance, etc.) and putting on a poker face, apparently it’s crystal clear to everyone what I’m REALLY thinking.
    Sometimes it’s a bummer not to be able to fool everyone, but it reminds me to work on my attitude at heart, and not just my facial control. Cuz apparently I stink at that anyways 😉

  6. Girl, I can’t wait to see those eyes roll in person at Blissdom–I’m sure I will do something worthy of that. (: Thanks for the reminder about everyday grace, my favorite kind!