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  1. Thank you so much for this post. Isn’t it amazing what we thought we knew about marriage on that wonderful day, and now wishing we had the knowledge and wisdom we have grown into back then. Not so many dumb mistakes on my part, I know that! Husbands are such a wonderful gift from God and they are just want we need! God is great! Have a blessed week.

  2. Wow. I’m here asking for prayer for my marriage. It is in trouble. 13 years of marriage took a hard hit last summer when my husband made some bad decisions while reconnecting with some old female friends from his high school days. I keep wondering how did we get here? Life is hard, and when your marriage is in trouble it hurts. I need to know someone else has been here and is ok. I need to know I will make it. I need to know how God looks at this situation. Prayers are welcome.

  3. Beautifully written and oh-so true. One thing the husband and I did this year is to create a shared bucket list. I know that sounds morbid, but the list of shared goals (some silly, some serious, some just down-right fun) has brought us closer together and forced us to be more intentional. (Oh, and our wedding anniversary is December 5th, too.)

  4. A beautiful post and reminder to me that love is a verb and choices I make in obedience to God. I ask for your prayers in my marriage, it is spiritually unequal and difficult. We have been married almost 20 years and I ask myself is it worth it? I just need the reminder that God’s love is enough for me.
    Thank you for sharing

  5. I was unfaithful to my husband of 6.5 years and recently told him. We are now trying hard with all that we have to restore our marriage. If you could keep us in your prayers, I would greatly appreciate it.

  6. My husband and I are going through a tough time after 36 years of marriage. Work, family issues, and disappointments are contributing to his deep depression and he doesn’t seem able to pull himself up. I have tried everything, but he won’t go for help or accept what this is doing to our marriage. I would appreciate prayers as God is sorely needed!

  7. Single girl turning 30 on Saturday here needing prayers. The birthday is often difficult being just before Valentine’s Day but this year it feels…like it’s looming in a bad way. I’m struggling to trust that it will work out for me someday (sooner rather than later).
    I almost didn’t click over to read the whole post for fear that I’d feel worse after reading yet another marriage post but I just need to remember that even on the other side times can be difficult as well.

  8. What a beautiful post, Lysa. I am single & continue to struggle with it, because I would really like a husband to walk through life with. Thank you for offering to pray for us. My heart is hurting & I very much appreciate your prayers.

  9. appreciate the post and the prayers. 7 kids after that long-ago wedding day, a corporate merger, financial woes, coming up on 3 in college and 2 not even in preschool, home schooling…..and the rest…..
    we seem to have lost ‘us’. It’s not hostile. It’s more ‘lists and logistics’. Both of us missing the hand-holding days but just so tired.

  10. Thank you for this article today. Very appropriate because I feel faith is disapeaing fast for this marriage of less than 2 years.
    PLEASE pray that God will convict both our hearts that is is our combined responsibility to work on this marriage or it will not make it.
    Thank you.

  11. Please pray for my friends, Sheri and Ross, who have struggled and felt broken and distant for many years. To quote Sheri’s email to me yesterday, “I won’t lie about it, our marriage definitely needs prayer. We are so completely different in our views about very important issues (ie. children and their upbringing) that it just doesn’t seem possible that our marriage will survive. It won’t without God’s help, that is certain.” They have two girls, a boy, and are expecting baby #4 next month.

  12. Please PLEASE pray for me. I’m a single girl, mid-40’s and God has placed the most wonderful man in my life. Here’s the problem – I am a PRO when it comes to sabotaging relationships. I’ve done it my whole life and I feel powerless to stop the cycle. It’s a fear of commitment, fear of rejection, fear of hurt and it has effectively ruined many relationships. I don’t want this to continue and for the first time, I’m actively seeking help for it. Thank you.

  13. Thank you for this post, and for your offer of prayer for my family and others. My husband and I combined families two years ago, and it’s been difficult, and at times cruel, from the start. We’ve had nothing but protests and problems from the two oldest, who are adults in their twenties. Because of the issues with his children, my husband wants to keep the families separate, and therefore it’s separating us. My husband wants to be a part of both worlds, but I am not allowed to be a part of his. I am sure you can imagine the problems that surround us. I am set to move within the next few months, and unless a miracle happens within our family, my plans will not be altered. My health was bad when we married, and it has only continued to deteriorate. The constant stress just makes me feel worse. Your prayers are appreciated and needed so very much. Thank you.

  14. Please pray for my marriage. We have been married about 3 1/2 years and it has been a nearly-constant battle. I struggle with anger and say very hurtful, sharp things to him. Please pray that I would control my anger and choose to love him, when I don’t feel loved. We have two children and I desperately want them to grow up with two parents who love each other.

  15. So thankful that you added in the part for us single ladies–especially this week! I would love for some prayer for my future hopes and dreams 🙂

  16. Hi,
    Please pray for me as my entire life seems like a cycle of broken relationships for one reason or another. Now I look at love bitterly and believe that marriage can never happen for me or never be happy. I still have a strong desire to someday have a family I just don’t see how it can ever happen for me. To me, everyone who says they love me will leave me eventually.

  17. Thank you, for this post and your prayers. My ex-husband and I are reconciling (which you would think would be a good thing – and it is); however, my family is not very accepting of him or our decision. I was not perfect in our marriage but it was some very bad and dangerous decisions on his part that led to our divorce. When it comes to family gatherings, I have to not attend or subject us all to my family’s lack of acceptance.
    To Valerie: I have been where you are. It is one of the reasons we got divorced. In fact, my biggest hangup right now is the trust issue where it comes to women. However, it is getting better. Prayer and conversations really help. It’s very important for both of us to re-establish trust as he works with a few females – absolutely unavoidable. So you are definitely not alone. I will say a prayer for you today.

  18. please pray for my fiance and i. we are 10 weeks from marriage and we had a nightmarish conversation last night that seemed unreal this morning. both having been married before aged 27 and 32, we are already bound in our commitment to each other, but are in desparate need of prayer. we have sought out guidance from our pastors and are looking for a group of young men and women our age in Christ who are able to relate to us and seek a fellowship in Him that would be helpful to ourselves and each other…please lift us both in your prayer.

  19. Please pray for my marriage. My husband has decided that we need a divorce. He doesn’t love me anymore. We will be married 23 years this year. I need miracle.
    Thank you so much.

  20. What a beautiful reminder that I needed. My dear hubby and I have had some bumps this past year and this weekend was a bump of harsh words and arguing Something we do not do often. Please pray I will be more wise in my words and love my husband for who he is and not try to change him into who I want him to be.

  21. please pray for my husband and i. We have been married 10 years and at times it seems like we can not connect the way we need to, we need prayer

  22. Lysa,
    I just got out a relationship from a man I thought I was going to marry! Nothing was official and I am so thankful my Dad had the worship to ask him to wait to propose. Right now I can’t bring myself to dream the dream of marriage or anything else again, it hurts so bad. I know God inspired me to make the right decision but it’s still so hard. Thanks for your inspiring blogs and prayers!

  23. Thank you for remembering the singles I am not married yet… but that is one of my deepest desires. Any and all prayers are so appreciated.

  24. Lysa, I read one of your blogs on here, then I saw you on CBN. The brownie story is soo like something I would do. I recently picked up some of your books. I would consider it an honor for you to pray for us. We have been married for almost 9 years. I was something of a clutter bug before I got married. My husband was a pack rat. During our first year of marriage we had 4 family deaths, including his dad and my mom. Since then he’s become a hoarder. We have tons of rubbermaid containers everywhere. some rooms are filled top to bottom, only paths between the bins. We constantly bicker. We have 2 boys, the oldest is 6 and is now doing some hoarding. There is no place of peace in our home. My husband rarely laughs any more. I know that God brought us together. I know that this is not the life He wants for us.

  25. Lysa, thanks for this awesome post. As my husband and I prepare to celebrate 15 years this summer…. one thing that struck me in your post ~~ not a conversation about work, kids, schedules, etc…. what a great reminder. Those conversations, real ones come only when we choose to make time for them and prioritize them. Great post! Thanks Lysa!

  26. Lysa, thanks for this, & for your prayers – I covet them! I am single & in my 40’s, never married, & have been praying for the husband God has for me. I love how the Lord has taken me from the pit, & thankful that He has given me this desire. I don’t understand the waiting, but am praising Him in it. Thank you.

  27. Great Awesome Super Post! I just clicked on your site from Mary-Hess….
    We learned from “bad” experience just how important it is to love on each other & not to fall into a “rut” of taking each other for granted & losing the communication. Thankfully we were restored by God’s mercy & grace & it is now our calling to tell others!
    We continually pray for all the marriages that are in that “rut” right now. God CAN TRANSFORM a difficult (& many times completely shattered) marriages!

  28. Thank you for the post and the offer to pray. This morning I had to remind my stepson many, many times that everyday I CHOOSE to love him. (I may not like some action or choice he makes but I love HIM.) Each morning before I get out of bed (alone now for the past 10 days), I tell myself that I will choose to love my husband and I think about that choice throughout the day.
    I am encouraged to hear stories of anyone who has made it through a few fires and is willing to speak up to those of us feeling the burn right now.

  29. Wow! My marriage has been in trouble for over 9 yrs. We will be married for 25 yrs. this July. Our trouble marriage all started when we got into financial trouble, then he lost his good paying job. After that it just kept going down hill. I lost a job I had been at for 22 yrs. now after going through about 5 more jobs (which I didn’t get fired but just quit) I am not working because I haven’t been able to find a job. My last job they asked me to leave because there was not going to be room for me after the company was bought by another company and I had been physically sick so much. Please just pray all this will pass, my bad marriage (which I want to stay married), my job situation, and pray God will help our son, who is 19, find a job and beable to go to school this summer.

  30. Thank you, Lysa. This post touched my heart. I have always longed to be married and that dream seemed like an unreachable star. But just recently the Lord has brought a Christian man into my life and the future looks bright. But the divorce statistics and all the unhappy marriages are enough to scare me. I long to be happily married… not just married. Would you pray for me? Thank you so much!

  31. Thanks Lysa,for your post. Yes, please pray for my marriage…my husband has been having and affair and is still being dishonest and hiding things. He is preparing to move out, he says he doesn’t want to hurt me anymore and he doesn’t love me anymore. I pray that he’ll see the error in his ways, that he’ll seek God out and that we will have a chance to rebuild our marriage. He had a traveling job in the past and has been on two military deployments. We have had the cards stacked against us, but now he has a new job and no deployments in view…I pray that God will use this time for healing for us and our family…we are coming up on our 18th anniversary soon and have 3 children…thank you for your prayers.

  32. Oh, Father God, I have read these stories, parts I have lived. My heart is breaking for these precious women that I don’t know but yet do and I am asking You to help them. I am asking You to tend to them; to send help with skin on it to each one; comfort and hold them and send them godly counselors and give them courage to trust and courage to lean so very hard on You.Somehow don’t let one precious woman not KNOW that You are able to work the miracle she needs. And, ABBA, those men are just as dear to You; their sins against You and their wives have not changed Your love for them; please make sure they know that; make sure they know You in them can overcome and they can be whole. Make sure each one knows they in You can be whole; that they can repent and be holy before You. That You can do the impossible and You are more willing to do it than any of us have ever been to receive it. Thank You for letting me pray and thank You for answering in Jesus Name. Amen and amen.

  33. Beautiful! Please pray for my marriage. We are separated by a military deployment right now, what a strain. Thank you!

  34. What a beautiful post! Thank you. My husband and I are currently watching some friends approach divorce. And, honestly, it’s somehow affecting our own marriage, I think. Please pray for our friends. And for us. I so badly want our marriage to be used for God’s glory, especially in the lives of our friends who are going through this. Thank you.

  35. It will be nine years ago, on the 24th of this month, that my husband and I vowed “till death do us part.” Your statement:
    “Sometimes I wish I could go back in time and talk to my younger self who was dawning a veil about to prance down the aisle. I would caution that bride girl that you don’t feel your way into real love.”
    is so descriptive of how I feel. It has become so easy for us to fall into the mundane of the everyday. We are stressed financially and overwhelmed by the responsibilities of home, work, school and 3 (soon to be 4) children.
    One of the things we have began doing in the last few weeks are “Lil Wifey Morning Updates.” Everyday I send my husband a text message with 5 or 6 of the highlights from our morning. This way he feels connected to what’s going on with myself and our children at home. I found that by the time he got home in the evening a lot of what had occurred in the morning was forgotten. Plus, there’s the rush of children, dinner to prepare and homework to get done that can tend to distract us from catching up with each other.
    This has been a small, but fun, way to include my husband and help him to know we miss him and want him involved in our lives.

  36. Thanks for your words today. I’ve been married 21 yrs., 2 kids and recently found out my husband had an affair. He says he wants to make it work, but everything remains incredibly empty and shallow. Not sure what the future holds, but I grab onto little bits of grace, hope and encouragement when I can. Thanks for praying! I’ll be praying for the others as well.

  37. Lysa, I’ve shared brief snippets with you about my marriage, never too detailed because I know you have so much to do. I’m sure you get lots of requests and would never hold you to continual prayer. But, if you would, just pray for me when you pray for the other requests. There was no infidelity in my marriage. Just a lot of pain and baggage to cause my Christian husband to turn from our God-given marriage. It’s been a long 2.8 yrs since he left but still feel convicted to believe in God to restore. God is a god of impossibles. Impossible odds lead to amazing miracles. If it’s not impossible, then do we really see it as a miracle?
    Thank you for all you do and for WHO you are. You are precious lady of the Lord.

  38. Thank you for this post and the honest sincerity. For the single ladies, don’t give up hope, I married at 46 for the first time. I found it is hard work. We have a difficult time communicating and he can lose his temper. I’m also step-mom to his teenage daughter and that is very hard. Thank you for your prayers for us to learn how to communicate in a godly way. Blessings.

  39. Dear God,
    I love You. I ask that you bless each of these women who posted. Please fulfill Your amazing plan for each of their lives. Thanks for joys. Please heal brokenness. May Your lavish, abundant Love pour out on every woman’s heart. Please provide wisdom, discernment, counsel, and strength. Please provide miracles.
    Thank You for being so faithful to each and every one of us.
    You are so good. Thank you. In Jesus’ Name, amen.

  40. Lysa~ I am constantly in aw of your message. You are always touching my heart with your words. My husband and I are in a difficult season of our marriage right now and coming up on our 10th year anniversary. We just had our first “marriage counseling” session last week with our church. Please pray for us to have soft, kind and forgiving hearts for one another and for God to open our hearts to the love we once had for one another so that we can forgive, grow and care for one another. Thank You So Much for your message!

  41. Thanks, Lysa, for such a great post. Love is a verb of giving and giving without expecting in return. Relying on Christ for that grace, that strength, that surrender is hard right now. After 25 years of a good marriage, I am hitting a place of self-doubt and emptiness and could use words of encouragement and appreciation from my husband and it’s not happening. I keep giving this to God and taking it back again. Please pray that I would rely on God for His love and encouragement. Thanks so much.

  42. Your words are always moving and greatly appreciated! Since you’re offering to pray… my husband and I are working through the “in sickness and in health” portion of our vows, as my husband’s back has recently been injured and has left me with all of the physical responsibilities of caring for a home and a family with very small children. My husband is an incredible man and I love him to no end, but I could never have anticipated the strain poor health can have on a marriage. Your prayers would be forever appreciated! Thank you for your thoughtful post!

  43. Lysa, “The Best Is Yet To Come”…that seems to be one of my quotes to live by…because I know that God has a plan for my life and for my marriage, as I seek Him and His ways. I’ve been married for 32 years. My husband is an unbeliever…and God has been faithful to lead & guide me as my desire is to be obedient to the Lord and trust in Him alone. My husband can’t possibly meet all my needs, but God promised that He will never leave me nor forsake me. We’ve had some rough roads to walk in our marriage…and I can honestly say that I’m so glad we stuck it out during the hard times….now I am beginning to have a new perspective on our marriage and God is showing me how to love…unconditionally. Life is tough, but God is faithful…and His promises are true…as we wait upon Him. One thing we have done for the past 9+ years is a weekly “date night” every Tuesday! We both look forward to our Tuesday together…sometimes we go to our favorite Mexican restaurant, or to the beach for a picnic in the summer time…or out to a movie…whatever we do, it’s just fun to be out on a date together….and we hold hands all the time! Life is so short….we need to cherish each moment, because we never know when it might be our last day.

  44. I feel like we may be on the upswing. But you know how satan doesn’t want you to feel that way. he wants you to feel like trouble is just around the corner. Your prayers would be amazing. thank you.

  45. Dear Lisa ~ I rejoice that you have such a wonderful marriage. And your insights are beautiful. But my marriage is ending, and I would so much appreciate your prayers for my children and myself. Please pray for us as we deal with my husband’s leaving me. Two blocks away from us, he is living with his mother, who has never approved of our Christian, home schooling life-style, and who has always been overly-protective of her only son. Despite the separation of three months, my husband is still trying to control our lives, including limiting the money we have available to live on. He has come by the house numerous times and there have been altercations, even one where the police had to be summoned. He has also filed papers for custody rights of the two younger children (13 and 16), who want to stay with me. (Our oldest son is 19 and lives here at home as he attends the local community college.) I am under such daily stress dealing with such varied emotions: rejection, disbelief, fear, anger. I beg your prayers and thank the Lord for your kindness. May you all be blessed abundantly.