I think we all get to a place sometimes in our life where we have to honestly assess, “how I am doing?”
It’s not really a conversation I have with a friend or family member. It’s one of those middle of night contemplations where there’s no one to fool. There’s no glossing over the realities staring me in the face.
I know certain things about myself need to change but it’s easier to make excuses than tackle them head on. Rationalizations are so appealing:
I’m good in every other area.
I make so many sacrifices already.
I need this comfort in this season of life- I’ll deal with it later.
I just can’t give this up.
The Bible doesn’t specifically say this is wrong.
It’s not really a problem, if I really wanted to make a change, I could— I just don’t want to right now.
Oh for heaven’s sake, everyone has issues, so what if this is mine.
And on and on and on.
But excuses always get me no where fast. That’s why a few years ago I had to get honest in the area of healthy eating. Even if that’s not your issue, I suspect these same scripts of rationalization have played out in your mind over other things.
So, the cycle continues day after day, week after week, year after year.
A whole lifetime could be spent making excuses, giving in, feeling guilty, resolving to do better, mentally beating myself up for not sticking to my resolve, feeling like a failure, and then resigning that things can’t change.
And I finally decided I didn’t want to spend a life time in this cycle.
Nothing changed until I made the choice to change. I had to want it, spiritually, physically and mentally. The battle really is in all three areas.
Spiritually: In Colossians 3: 1-5 we are told to set our minds and our hearts on things above. In order to do this, we have to put to death whatever belongs to our earthly nature which sets itself up as an idol in my life.
Idolatry is trying to get my needs met outside the will of God.
Bingo. I couldn’t deny it. This described food for me at times.
For the sake of my spiritual health, it was time to get honest.
More times than I cared to admit, I turned to food when I should have turned to God. I relied on the temporary high of food to try and quiet the cries of my spiritually hungry soul. And no matter how I tried to excuse away my struggles with my weight, I wasn’t at peace.
Physically: I couldn’t keep my weight stable in a medically healthy range for any period of time. I would loose weight but would always gain it back. Now, I was at a place where a doctor had labeled me obese.
For the sake of my physical health, it was time to get honest.
According to an extensive study done by Northwestern University, calorie restriction is the key ingredient for managing weight issues. Of course, they state that exercise is also important but good nutrition is crucial.
Bingo. I can’t deny it. It does matter what I eat. My weight is a reflection of what I consume.
Mentally: Don’t settle. Don’t compromise. What happens when you cut the “com” off of the word compromise? You’re left with a “promise.”
We were made for more than compromise. We were made for God’s promises in all areas of our life.
Honestly. I am made for more than a vicious cycle of eating, gaining, stressing– eating, gaining, stressing…
For the sake of my emotional health, it was time to get honest.
I was made to consume food. But, food was never supposed to consume me.
Sweet sister, getting honest with myself in my struggles with my weight was a crucial first step to finding victory. Is there an honest admission you need to make today? I’d love to walk with you through the process of change. It’s why I wrote my new book, “Made to Crave- satisfying life’s deepest desires with God not food.”
Remember, as a Jesus girl, it is possible to rise up, do battle with our issues, and using the Lord’s strength in us, defeat them- spiritually, physically, and mentally- to the glory of God.