It was a perfect July day at a lake in Minnesota. Out on a boat, smooth water and soft breeze was made better only by the company. A spouse, siblings, in-laws – best friends all of them – laughing and having deep conversations and just enough fun to not tell the kids about.
The only thing that marred the day in any way was a simple bee sting on his toe. And that random act is the thing that killed my Dad. A farmer, who was never allergic to any sting before, randomly died of anaphylactic shock.
That one word haunted me then and has been haunting me again.
Random.
I know why. It’s been a year now since that day. It’s been a year since the whisper went through our small town of devastated people. The quiet hush of, “Did you hear? It *was* the bee sting. It’s just so random.”
But what I’ve learned in this year is that random doesn’t exist in the vocabulary of God. Because once I stopped replaying the randomness of that day in my mind, and the fog of stunned grief began to lift, I realized random was only our description of his death.
Intention described his life.
No one knows about that day or hour, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father. {Mt 24:36}
Dad‘s death was never random to God. He saw the day Dad was born and the day he would die. And the same is true for you and me. What we have in between is the opportunity to fulfill the wants of God as He lays out opportunities in front of us.
Opportunities that require intention.
That nudge in our spirit. That whisper in our ear. The urge to make a phone call or ask to visit. The passing thought of prayer or the ache that resides deep within for what we know we should do but haven’t.
They can be whispers and they can be sirens… but they are there. The opportunities. To be kind. To smile instead of ignoring, to acknowledge instead of dismiss. To let someone pass ahead instead of hurrying on your way, to speak the words that come into your heart instead of holding them in for your own security. Because the truth is, if you come in contact with someone you either leave them feeling better about themselves or worse, but you never leave them unaffected.
It was the simple things for Dad. The {I LOVE YOU} that flowed freely from his tongue and was felt deeply in his heart. The smile and joke to the cashier, the visit to the elderly neighbor, the voiced pride in his grandchildren and the hug to the widow alone in her pew on Sunday.
These are the small things every day that make us who we are supposed to be. How we are supposed to represent the One who wants us to spread His message of love in those days between our birth and death.
All of it matters. None of it is random. We aren’t supposed to have an urging in our spirit and say, “I’ll get to that tomorrow. I’ll visit them tomorrow. I’ll bless them next time.” No. We’re supposed to wake up today and say YES.
Yes to the attitude we must clothe ourselves in before our feet hit the floor. Yes to the kindness and the welcoming smile. Yes to graciousness and gratitude in our words and actions. Yes to the prompting in our spirits to be the essence of Him to every. single. person. we encounter.
Because while we look for reasons in what feels random, and great purpose in our lives through grand deeds and gestures, what we are missing is the day-to-day opportunities He sets out for us.
The truth is that if you are still breathing, He still has plans for you. And one of those small moments you see when you are living intentionally may just be the moment He needed you most.
Live it for Him.
By Sara Frankl, Gitzen Girl
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Modupe says
Wow, thanks for this reminder.
I pray that the Holy Spirit continues to comfort you and yours.
gitz says
thank you, modupe. the Spirit has worked through a great many people over the last few weeks to bring a lot of comfort.
Jennifer says
Wow. I am so grateful for and challenged by your courageous wisdom. I need these words to stay. Thank you. Thank you.
gitz says
I’m so glad the right words found you at the right time 🙂
Diane says
Great reminder to live every day as if its the last…..b/c one day, it will be.
gitz says
I read a quote the other day that said something to the effect of “Life – no one makes it out alive.” I kind of laughed and realized… that’s so true!
Connie says
Wow, could so relate to your story. When my daddy passed away near a lake, we was with the only friend he had that didn’t know CPR. Random? I too came to look at his passing with the eyes of God who had it all planned out. Thanks for sharing and thanks for the reminder about living life the right way!
gitz says
There’s something about taking the randomness out of death that also takes the randomness out of life. And that means I had better be paying attention…
Lisa H says
‘Because the truth is, if you come in contact with someone you either leave them feeling better about themselves or worse, but you never leave them unaffected.’
Sara,
This is great! Thank you for the reminders to get up everyday with this as our agenda. Not the bazillion things that we feel we need to accomplish. I love what you said about we never leave people unaffected.
I have been thinking also how my life is known to God, everything he is doing in my life is in his plan! He knows when and where I meet the right man for me and my children. He knows if I will get remarried one day. It is my only job to follow him and his nudges or sometimes its a hard push!
I’m sorry about your Dad. I’m not sure when that happened last year but I will pray that you get through the anniversary peacefully.
Lisa
gitz says
thank you, lisa… you’re right, God knows all the steps in front of you. i came to realize that a lot of my ideas for my life weren’t going to come to fruition, but I can so see His hand in all the things that have come into my life. and surrendering to Him has been the greatest gift I gave myself.
M. Louise says
How truly sorry I am for your loss. And I know that loss is somewhat cyclical. As you round out the year and draw close to the one-year-mark you will be in my prayers.
Your words are such a powerful way to start the day. A true gift.
I especially like the way you end your piece by planting a seed that seemingly small and insignificant moments may be the ones where He needs us the most.
Especially because His intentions are not always clear to us. So much is a mystery. And a small act we perform (that may seem random) may start a chain of events that “click” something into place days or years later.
gitz says
exactly. i look at the bizarre way my life of being homebound had played out, and I realize that it will be small ways I affect others… but my small way could lead to them doing big things out in the world. and that matters.
Claire says
Beautiful, Sara. You have such a way of articulating yourself….I find myself nodding along.
Cxx
gitz says
thank you, friend. nodding back to you 🙂
Sarah @ FatLittleLegs says
These words, “The truth is that if you are still breathing, He still has plans for you.” are so true they bring tears to my eyes. I’m not agreeing with God’s plans for me these days. I’m not liking them. I want my own plans… I think I know better, but deep down these words convicted me that I don’t.
Thank you.
gitz says
i OFTEN pray, “Lord, help me to want what you want for me.” Because I struggle with that, too, Sarah. my life is not my ideal, but i want to want His ideal for me more than mine.
Sarah @ Fat Little Legs says
That is the pray I will pray tonight. Thank you!
Linda says
Thank you for sharing those heartfelt words with us, I could feel the Lord speaking to my heart through your words.
gitz says
i’m so grateful it meant something to you today!
Andrea says
That was SO beautifully written!! Thank you for the reminder – the little stuff really IS the big stuff!
Blessings on you as time heals the pain of your Dad’s passing.
gitz says
thank you, andrea. and YES, the little things matter… you never know where your action may lead for someone else.
Holley Gerth says
Wow…powerful, beautiful, Spirit-filled truth. Thank you for this, Sara. What a legacy your Daddy has in his girl–imagining him smiling from heaven right now. Love you!
gitz says
i love you, too, holley. thank you so much for taking care of our beach house. it has been such a blessing to have a place to come and share and be safe with others.
Krissie says
What an awesome truth. What great wisdom God has given you through something so difficult and unexpected. You are a treasure and a gift to all who are blessed to read your words. Thank you for this word today. Blessings, sweet friend.
gitz says
blessings to you, krissie. i never realized your first name… I always see your picture and think “always alleluia” 🙂 hope it’s nice being associated with praise 🙂
Kathy says
That is a powerful post!! I too love the part about we leave others we come in contact with either feeling better about themselves or worse. This is a daily reminder that we never know when just a warm smile or kind word could make an unimaginable difference in someone’s day. It was also a powerful reminder that our lives are not random with God. He is in control and He loves us unconditionally. Thanks for sharing about your Dad.
gitz says
“He is in control and He loves us unconditionally.”
These two truths together bring a lot of comfort, don’t they? because it means that whatever is happening is in His control and will result in love. such comfort.
Laure says
The glory you bring to our Lord is beautiful to behold, Sara. Yes, the awesomeness of our God is not random.
In this season, His Spirit has been encouraging me to “wake-up” to some things. These words of yours, “We aren’t supposed to have an urging in our spirit and say, “I’ll get to that tomorrow. I’ll visit them tomorrow. I’ll bless them next time.” No. We’re supposed to wake up today and say YES” are confirmation for which I am thankful.
gitz says
i’m so glad He chose the right words for us to meet together in agreement 🙂
Lindsay says
I love this, Sara! Thank you for a sweet reminder to live with intention TODAY! 🙂
gitz says
thank you, lindsay! i hope your today is a beautiful one!
Brenda Simmons says
Since, I too, have lost my father…I really related to this post. Thank you, Sara.
gitz says
i think of you often in all of this, Brenda. i so remember hearing of your dad when i was visiting Steve here in Cedar Falls and driving straight home and straight to your house. and then having no words. i just knew i needed to get to you that day.
Chrissy @ Fireflies and Hummingbirds says
This is an incredible post, Sara. Thank you for sharing.
I’m knee deep in the practice of intention and purpose right now. It’s definitely about this little day-to-day things, and we just never know when God will take one of those little things and make it something monumental. We just have to use the amazing gifts He’s given us and keep ourselves open to being used by Him.
Thank you for the reminder to keep saying YES! It’s what keeps the world turning!
gitz says
it all starts with that decision of Yes, doesn’t it? there is a first step to everything!
Gloria says
Sorry to hear about the loss of your dad.
How many times have I used or heard the word “random” when describing someone’s death but now I will be reminded that to God it was NOT random. God knows!
May we all live our days with intention!!
Thanks
gitz says
i agree. it has changed the way i’ve looked at so many deaths and life circumstances. nothing is random to Him.
deb says
This really touched me…I thought my mom getting a brain tumor and passing away only 5 months after we found it was random. I can see through your perspective that it was far from random, it was God’s plan. Thank you so much for your words, you are wise beyond yours years.
gitz says
i think sometimes we confuse our shock with what we think is random. and it is random to us, but He sees and knows and loves. and there is great comfort in that. i’m so sorry about your mom. sending much love to you today.
Diana Trautwein says
Nailed it, sister Sara. Just perfect – each and every word. Thank you. Been praying for you as you’ve gone through this anniversary time. It will get easier, I promise. Never gone, but easier to navigate. But this right here? This magnificent example of your finding and teaching this lesson from the whole experience? THIS is such a strong and powerful picture of the myriad ways in which our redeeming God can work in every situation to bring love/hope/peace/glory. So glad you’re here, so glad you’re writing.
gitz says
thank you, diana. thank you for the prayers. they are felt and appreciated.
Carol says
Oh, Sara, how you shine with revelation from the Heart of the Father…
This morning God showed me my life as a pitcher that He was holding. It is icy blue, and pours out clear, blue water full of bubbles-the Life-giving Holy Spirit. In my mind’s eye I saw Him taking that pitcher and pouring it out, a little here, a little there, as I go through my day, yielded to Him. Also showed me other pitchers, red, green, yellow that He also used to pour life into situations…it’s not all my responsibility! Finally, that as I remain focused of Him, He will fill me to overflow with His life in me, and the dross will rise up for Him to remove…He’s the Master Potter and doesn’t need my help…if there’s something I’m to do or repent of, He will let me know. So I can leave myself alone, live loved and be about my Father’s business as a Beloved Daughter.
This is how I see your Dad, Sara. Doing exactly that…as a Beloved Son.
By telling his story, you’ve allowed his life to touch many, many others.
Thank you and may you feel both your Father and your father’s smiles in a special way today.
love, Carol
gitz says
it’s such a trick, isn’t it, when we tell ourselves we are responsible for all the happenings of the world? it’s so refreshing to realize that He is in control, and we just need to be obedient.
Sheila says
Sara:
I am a better person for having the opportunity to read your written word…. You are amazing! Thank you for sharing your story. Everyone has a story but few have the ability to share and reflect the way you do. A heartfelt thank you.
gitz says
you are so kind, sheila. thank you for coming here and sharing in the conversation.
Amanda D says
This is very beautifully written. A great reminder for us all. Thank you.
gitz says
thanks, amanda. it was a good reminder for me, too 🙂
Maggie Hogan says
Dear One,
I’ve been following your blog since I discovered it earlier this year. You have blessed me with your writing, your photos, and your journey! God is using you in wonderful ways. Beauty and grace shine through your day by day suffering. Although I have a chronic, sometimes debilitating condition, it is nothing like yours and some days your words are just the encouragement I need to do ministry even from bed. (speaking of which, please share the name or link to your fabulous bedside computer tableM it looks perfect for me!)
In reading this bittersweet post about your dad I am conflicted. What a praise you had a father who reflected our Father’s loving kindness! How sad to lose that. Then I think about how I missed out on that experience. I wonder what it would have been like…then I remember: I DO have a Father like that now and His grace is what sustains me daily. Blessed, I am.
Well, I didn’t mean to write a book! LOL!
Just know I love your blog and you are often in my prayers. God bless. Maggie
gitz says
Hey, Maggie… this is the lap desk I just got: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002LNVMIS
I hope it works for you, too!!!
Becky says
What wisdom you have shared. I needed to hear this today. You bring His words to life.
I have been a follower of your blog this year as I began to explore Christian blog world for the first time.
Life has given me a new, sometimes obscured path since December. Major changes due to my health. Not planning then for these to happen. But knowing always a possibility after a diagnosis in Sept 2001. Just as a healing miracle is an even greater possibility.
I view these circumstances as opportunities to do things I could not (and would not) have otherwise. I possess God-given peace. When doubts come due to my physical limits, I try not to visit there long. Because for every action there is a reaction. In my times of required physical rest, there is a God-placed chance to do something else instead.
Reflection is key these days. Now I have been gifted with time.
Perspective is changed to a 20-20 vision with God’s word.
While I may appear to be a humanly random statistic because my disease affects “one in a ? people,” I am planned by God.
And that is not a random creation.
Thank you Sara for being a blessing.
gitz says
such true words, becky. every one of them. praying for peace today.
Michele@From the Unpaved Road says
Gitz- thank you for this amazing reminder. I have lost more loved ones here in 5 years in Africa than in my entire 28 years before I got here. The one thing it teaches me is to live each day intentionally and to live with no regrets. I miss the little ones and the leaders I have buried here. Deeply. But we press on to live a full today with no regrets fully present in our present trusting for the tomorrow we can’t yet see. Again thank you for the reminding… in a crazy busy schedule with 100+ kids, writing deadlines and administrative mountains… I need reminding.
gitz says
oh, michele… I can’t imagine all of that loss, but i hope it never overshadows the beauty of the work you’re doing. saying prayers specifically for you today. hope you feel them.
Beth Williams says
Superb post!
Excellent reminder to live each and every day intentionally for Him – No we do not know when/how death will hit us! Only He knows.
Thanks for sharing about your life and how you are living it intentionally – just as your dad did! You are a blessing to us all!!
gitz says
thank you, Beth… and isn’t it a relief to remember we don’t have the control… all we have to do is obey. it’s a great reminder for me.
tiffany says
Sara you are beautiful! Your words, oh how they met my heart and brought tears to my eyes!
you are such a wonderful example I honor you for living your life the way you do! For sharing such wisdom with us. I am so glad you found this forum to write on!
feeling blessed by your words and your heart!
xoTiffany
gitz says
and i’m feeling blessed by YOU. thanks for your words today, tiffany.
Kristi says
That is so true – nothing is truly “random” since God is God. I, too, have seen this in the losses of three babies during pregnancy. I believe their brief lives held intention, too, and purpose. Thank you for the reminder, and I am so sorry about the loss of your father.
gitz says
i believe with you, Kristi, that each of their lives held great purpose and meaning. there is no life to brief for God to use for His good.
Stacey says
“All of it matters. None of it is random.”
We have learned this through my dad’s cancer battle over the past 2 years. Living in the now, listening to His nudge.
Thanks for sharing this, I appreciate it more than you know.
gitz says
I’m so grateful the words found you on the right day. saying prayers right now for your family.
Amy Hunt says
True, there is no random. And I See the blessing…you lived a hard time to know this. Such Grace to See the truth that All. Is. For. Purpose.
I am really touched by his truth in the most amazing way.
Rich blessings to you, Gitz, as you continue to trust you Heavenly Father for purpose in all…
gitz says
thank you, amy… i learned so many of these lessons living through my illness, and it was just remembering what I already knew and applying it to the different situations in my life. it took a moment for me to know that it was true of my life AND my dad’s death… and everything in between.
Amy Hunt says
I love seeing how He works this truth in one aspect of our lives and then shows us how we can apply it to other aspects–how we never truly and completely understand and how He uses All opportunities for purpose to teach us how we can Trust.
Jennifer says
Thank you for sharing, as I sit here in the midst of procrastination for something which requires intention to complete. God’s nudges come from many a direction.
gitz says
well, consider this one a gentle and loving nudge… praying you find your way to completion.
Rachel says
love this- and it is so encouraging for me as I think of the week ahead. What great words and reminders to listen and intentionally respond. Thanks for the beautiful post.
gitz says
that makes me happy, rachel… praying your week ahead is filled with beautiful surprises as you look with intention.
Kaycee says
This is beautiful.
“Because the truth is, if you come in contact with someone you either leave them feeling better about themselves or worse, but you never leave them unaffected.”
So very true, and how important it is to be intentional to be a positive touch toward others.
gitz says
it’s the idea of the ripple effect… you just never know what role you’re supposed to play in that big picture…
Gransan says
As much as I missed getting my Riley fix today, I needed to be reminded of this. Sometimes I get so impatient wanting to know what my purpose is
gitz says
i promise there will be pictures of Riley on there tomorrow 🙂
Cellina says
Hi Sara,
Thank you for sharing your story. Though we have never met or exchanged a single word, he has blessed us, through you, his legacy. I pray that your memories will continue to warm your heart as you wait for the day when you will meet again where there will be no more pain.
Tomorrow is my birthday and I intend to continue to choose praise, give thanks. my birthday gift to myself. There IS always ,something to be thankful about. Today, I am thankful for your ministry. Amazing grace, amazing love, amazing God.
Cellina
gitz says
thank you for saying that, cellina. i worry about writing about him too much sometimes, but I want others to know what I had a lifetime of learning from him.
Happy Birthday to you, friend. It’s a beautiful gift to give yourself… to choose joy, to choose thanks. i have no doubt your little sara will spoil you in her own way as well 🙂
Kirsten Victor says
As I shared in a comment on a previous post you wrote about your dad, my uncle died so unexpectedly the same way. But what I wanted to say here is that this is an awesme post! Just the things I have been trying to be mindful of as I breeze through my day and interactions with others. I shared a link to this post on my Facebook wall.
gitz says
thank you, kirsten… it changes our perspective on everything when we shift our focus, doesn’t it? i think it’s a beautiful way to honor your uncle by living with such intention.
Rebekah Robinson says
I can’t not comment on your lovely thoughts here…although I read most through teary eyes!! I will add my thanks for using the voice you have to bring such honor and glory to God, for reminding us of the nonrandomness of life, and for encouraging us to live fully. This post was a real blessing to me, too, and one I will meditate on for awhile!!
Rebekah
gitz says
I think you do this quite well, rebekah… look at how intentional and gracious you’ve been to me with your letters. they are appreciated 🙂
Val says
I read this last night just as I was sinking in and remembering that 6 years ago today my Mom died.
Thank you for reminding me to live life like I mean it and thank you for being ‘company’ in this tough club of missing beloved parents on a night when I needed it without even meaning to.
gitz says
Val, I’m glad I can be here with you today. My dad’s year anniversary was on the 9th and i was shocked by how much grief took over. Just know we are here and I am praying for you and your family today.
Leslie says
Selah [pause, and calmly think of that]!
Beautifully written, thank you.
gitz says
thank you, leslie. and i think selah fits perfectly with learning how to be intentional 🙂
sherri ohler says
Sarah-your writing is my favorite! Thank you for this word. So sorry for your loss, your dad sounds amazing 🙂
Many, many blessings,
sherri
gitz says
thanks, sherri. he really was amazing. it kind of breaks my heart for the people who didn’t get to meet him because he just made everyone around him better. 🙂
Stephanie says
Sarah,
I was thinking of you lots this am and praying for you. I wanted to ask you if/when you’re going to write a book? I think a book about you and your life would be wonderful but I especially think you should write a devotional. The Lord speaks wisdom to me through you and I’m so thankful for your writing gift and your willingness to share your life with us. You could use lots of your blog writings and I know God would give you and other “supporters” (contributors/editors?) the right direction.
Just wanted to ask you on the inCourage page, in case it helps give the right person the idea (hint hint)
Lots of love~ x
gitz says
oh my gosh, stephanie. i’m so thankful that anything i write hits home to you and finds you in the place deep inside where it’s needed. i honestly can’t imagine writing a book… my life hasn’t been all that exciting… just me, day to day. 🙂 but having you say that you’d like one? crazy flattering to me. thank you.
Rebekah Robinson says
OH, OH, OH…I was just thinking the same thing last night after I read this post…a devotional?? Yes, please!! :-)) Just what Miss Stephanie said!!
Rebekah
Penny says
Sara, I know you don’t know me, but I think of you often and whisper a prayer for you. I don’t usually leave comments, but I needed to tell you that my heart aches for you in your loss. But can I also just tell you how blessed you were to have a Daddy like that. My dad wanted a boy, and I was a disappointment to him from the start. I have lived with that feeling my whole life. I know you had to let go of your Dad long before you wanted to, but what a blessing he was. In your sadness, cherish that blessing for those of us who never knew a father’s love.
Penny
gitz says
oh, penny. thank you. thank you for whispering those prayers… there is no doubt i get through life because of them. and yes… i don’t take a moment of having my dad for granted. i grew up cherished and loved, and i know that is a luxury in this world. i’m sorry you didn’t have that, and pray you have found people in your life who show you how worth it you really are.
Barbie says
Thank you for this reminder to live intentionally. Saying a prayer for you today.
Nikole Hahn says
I’m sorry for your grief. You are exhibiting a great attitude. Just by HOW we carry our burdens reveals God.
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Great story !