The question surprised me. And not just because it seemed a little impolite to ask that question of a single gal in her forties. When I didn’t answer for a minute, he asked,
“Have you just been focusing on your career?”
It got me thinking.
Maybe I had wasted my best dating years of my twenties and thirties. Maybe I didn’t pray hard enough. Maybe I should have been more diligent about going to singles’ events at church. Maybe I should have made more of an effort to meet people. Maybe I’m single because I didn’t try hard enough. Or worst of all, maybe I overlooked someone. Was it possible that I happened to miss the one God meant for me in one of those dates over the past two decades?
I have always thought – and still do – that I am right where God has planned for me to be at this point in my life. In the right place. At the right time. With the right family and friends God has already placed in my life. God’s timing is perfect.
Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. Prov. 16:3
Instead of feeling like I was less because I was single, I asked God if he had more for me. More to do? More to be? I felt him whisper that he might have more for me in the future, but for now this is enough.
This life. This family. This job. This church. This volunteer work. These friends.
This family is a sister, brother-in-law, niece and nephew, who I am so blessed to live near, to be a part of their daily lives. This job is in healthcare communications, a field I have been interested in since my college internship at a hospital. This church, where I worship and volunteer as a kindergarten teacher, is passionate about building relationships and drawing people closer to God. These friends, who grace my life, support and encourage.
God tells me I am chosen to live this life. I am chosen to be an aunt, a sister, a daughter, a friend. And I am chosen to be God’s holy daughter. I’m not less, I’m chosen.
But you are a chosen people (woman), a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. 1 Peter 2:8-10
This life? More than enough for me.
By Valerie Sisco, Grace with Silk