Kristen Welch
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Kristen writes at her parenting blog, We Are THAT Family and is author of Rhinestone Jesus: Saying Yes to God When Safe Sparkly Faith is No Longer Enough and founder of The Mercy House. Follow Kristen on twitter as @WeareTHATfamily.

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  1. lol! when i first glimpsed at your post (i often do a quick skim before diving in), i read the part about your husband thinking you were getting hotter with age…i thought you meant menopausal hot flashes leading you to want to turn the thermostat cooler! glad it was the other meaning! thanks for your post!

  2. When our heart reflects Him. That’s when our beauty is most evident. His, really.

    I nearly cried over that photo of you holding that babe. Truly. I get this welling up and feel an overwhelming sense of His presence when I look at it. Evidence of Him in you. Grace.

  3. Well…I am a bit more down the aging road with you….when I hit 50…I told God I wanted to be gray and gracious…so many woman don’t seen to be gracious as they age…Ummm, I am graying slowly for someone my age…don’t know what that says about my progress:) when I hit the 55 mark…I told God I want to finish strong…body, soul and spirit…I don’t want to become a person who loses her relevance in this world… one who serves herself and I think finding ways to give out to others is a way to stay young…”hot”…compassion…service…love….all are a reflection of Him…so won’t we look beautiful when we reflect who He is in this world.
    When I come in contact with people who are doing what God has put in their heart…no matter the age…it draws me…because they are effervescent with God’s joy and love…I think your picture reflect this~ blessings~

  4. Just what I needed to hear this morning! Thank you. I too am about to enter my 40s, increasing gray hair and all!

  5. This is awesome! I have to tell you that I’m 43, and I feel like I’ve just started to live. I just now really know what God has shaped me to do, and He’s throwing me huge opportunities to serve him. I would say life starts at 40, sister!

    • Christy —

      Here to second the emotion! I’m 45 (or 46…can’t remember…) Yesterday, I pulled out a college photo of my husband and me. Despite the fact that we were leaner, tanner, and had far more hair, I wouldn’t go back for anything.

      I’m sure some women are far wiser than I and learn to enjoy life in their 20s and 30s…I was super-duper stubborn, unwilling to surrender self ’til my 40s…and then only because I had proved every way possible that self is endlessly destructive.

      Lovin’ what God’s doing in my 40s and looking forward to the next decade, hot flashes and all!

  6. I’ve passed that 60 mark and wrote 30 days of aging posts last month trying to come to grips with the fact that I have much less time in front of me than behind. I’m learning to keep my focus on Him and not so much in the mirror. But…my hairdresser and her pot of color might be my best friend on earth. 🙂

  7. I just realized yesterday that I will turn 55 next year… oh, I knew that I turned 54 this year, but unlike other years — I did not look ahead this time! and I was shocked… and a bit sad… it seems so much older somehow — maybe it has to do with that uphill / downhill momentum thing… approaching 60 will come faster now! I used to think when I was a little girl that my mom, in her 30s, was sooo old!… then when she passed away at 76 I thought she was way too young… and we talked often about not feeling our age. She and I somehow met in the middle and felt often more like sisters. Now I look at myself, and while my mind still feel so much younger, the body is just not agreeing with that image! I think I lost a few years when my mom died, but long so to enjoy life as she did when she was ‘my age’… we really need God’s help with this don’t we? I know I do…

  8. Kristen, you never cease to amaze me with your wisdom. I just turned 48 and I highlight my hair, it is my splurge every 3-4 months. I pray that someday I will come to terms with aging, I have gone through breast cancer and am now possibly having some heart issues. I have let others dictate to me how I feel about myself, I need to follow your example and just and ” believe that even though I’m constantly changing, I am the daughter of the One who never changes. His affection for me is pure, untainted by sin; He loves all of me very well.” thank you for this reminder!

  9. I, also, am much further down the aging road than you. I enjoyed your post, though, and could relate. I would like to gray graciously, as well. I have two older teens left at home out of seven children. I think more about trying harder to achieve grace and usefulness in some other God inspired directions at this age, but also always remaining available and busy as Wife, Mom, and Grandma.

  10. I love the photo! There is obvious joy in holding that little one and a sense of love and caring that goes deeper than skin. That is true beauty!

    Thanks for your encouraging words! Honestly, I always have to think about how old I am (just 45). I don’t keep track, I have plenty of gray hair with no intention of coloring it, and I try to take one day at a time. : )

  11. Yes, it is a challenge to keep our focus on Him and His view–especially at 68 and counting. But, each year, each season brings new revelations of His grace and new benefits along with the age lines and grey hair. Not as hung up on age or on how others see me anymore. There is a freedom in aging that is WONDERFUL. Keep pressing on–it is glorious.

  12. My husband says the self confidence I gain as I get older is what seems to enhance my beauty. He finds self confidence gorgeous and self doubt ugly.

  13. Thanks for these words. I too am nearly 40 and feeling it in aching muscles and weight that won’t budge. For the first time ever I am dreading a birthday (I LOVE birthdays), and this post was just what I needed. A beautiful reminder that I am beautiful in His eyes and that IS enough. God’s blessings to you.

  14. Had to laugh at this one. 🙂 Isn’t this the topic all women talk about, and yes, most of the time fret about – getting older. I have decided it’s not the number of being older, but we fear the ‘old’ looks…that we will not be pretty, desired as much (even by our husbands). But now being 61 I have resigned to do what I can to make myself look presentable, and leave the rest up to the Lord. Afterall He has made it that we grow old on the outside, but are “being renewed” on the inside…so one day we will not desire to stay here, but desire heaven much more. And back to that desired thing…my husband still can get a little jealous and think I’m beautiful…as a 61 yr old Grandma of 5 and 11/12’s grandchildren! Enjoy your age – all of you – because it doesn’t get any better than where you are right now – until we get to Heaven! 🙂

  15. You look fabulous and I can see why your husband shows that picture – it captures your joy 🙂 Thank you for sharing your post and story. I was touched by your words and encouraged to continue to develop my inner beauty. YOU ROCK!

  16. Great post, Kristen. Wise words. I felt like turning 40 was a right of passage. I was (am) proud to be 40-something and don’t mind that I’m now knocking on 50’s door. With His joy in your heart, age is just a number (even taking into account gravity and gray hair!).

  17. I’m 61 now and whilst I struggle with my weight and have a few aches and pains, I’m happy with the girl I am now. I feel as I’m growing in the grace of my God, I’m actually a nicer and more authentic person than I was 20 years ago. And I can feel that on the inside and it’s a good feeling. I am trying to age gracefully in all areas and ways, I’m ok with the grey hair and the happy lines. I’m enjoying the journey.
    Blessings Gail

  18. How to age gracefully:

    “See yourself as He sees you
    Live Scared-chase God’s big dream
    Find someone younger to mentor
    Encourage the woman who reminds you of yourself 10 years ago
    Embrace your appearance as it changes”

    Oh Amen, hallelujah and all that wonderful Jazz!

  19. This made my day. I’ll be 65 my next birthday, and my husband and I are “living scared…chasing God’s big dream” right now. Our security for the future is a big God. And I’m happy. Thanks for these beautiful words. (And I know why your husband keeps that picture…you shine in it.)


  21. Your post is really beautiful. Aging gracefully with grace is a gift. I have spent several days since I attended Allume thinking about aging and who is my “audience” and do I truly have something of value to offer. I don’t want to be a clanging gong and babble. When I returned from Allume I wasn’t feeling very well, nothing specific but not my usual self. My goddaughter wanted me to go to the hospital the night Sandy landed in Virginia, but I said it was too dangerous. On Wednesday I went to my GP to get a medication refill and tell her I was not feeling myself. Within half an hour I found myself in an ambulance and on the way to the ER. I was having a cardiac “incident”. I should have listened to my goddaughter, even though she is only 23 and just graduated from nursing school. I have had most of the tests and today I was hooked up to a 30 day monitor. I admit I am a little scared. I know that God has my back, my heart, my feet…I think I want to be in control…it is okay to laugh… At the end of December I will be 62 and I need to pay more attention to my health. So I feel like I have had a big wake-up call. Speak Lord your servant is listening. I think the greast gift women of all ages have to offer each other is the bond we share as women. We know what it feels like when the unsightly pimple shows up the day of that “important” something; the fear and joy in childbirth and the anguish and pain when there is no little one on the horizon; that realization of the gray around the edges…I think we use serum now instead of wrinkle cream, but in our shared experience of life we also share the tremendous love our Father has for each of us “girls”. Enjoy the journey, it is a beautiful adventure.

  22. I am 52and now have blonde highlights in my hair as a negotiator between the brown and the gray. But I can honestly say that this is the best part of my life. For the first time I know what I want and I care little about any negative opinion others might possess

    This is a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing.

  23. Kristen,

    I loved this post. I especially loved your husband’s words. Thanks for the reminder to embrace every part of change. I’m reminded that choosing to live in joy brings out the best in me all the time.

  24. You’re very wise to be “so young”, at least from my side of 40. I’m a silver haired grandma who can tell you with all truth (and some Texas slang), 40 ain’t about nothin’ when you’re walkin’ with The Lord. Yes, it IS a fight to over come what the world has programmed us to think about beauty, but then that’s all part of why we renew our minds in God’s word. See yourself, LOVE yourself as He does!

  25. Well, dear, you are officially ten years younger than me. The calendar will “turn” for me in April, and I have to say I’m not handling the change as well as you are. (Of course, 40, for me, was welcomed, just as it is for you.) But your picture here . . . oh yes, you have reminded me that what I’m about is not what’s on the outside. At all. The outside will break down (it is!), but the inside can just keep growing and growing. Love that!

  26. My pastor’s wife puts it this way “I’ve never seen an ugly woman at a Christian conference. They are all radiating His love & grace”.

    Growing old never bothered me. It was just a number. True beauty is found on the inside of oneself–where He resides. I want to always radiate true Christian joy, happiness & love.

    God Bless!

  27. Aging right along with you, I’m reading and nodding my head.

    Your hubby is right in his picture choice. You look beautiful. Read it again… You.Are.Beautiful in this photo. The fact that you haven’t just been fluffed and buffed means your beauty is true and not smoke and mirrors. (and if that’s with 3 days of ‘roughing it’, you must be rock star when you have time to primp!) The joy on your face and the love you are showing that child clearly shows your inner beauty and there’s nothing more gorgeous than that.

  28. Thanks, I needed that.

    And on a less serious note…

    Need a great way to appreciate how *young* you are? Take your mom bra shopping — for her!

  29. Proverbs 16:31….”gray hair is a crown of glory; it is gained by a righteous life”. I LOVE THIS SCRIPTURE!!! At the age of 61 believe me, the grays are starting to win, but I wear them proudly. Refuse to cover them up, as I’ve earned each & everyone of them..,it’s as if everyone of life’s lessons reflect back to me via the grays. Crazy, eh?? Aging is not easy….but let me tell you it’s been quite a “ride”, thru all life’s stages. I see young moms today and feel little pings in my heart for what use to be. Then I see my grandchildren s faces and can see in their eyes what IS to be. I see pieces of my parents who have passed away in my kids & their kids. Tugs @ my heart strings….. And I continue to age, as gracefully as I can, with Gods grace.