Trisha Davis loves people. She loves seeing people thrive. She loves seeing others win. It is that love that compels her to speak with honesty and transparency and call others to an extraordinary life.
Trish is an author, speaker and co-founder of RefineUs Ministries. She and her husband Justin blog at refineus.org. Sharing her own story of ministry, marriage, loss and redemption she longs to ignite a movement to build healthy marriages, families and churches.
She and Justin just released their first book, Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn’t Good Enough.
Trisha and Justin make their home in Nashville, TN with their three boys, Micah, Elijah and Isaiah.
One of my favorite things about growing-up in the Midwest was experiencing all four seasons. There’s beauty to be found in winter, spring, summer and fall along with a sense of disappointment in how fast they seem to come and go. I love how seasons bring rhythm and familiarity in the ordinary daily grind of life but just as you start to settle in and get comfortable with the scenery it changes.
This particular fall day the trees outside my front window were brilliant with color.
Each leaf in its final act of life burst forth with radiant colors before eventually falling to the ground only to fade and grow no more. As I gazed at all the different colors my heart was aching to find familiar. Familiar in a scene I had looked at time and time again yet nothing looked the same, not even the leaves on the trees.
My husband, Justin had just come home to tell me he no longer wanted to be married to me. He was having an affair with my best friend and he wanted out. Out of our marriage, out of ministry and out of the only life I had known for the past ten years. Everything once familiar now felt strange and unfamiliar.
It wasn’t just my relationship with Justin that felt unfamiliar. God didn’t just feel unfamiliar, he felt absent. How could a loving God place dreams in my heart only to have those dreams shattered? How on earth would I ever be able to dream again knowing it may cost me more after already paying such a high price?
Living in the ordinary automatically brings commonplace and normalcy to your life. I don’t know about you, but I’m a lover of all things familiar and routine but ordinary is a fabricated form of both. Ordinary gives you a false sense of feeling known and wanted but it robs you of dreaming beyond the familiar.
Maybe you’ve been there. Maybe your story has nothing to do with infidelity but you know the pains of losing the familiar. Losing a dream you knew God had given you only to have your dream taken away. When the loss of what we thought to be familiar is taken from us we settle for ordinary.
Where ordinary lives dreams die.
God longs for each of us to live in the extraordinary found in an intimate relationship with him. Extraordinary means going beyond what is usual, regular or customary. God’s desire for you isn’t about achievement it’s about relationships, with Him and those he’s placed in your life. So how do you start living life in the extraordinary?
I know I just received a collective eye roll, sigh and maybe an audible “Really? You had me read this whole post for that?” That’s cool. It’s not the first time I’ve received that response and it won’t be the last. Yes, prayer is the catalyst for change and healing, which allows you to then begin to dream again. Intimacy with the Father is the birthplace of dreams.
2. Take a step.
When a dream dies part of us dies too. The beauty of God is that He brings dead things back to life.
Pursuing a dream will require you to be vulnerable again. Dreaming calls us to trust again. Part of dreaming is lowering the wall of protection around our heart and stepping into the unknown…again. We risk failing all over again.
The dream God has given you doesn’t have to be accomplished today or tomorrow. Just like the seasons there will be days brilliant with colors of familiarity and days of faded leaves of uncertainty. But he is only asking you to take a step. With every step you take, ordinary will be defeated and the extraordinary dream God has given you will bloom again.
We’d love to share Beyond Ordinary with you. You can download the Introduction and first two chapters here thanks to Tyndale House Publishers. You can watch the book trailer here. You can read some of the endorsements of the book by visiting the Beyond Ordinary site.
You can purchase a copy here.
We are going to be giving away five copies of the book today! Tell us: What is your ordinary? Big or small, what area in your life can you make extraordinary? Share below in the comments for a chance to win!