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Kaitlyn is a Virtual Assistant, book launch manager, and storyteller who writes about discovering God's goodness in the ordinary and faithfulness in the difficult. She loves good books, deep conversations, and iced vanilla lattes. Kaitlyn is the author of Even If Not: Living, Loving, and Learning in the in Between.

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  1. Thanks for this – my sister is in her early 20’s, and almost a decade younger than me. I’ve been looking for ways to be an encouragement to her lately and this post did a lot to remind me what it felt like to be her age and what I needed at that point!

    • I’m so glad it was able to give you a few ideas! It’s the little stuff, really!

  2. I like it well done. I’m 3 years into my 30’s and don’t really have many 20 something’s in my life where we live but I do have what I call a Christian cousin whom we have known for since forever who is a 20 something and your “love us and love us well” really is a reminder of investing more in this relationship through fb, whatsapp and to show her how much I care as my friend, my equal. Thanks for the inspiration!

    • I love this picture of cousins encouraging each other. You’ve probably known her for so long that you have your own list of ways to build her up, but you’re right – just considering her your equal will go a long way.

  3. Kaitlyn,
    I don’t know what I would have done without having mentors in my life!! “Titus women” who are there for the next generation. I am also here to say that you are NEVER too old to need a mentor in your life. Even at 50+, I still value the friendship of women older than me because, honestly, we never truly have it all together at any age! I really appreciated your concrete ideas to be a mentor to someone in their early 20’s. You took me back in time and helped me to remember what life was like at that age and what you need. I pray that God will give me opportunities to “just be me” to young women like yourself. Wonderful and helpful post!
    Blessings,
    Bev

    • Yes! We can always use the wisdom of the generation before us, and the encouragement they bring. Just knowing they’ve made it through is encouragement in itself sometimes. : )

  4. Kaitlyn, you provided such excellent ideas and took me back to a time when I was in college. We often forget just how meaningful the small things can be.

  5. I turned 30 a few weeks ago. How did I enter into this era SO quickly? Weird…that this post is actually for me 🙂 ENJOY your twenties – they.go.fast.

    Good words. Great reminder.

    Kind Blessings,
    Kate 🙂

    • We’ll just pretend you’re still 29… : ) This post is for everyone! A reminder to pour into those that come after you.

  6. Lunch with you made me remember how much I love to hang out with college students! Loved our time together! You are a special girl and God has big plans for you girl!

    Your story inspires me!

    xo,
    Stacey

    • I’m SO glad we finally got to meet in person! You’re so sweet and I can’t wait to hear even more about this book God has given you. Keep writing girl! Even through the pruning.

  7. Kaitlyn for a twenty something these are extremely wise words,well done .I am now in a position to be that mentor and can appreciate even more how fortunate I was to have Kelli’s in my life.

    I also need to remind myself that when people reach out to be that Kelli to my own children to allow them to .

    This is a very inspiring post thank-you so much for sharing it.
    Penny

    • Thank you Penny! I really appreciate your kind words. Love that second part, about allowing other people to be a Kelli to your children. Yes!! You’ll always be their mom, but having a Kelli makes a huge different, too. : )

  8. Great words to remember, especially for those who have the college years behind us (more than a few years). As I still have two teenage boys at home, I know there is a need for women mentors to all ages. Thanks for reminding me to pour into another young woman’s life. I will focus on this in my quiet moments with God, for Him to lead me to just th right young gal.

    • I’ll be praying for this for you, also. That He would bring to mind a girl that is looking for a Kelli, and that you will step in and be that for her!

  9. Kaitlyn, I’m sending you a huge hug 🙂 I have really loved getting to know you through Chasing History and FMF. You are simply a blessing and a joy to be around! I just entered my 30s (though my mom would say I’ve been in my 40s for most of my life ;)), and I really want to encourage the younger generation.

    This brings to mind this verse:
    “One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts.” – Psalm 145:4

    “Just do life with us.” – I love this. This is some of the best advice! Love and hugs to you today!

    • What a PERFECT verse for this! Absolutely perfect. Yes, that we would declare His mighty acts to the next generation.

  10. Kaitlyn, as a twenty-one year old trying to figure out her place and calling in the world, I completely agree with you! The things you’ve listed here are the cry of not only my heart, but the hearts of so many other women our age. There seems to be such a movement within our generation to seek the advice and wisdom of women who have already been through our stage in life.

    Thank you for sharing this!

    • So nice to ‘meet’ someone else online that’s my age! I’ll be thinking of you, Lesley, and praying that our generation will find Kelli’s and be a Kelli to a younger girl as well.

  11. Thanks Kaitlyn,
    This is great advise for any age group to apply to the next generation. I really appreciate your words today they have given me some ideas on how to “friendship” well with my younger women in my life 🙂
    Suzanne

  12. I am 48 and have a 21 year old college student renting my guest room for the summer. We met at Bible Study at church and have had a nice time getting to know each other outside church functions.

    I really appreciated reading this blog and seeing where I have already been a good mentor to “my summer roommate”, even without doing so intentionally but just by being me. Now I see how I may shift my actions to be more intentional. I’m grateful for the suggestion to be a positive presence in this lovely young woman’s life, now and after she goes back to school in the fall.

    Thank you!

    • What a perfect opportunity, and how great that you can see you’ve already been building her up without even trying! I hope in the fall you’ll keep it up and continue being intentional!

  13. I had this woman in my life. I was 14… She led a girls Bible study for a Modge Podge of high school girls back when this was not done!! Over 40 years ago. She still teaches adult women and just a couple weeks ago, we held a first true time of honoring her for all she sacrificed to teach us. Her teaching us about the Word and dealing with life and hard times and even how to grieve when her sick child we all loved died my senior year were life lessons to trust God always. And this was hard stuff. What blessings we shared at our reunion and the joy filled hours of The Lord so near. I now am there for other young women I know over the years and it changes…but one always lets me know how to reach her and expects me to read a Bible passage and pray over her. Yes. Your impact changes the life even still impacted 40 years later.

    • Gwen, this encouraged ME to know people have been pouring into each other for so long, even before “it was commonly done.” What a beautiful time of honoring her, it seems. These sort of relationship leave such lasting effects.

  14. What an amazing list and encouragement to be a “Kelli” to someone who may really need it. Can’t wait to meet you girl. You constantly amaze me. 🙂

  15. Yes ma’am – that’s MY girl writing here today! Kaitlyn, I am over the top proud of you!
    Love forever,
    Your Biggest Cheerleader

  16. Kaitlyn,

    Great ideas for mentoring at any age. We could all use a little advice or friendship now and then!

  17. I love idea #6 – Don’t be discouraged if we say no the first time. When I was in my twenties and living far from home, I couldn’t say yes to all of the invitations the first time (for various reasons) and sometimes there wasn’t a second invitation. I didn’t have accommodations to allow for me to invite people over so sometimes I felt like I missed out on getting to know some great people. Now that I’m in my 30s and am able to play hostess, it’s also a good reminder for me to ask others over — multiple times if necessary!

    • Yes – it’s so hard to turn invitations down but sometimes we just have to, as you said. I always hate when there isn’t another invitation – I don’t want to invite myself over and ‘get in the way!’ Keep asking, girl, and welcome people in no matter the size or cleanliness of your house. : )

  18. This was a very helpful article for me. I loved the different suggestions and insights.

  19. What a great article! So wise, and really made me stop to think about the impact I had on my mentee, but too the impact she had on me. So of our silliest moments, were the Times we bonded the most! I miss her a lot, and this has inspired me to try to be more constant in her life even though I moved many miles away. Thanks!!