Even though we were eating chips and salsa, it wasn’t the heat of the peppers that had tears streaming down my face. My God-given friend, Ashley, was telling me her latest story about trying to dye Easter eggs with her 20-month-old twin girls. Let’s just say it was a fail. The tears that night weren’t out of sadness, but laughter. Since I’m a mom of twin girls too, I could easily relate to her story.
Ashley and I don’t just share stories about our twins. We have shared life adventures since we were in dance class at three, cheerleaders at sixteen, and married our high school sweethearts at twenty-three.
I think God started our friendship so long ago because he knew just how much we would need each other today.
- Because I know she gets it when I quietly say my oldest is strong-willed while my youngest is an angel. How could two girls, identical in looks, born only two minutes apart, be so different yet wildly the same?
- When she is hesitant to say yes to a family beach trip with our bunch because her girls don’t sleep well, I tell her that I care more about spending time with her than I do sleep. And, who better gets traveling with twins than me?
- Or, how we offer each other advice for ways to connect with other moms in our communities since we’ve both moved in the past year. Moving is tough, don’t you agree?
Growing twin girls is exhilarating, challenging, and stretches us both beyond our wildest dreams. We have each other to call after failed grocery store trips, play dates, and pediatrician appointments. When we get together in real life for a night at the fair, with our husbands and two double strollers, onlookers stare at us with the same look they give the guy with five arms. We are truly a sight to see.
Having a friend whose life is so intertwined with mine has to be God-given. Nothing else can explain the bond that we share. Ashley texted me this passage from her devotion Instructing a Child’s Heart and I have to agree with it: “Friendships are for the purpose of glorifying God, encouraging others, showing love and compassion, and gaining encouragement to do what is right.”
Isn’t that the truth? Real friendship is about showing each other compassion when running late for lunch and encouragement after the it’s-been-one-of-those-days tears. Friendships are a unique form of love, binding individuals together through traditions, inside jokes, and advice. God gives us friends because he knows we aren’t meant to glorify him alone. He is meant to be shared, like Oreos and milk, cute necklaces, and what products work on curly hair in this summer humidity.
Our waiter came to our table and asked us if we needed anything else. “No,” we replied. We had each other. After paying, we walked outside much later than we had originally told our husbands, and hugged. We both needed that night, more than we needed the chips and salsa.
Question: Who is your God-given friend? How has she encouraged you?
By Christen Price at illuminate