I sit in a circle, head bowed, as three friends pray over me. Warm tears run down my face and I instinctively struggle to hold myself together, but I come undone and won’t let go of these hands that grip mine.
Why did I have to travel away from home to friends who usually smile at me across a screen instead of across a table to come to this point, to feel the healing power radiating through this circle of women?
Because I haven’t allowed myself a safe place.
No matter how put together we may look on the outside, we all experience dark times. Job loss. Illness. Struggling marriages. Broken dreams. Sometimes the problems aren’t ours, but belong to someone close to us and we suffer for them.
We aren’t made to handle this alone. Our Lord is a present friend and a ready ear. Trust Him. But seek a steady shoulder to cry on and a sympathetic friend to listen face-to-face.
For some this may come easily, but for others—like me—this level of vulnerability simply doesn’t.
Find a Safe Place
Look for someone you trust, who won’t judge or gossip. Maybe a wise older woman at church who’s survived your stage of life and learned valuable lessons in the process. Maybe a long-distance friend with an outsider’s perspective.
Just talk to someone.
Be a Safe Place
It would be easier if we wore signs around our necks, visible testimony to the struggles we face. But we don’t.
So we need to work hard to read each other’s signs.
When your girlfriend casually suggests a girls’ night out this week, her calm tone may belie how desperately she needs some face-to-face girl time. Kind words and a sincere “How are you?” may provide the impetus for a much-needed conversation.
Be a safe place for friends who need to talk.
Do you have a safe place? How can we read each other’s signs and provide a safe place?
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