This winter I am challenging myself to be positive. And I don’t mean positive in a superficial kind of way. I mean being intentional about what I verbalize about myself, my husband, and my children. It’s one thing to have a negative or discouraging thought; it’s another to speak it aloud and allow it to take root.
There are so many things that can plague our minds as moms. Our job can come with a lot of responsibility and little accolades. And to make matters worse, we can be hard on ourselves all the while. “Why am I having trouble losing weight…praying more…scheduling it all…” Sound familiar?
As much as we need to be mindful of the beautiful creations that we are, we also need to think about the creations who are forming under our watch. What we say about our children in their presence and behind closed doors helps to foster an attitude that will influence their development. In effect, what we say about them, they will believe about themselves.
I want my children to have a healthy self-esteem. They will need it to make unpopular, faithful decisions in spite of what their peers are doing someday. But I’ve learned that there is a difference between self-esteem and self-worth. Self-esteem may ebb and flow based on circumstances, but self-worth is constant.
Self-worth is grounded in God’s love. The Holy Spirit whispers that love to our hearts. Christ demonstrated that love on the cross. And our Creator reminds us of that love by crafting us specially and knowing us intimately. Self-worth is therefore independent of what others think, whether or not we’ve messed up, or how we’re feeling about ourselves that day. That’s the kind of blessing that I want to verbalize.
I saw a boy at a school playground this fall with a T-shirt on that read, “I am just here to annoy you.” It was covered with angry cartoon faces. Both of his shoelaces were untied. He was beginning the new school year disheveled and with a curse on his shirt. My heart broke to see it. He deserved a blessing.
The decisions that we make as moms aren’t just about the T-shirts we dress our children in; they’re about how we clothe their hearts and dress their souls. Do our children know that they are loved beyond a shadow of a doubt? Do they come home to hear words of blessing and faith spoken over their lives? And do we extend ourselves the same courtesy as moms?
Proverbs 18:21 says, “Life and death are in the power of our tongue…” I invite you to speak the words over your children that your Savior is longing to shower over you. Join me in an effort to plant positive seeds that Christ would be proud of. And while everything else lies fallow this winter, imagine what God will grow in our families!
Do you have a story about how someone spoke a blessing over you and it made a difference in your life? If so, I would love to hear it!