I was checking out of the grocery store the other day, with my children, and the only thing going through my mind was the song, “I Will Survive.”
I couldn’t shake the song, so I finally looked at the woman standing behind me in line and said, “I will survive, that song? Should be every moms anthem.”
I was sweating, because, well, checking out with my three kids and it was that kind of grocery trip.
We made it to the car and all was well. But I still decided that day that “I Will Survive” is a mom’s anthem. At least those three words, because I’m pretty sure the rest is about love gone wrong. Or something like that.
What I’m saying is: Moms, you will survive.
Here are some tips to help you do just that.
5 Ways to Survive the First Few Years of Motherhood
(Based on the lyrics of “I Will Survive” by Gloria Gaynor. Yes, I realize the song is about a break up. Bear with me.)
At First I Was Afraid
If you’re afraid of how you’re going to get through the sleepless nights, the crying, the crazy, know this: you will, and you aren’t alone. Motherhood during the little years can make you go a little nutso. Totally normal. Just remember, it’s okay to feel afraid, even petrified. You are completely normal. Don’t let anyone make you feel badly for your honest emotions/fears/struggles. Motherhood is hard. You know what else it is? Of course you do. It’s amazing and beautiful and even in the trenches, it’s glorious.
As Long As I Know How to Love
We know how to love because He first loved us. You know how to love, so you just keep on lovin’ and cuddlin’ and smiling at those babies. Don’t try and do too much else. Let it go, if you can. Just sleep, eat, snuggle. It’s okay. It’s okay to just survive for awhile. What you’re doing day in and day out is exhausting. Love will help you persevere.
You’d Think I’d Lay Down and Die (Oh No, Not I)
I just can’t even do it. I can’t even. I. Can’t. Even.
I know. I’ve said those words, I’ve felt those feelings. I know. But.
I promise you’ll get through it. It will not always feel this desperate. One day, you’ll look back and breathe. But friend, do reach out. See if you can find someone to help you from time to time so you can get away, or get rest, or find some sanity. Don’t feel guilty for needing some help. God made us for each other, for community, and being alone can be dangerous. Reach out. Talk to your husband. Ask God.
Now I Hold My Head Up High
Eventually, you will gain confidence. Eventually, you will even sleep. I know! Isn’t that the best news ever?! For real though, you will, and it will be glorious. Hang in there. Also, all that motherhood guilt, let it go. Do your best, don’t get too neurotic, and know that your children think you are a rock star. I mean, you’re a mom, you’re kind of a big deal (as my friend Kat Lee says). Those babies, they grow up, and they even sleep in. You will get there.
I Will Survive
Sing it loud, sing it proud – “I will survive!!!” Just don’t sing too loud or you’ll wake up the baby.
Friend, you are in a long line of mothers; you stand in solidarity with those who have gone before you, who are all around you, and who will come after you. You are a beautiful legacy. Don’t you give up. What you do changes lives and impacts the world.
You are mother. Roar. Or, you know, snore. Because for real, you need your sleep.
This giveaway is now closed. The winner is Nelli Kalinyuk! Congrats!
Today I have three fun things for you just because I like you! And, well, because it’s the one-year anniversary of the release of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe. 🙂
Up for grabs…
The Discipleship & Discipline: Practical Parenting Help for the Desperate Mom Course! This course was created with myself and Sally Clarkson and is in a Webinar (video teaching) format. You can read all about it HERE.
These sweet Hope, Peace, Joy Tea Cups from DaySpring so you can invite another mama over for some girl time!
Two copies of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe – keep one and give one to a friend!
Thank you to everyone who commented! The randomly drawn winner is Comment #169: Nelli K!