Are you a child of addiction?
Or of divorce?
Or of a single parent?
Have you lost a child?
Or a grandchild?
Do you have a daughter who became pregnant as a teen?
And then a second time?
Is someone in your family or your extended family gay?
Does someone in your home today struggle with addiction to alcohol?
Has someone in your family been adopted?
Or relinquished a child to adoption?
Has someone chosen abortion?
Have you received a recorded message from your child’s school that they are not there…and you don’t know where they might be?
Or a call from a lab reporting a positive drug test?
Or an eerie middle of the night call that someone you love has been arrested?
Or injured in a wreck?
Or is drunk – again?
Did you answer “yes” to at least one of these questions, but you’ve never told anyone? Not outside of the most-trusted core group of family or friends who’ve experienced these “yeses” with you. (Or maybe you are on the other end of the spectrum…the “one” that others have answered “yes” about…?)
Do you carry about a sense of shame that silences you and shuts you off from the life you always imagined you’d enjoy as a believer, a follower of Jesus Christ?
I answer “yes” to every one of these questions. I’ve sat in
-hospital rooms and
-inmate visitation rooms.
Oh…so many issues have entered our home: alcoholism, learning disabilities, cancer, legal issues, abortion, homosexuality, addiction, teen pregnancy, infertility, adoption, divorce, and death. (The details are all in the book.)
I’m not writing this to depress you. Or to weigh you down. My desire is anything but. My purpose in this post is to announce loudly and boldly and unashamedly – that you are not alone!
God draws near the broken. In fact, God loves the broken with a crazy no matter what love. Enough to break the body of His own Son so that broken you and me would know just how very much God does love us.
And God uses the broken. We think our brokenness disqualifies us from being effective for Jesus in this world when the reality is anything but. Actually – get this? – brokenness, when put in Jesus’ redemptive hands, can actually qualify us to be even more useful.
-The one who has been diagnosed and treated for cancer knows the drill and can offer genuine empathy and practical help to a newbie who is swirling in a sudden new normal.
-The mom whose teen reveals a startling pregnancy finds herself nodding with compassion several months later as a coworker discovers a similar path in her daughter’s life.
-An addict “gets” another addict.
-A parent wrestling to understand her child’s same sex orientation discovers compassion for her sister’s journey along this path.
Roy Hession writes, “To be broken is the beginning of revival.” And re-formation. And redemption. God loves the broken: broken families and the broken people in them. God uses broken families and the broken people in them.
There’s no such thing as a perfect family. But God loves the broken. You. Me. Us. God uses the broken families. Yours. Mine. Ours.
Because there is beauty in the broken.
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