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ALIZA LATTA is a writer, artist, and pastor who is a huge fan of telling stories. She creates content for Canada’s largest youth conference, Change Conference, and is a church planter in Ontario, Canada. Her artwork and writing have been featured in publications for LifeWay, Dayspring, and (in)courage. She is...

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  1. Aliza,
    We all need friends that continue to point us to God no matter what age we are. I’m a “few” years older than you lol, and I’ve seen many seasons come and go with friendships – especially with moving around the country – but some have remained tried and true through even that. I also think we need friends who are younger than us, and friends (mentors) that are older than we are. Even at 54, I still have a mentor who helps guide me through seasons in life that she has already experienced. God knows just the right people that we need and I am continually amazed at how He makes for our paths to intersect. Thank you for this beautiful reflection on friendship and God’s unchanging love that makes friendship happen.

  2. Thanks for sharing this! Ten years ago I became friends with a young woman who was around the age of my daughter and was in my Tuesday morning Bible study group. We grew to be close friends and I thought of her three small kids like grand kids. She always turned to me for ‘godly advice’ (as she put it) and we prayed a lot about many things, especially her marriage.
    A couple years ago that marriage fell apart due to multiple infidelities on her husband’s part. She turned to me once again and I spent a number of days sitting on her couch holding her while she sobbed her heart out. We prayed, read scripture and prayed some more. Then her parents swooped in and moved her and her kids to another town far from here. She and I kept in touch daily and prayed over the phone. I went to see her a couple times as she settled into her new town.
    Then one day she asked me for my ‘godly advice’ on a man who was pursuing her. Being she was still married I suggested that she just tell him that he needed to back off. Long story short…he wooed her with the promise of love and happiness. While she still came to me for advice and prayer I could feel her pulling away since I was not telling her what she wanted to hear. Then one day I found that she had ‘unfriended’ me on facebook and she wouldn’t answer my emails, phone calls, letters or private messages. This past December she married this man (her divorce was final in June of last year). I still pray for her and hope that they have a long, happy marriage. But I would be lying if I said that the way she ended our friendship and the reasons she ended it didn’t hurt deeply.
    With the help of my precious accountability partner and lots of prayer I have gotten past the hurt. But when I think of this young woman and her precious kids it still makes me sad.

    • Kathy,
      Never doubt the Godly wisdom you shared with her will not be used again by her. I also lost a dear friends 25 year friendship from H.S. when I became a believer, and then a year ago she died suddenly. It hurt deeply to lose her both times, yet I also continued to pray for her & her family. Aliza’s mom is wise about the seasons we go through and the friendships we go through. God is the wisest in giving us such dear friends as we need them. God bless you my dear sister-in-Christ. I am 58 & loving the season I am in!

    • Kathy,
      Prayers for you and your friend. May God heal wounded hearts. I thank God you were there for her when she needed you. May God bring you another good friend who will be there for you!
      Blessings 🙂

  3. Aliza, you had me laughing out loud. I love how God gave you your friend Sarah. God has made us interdependent. When we learn to trust another, build friendships with them, God seems to open doors into our hearts that can be opened no other way.

    God plopped me into the middle of a group of wonderful women. We are doing life together. I am still in awe that He gave me this group of ladies. We do the ugly parts as well as the parts worth celebrating. I’m learning to trust them and believe that I am a valued part of the group. Not always easy, given some of my past friendships.

    Loved your post today. 🙂

  4. Great thoughts about season of life and so true. I love the advice your mom gave you. I can definitely look back on my life and see the different people God placed there for just that season. I have lost touch with some but am grateful for the time we did have together.

  5. So sweet! God is amazing- how he brings just the right friend at just the right time. God has recently brought a wacky group of girls into my life that make me laugh hysterically, at a time when I thought I had lost my ability to laugh. I’m so thankful for them:)

  6. Thanks! I’m in a friendship “shift” too, and it’s nice to hear your older, wiser perspective. I’m fifteen, so I didn’t need my mom to tell me it is a “changing of seasons.” I’m looking forward to making new friends like your Sarah. 🙂

  7. I think I’ve just found my “Sarah” Yolanda is a believer who lives in my complex
    I am praying to be that friend to someone.however,I am wary of other women and motives,having been raised in a family who hid their reasons for everything.its hard making real friends when I’m suspiciousof motives .Lord help me become a friend who lo es at all times
    the phone. I went to see her a couple times as she settled into her new

    • Cindy,
      Prayers that God will help you become the kind of friend you want to be. It can be hard dealing with past issues. May God heal your heart and help you to open up to women.
      Blessings 🙂

  8. I love everything about this post Aliza!! You have such a gift with words. And I bet you are the best kind of friend to have! Your sister and Sarah are too lucky girls.

  9. I love this post! It’s hard when seasons of friendship change. Love that you have a “stick-together” friend. That is so precious! I’m an older, fellow tea-spiller, and this post was so encouraging to me this morning! 🙂

  10. Aliza,
    It is so true that we all go through seasons. I’m in a season of frustration and stress dealing with my aging dad and work. Thankfully God has placed a Godly woman in my life 11 years ago. We talk about everything and pray for each other as we face trials–she is also dealing with aging parents (her mom died Thanksgiving last year). I wouldn’t trade our friendship for anything!
    God has also placed a few good friends at work. They pray with me and give me advice. I in turn pray for them and their families.
    Blessings 🙂