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Anna is the author of A Moment of Christmas and Pumpkin Spice for Your Soul. She's worked at (in)courage since 2012, and lives in Minnesota with her husband and their four kids. Anna encourages others to look for and embrace the extraordinary moments found in their ordinary days.

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  1. Anna,
    I love this – giving in to the grit. As selfish humans we often want to go against the flow instead of gently going with it…at least that’s what I do. It makes me tired just thinking about three under the age of four – my prayers are with you sweet momma. My children are grown and their problems are complex adult problems. The same principle remains – I can let rubbing up against them make me hard or choose to let it soften me. Often easier said than done because they aren’t so stinkin’ cute anymore. The difficulty always leads me back to God, however, because I realize I can’t do this in my strength alone. Great post!
    Blessings and a prayer for being able to use the bathroom in peace 🙂
    Bev

  2. Thank you for this. I have 4 babies under the age of 6, my youngest being 5 months. As i checked my email this morning, after yet another sleepless night with my littlest one, i felt so weary not sure how I could give what is required to mother my children today. Then i read your post. It was exactly what the Lord wanted me to hear this morning. This season is extremely difficult and I am drained physically, emotionally, and at times spiritually, but I know God is using it to refine me and force me to draw on His strength and not my own. Thank you for being used by Him today to comfort this tired, weary momma!

  3. Thank you, Annna, for this beautiful and gently convicting reminder to let the Lord soften us, to let go of the things that keep our hearts hard. Hard hearts pull us into selfish places instead of focused on and cooperating with the Lord and all the love that He wants to share with us and others. As I go through a tough season of healing and loneliness, there are times I want to hide and protect myself. I pray that He keeps us all turned toward the light of His love today and each day, doing His will in all things 🙂 Please pray for me.

  4. Well, I am an empty nester but I thoroughly enjoyed this portrait of motherhood. Those
    tiny people everywhere are so precious to God, as are their mothers, sleep
    deprived, unshowered, through it all! Blessings to your family.

  5. Sometimes, it doesn’t end when they are young as a mother of three with Adhd, Giftedness, and Autism. It’s no room for selfishness.
    It’s harder to know when and how to back off, or step up because they are very unique people, and will need me for more than most the rest of their lives.

  6. How sweet. God bless your growing family. Every stage is a gift, but they’re only little for such a short while. Enjoy those tiny fingers and toes. Congrats!

  7. I love this too. I am now a grandma to 10 kids, but I had twins when my daughter was twenty months old. I learned to sit in the midst of a messy room and hug/hold/comfort/play with one kid/baby after another. I learned that when I was exhausted at night to just rake all the toys to one side and go to bed to SLEEP when I could. BTW, love the Whack-a-mole comparison :D. I learned to assembly line getting the toddler/babies all ready to go outside. I learned to go for slow walks, or into the back yard, etc when there were dishes in the sink. Later I learned to let the kids wash the dishes standing on chairs [lots of towels on the floor beneath them] I learned to forgive myself when I was cranky or sharp and to let it all go and move on.

    I could go on but I won’t. My daughter now has five children aged thirteen to four. I see her beauty and grace and love and the incredible multitasking and I think, I did all that and didn’t give myself enuf kudos, enough grace.

    God bless all Mommies.

  8. Oh Anna, this was so beautiful. My husband and I have been talking about having a third child and we likely will try later this year. We have two girls two and under right now. I feel myself relating on every single point. I will be tucking “soft” in my back pocket. I have a feeling I’ll be needing it soon enough…if not tomorrow. 😉

  9. Congrats Anna!
    So so true! Selfish is IMPOSSIBLE with tiny ones.
    Isn’t it exhausting and amazing all twisted up together? I’ll never forget sitting on the toilet after coming home from the hospital with 2nd baby in a lineup of 5…and the 3 year old was calling out “MOMMMMY lets read a story!”. I balled. I couldn’t get off the potty, let alone have another person in my arms. Thankful that time will sort out the hormones and the nonstop. Soon a moment of sipping hot drinks and thumbing through a book will happen! Until then…He’ll continue to replace all the hustle with His love. Go Momma.

  10. Anna,
    May God give you the strength and patience to mother three littles. I have been in a season of learning also. God has been teaching me patience for the last two years. I’m not a mother, rather a daughter dealing with aging dad and his many medical issues. Like you I can be selfish. I want quiet days of peace and rest-not errands and paperwork.
    Blessings 🙂

  11. I’m expecting my second little one next month, to join her big brother who is 23 months old. I know there are big changes to come and that I will be learning all these lessons anew with a second one. Thank you, Anna, for sharing so honestly about the challenges – and blessings – of motherhood!

  12. As an invisible single woman without children, I would give anything to have babies to love. You may think I’m selfish but I basically spend my life going to events that celebrate married people, mothers and children. I enjoy your writing (except for the cutesy words like “husby”) but sometimes wish you could be more inclusive to women without children.

    • I don’t think you’re selfish at all. You are also NOT invisible. If I made you feel that way, I do apologize, and hope sincerely that there’s another (in)courage author with whom you feel a deeper connection. You chose to hide your name so I’m not sure if we’ve connected before (I’m guessing we have, since I didn’t use the word ‘Husby’ in this particular post), but I want you to know a few things. First, as one who didn’t know if she’d be able to have children (we had years of infertility and have two babies in heaven), my three here are incredible blessings I never take for granted AND a constant reminder of the days I too felt invisible. But the Lord did have a different plan for my life than I thought, and right now I am consumed with my kids and write to encourage other moms. It’s both my heart and my season. I want you to know that there are so many women in all walks of life that both write at and visit the (in)courage community, and ALL are welcome here! And I deeply want you to know that simply by being identified as His daughter – not as a wife, not as a mother, not as a friend or sister or employee or anything else – you are incredibly loved.