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Mary is a writer and speaker who lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons – but lives because of God’s grace. She writes about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places at MaryCarver.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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  1. “for the love of pottery!” Thanks for making me giggle this morning. I think many of us will be reminded of your post when we get plates out today.

    • I’m listening to my daughter empty the dishwasher right now…hearing our plates clink together just a bit harder than I’d like…and I’m reminded of my own words! 🙂

  2. Mary,
    I am guilty of trying to get as much on one plate as is super-womanly possible. I will get out a shoehorn to try to fit one more thing into my day. When I get like this…finding my breathing not relaxed, but tense…I read posts like yours and scripture like 127:2 that you pointed out. It makes me ask myself, “Why are you working so anxiously from morning till night…it’s useless…” Or I take Jesus up on His invitation to come away from the crowds for awhile and be with Him. Some days I’m better at this than others, but when I feel the anxiety rise, it’s my red flag that I need a Jesus-break. Time spent with Him or time just spent resting and thinking of nothing is therapeutic. God programmed rest into His week…I’d be smart to follow His example. Thanks for a much needed post!

  3. How did you know that I’m in the process of bringing down some of those spinning plates? Carefully. Prayerfully.
    Thanks for your encouragement.

  4. Oh how gracious is our Savior this morning for inspiring this post. Thank you, Mary, for these words 🙂 I tend to overload my plate and I am learning that the Lord will only empower me so far-He knows my limits and where He needs me far better than I do thankfully. May each of us be guided by the Holy Spirit today to find that balance that lets each of us love with full hearts and bodies 🙂

  5. Thanks Mary for this inspirational post. It was exactly what I needed this morning. I tend to have my plate overloaded on a regular basis. Today I’ve got so much to do & so little time to get it completed. But. ..I must remember to take the time to rest in God. I’ll get what I need to accomplish completed. God will be with me every step of the way. ..& knowing this gives me peace.

  6. I love it! I women all the time that God didn’t mean for us to be jugglers, I can see the plates spinning. It is okay to say no. The Israelites wandered and would not rest, Hebrews recounts this, they just would not rest in Him. So how can we? Put down the dishes and take a nap.

  7. Ahhh, Mary. I’ve been there. And if I’m honest, I’ll probably be there again. Saying yes is so much easier—so much more affirming—than saying no. The fact that someone asked me to do something? Thinks I’m worthy of asking? Yes please! That’s my struggle–acceptance by people and people-pleasing.

    As God has given me a calling to write, He’s also given me reasons to say no to things. Not everything. But knowing where my priorities are makes that two-letter word a little easier to say. Well, that and a husband who is good at helping know when too much is simply too much.

    Great post today!

  8. Mary,This is so good! I see so many needs in our community and church, and I would be qualified. But, I do need to ask myself, is God calling me to do this? Is my heart in this, even though this is good. Who else could do this? Or is this supposed to happen now? Does this have to be perfect? Gotta stop some plates. Joanne

  9. Hi Mary! I, too, check my phone before I get out of bed, BUT I force myself to start with my YouVersion app and then I can check FB. It makes a difference for me!! Best! Lina

  10. While I enjoyed reading this, and I certainly could have related to it in the past… this rest, stop, pause and prayer to God, might alleviate the ‘too many plates’ syndrome. Holy Spirit is always willing to be our guide, so why not take a minute – or two, three, more even?! Our steps are, indeed, ordered; and peace reigns for the rest of each step. May all of us realize the ‘realness’ of His ‘loving us’!

  11. Mary,
    It is so easy to overload a plate. Sometimes we feel like we need to do all this and that to please God or earn our way to Heaven. While He created us to do good works He also commands us to rest. Being tired, worn out is not His will for us. We won’t have the energy to care for our family. Plus we may be depriving someone else of the joy of doing a good work.
    Blessings 🙂