“Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and so that you may prosper in the land the LORD your God is giving you.”
My mom taught me how to measure sugar. It was never a sit down lesson, per se. It was more that every time she was baking, I was tucked under her wing — watching, learning, licking the batter off the beaters from the stand mixer.
The white sugar, she would always scoop, with a measuring cup, from a container in the cabinet. And the she would level off the cup with the back of a knife.
Brown sugar was a totally different story. Brown sugar she would take from the box, pack it tightly into the measuring cup until it was full, pressing it as tight as possible.
I’m sure Mom told me how to measure the sugar, but I don’t remember her words as much as I remember her actions.
And every time I measure sugar, I honor my mother by doing it the way she modeled for me.
I used to think “honoring” my father and mother just meant obedience. And when I was seven, it did.
But what does it mean now? When I’m my own adult, running my own life, how do I honor my father and mother? The directive from God, with a pretty solid promise, still remains.
The best way I can honor them now is by taking all the wisdom they shared over the years and using it to shape and mold the banks of river of my life.
I honor my mother when I read my Bible, because she always told me that was the best way to start the day. I honor my father when I spend my money wisely, because he taught me the value of budgeting. I honor my mother when I measure sugar correctly, and I honor my father when I add the dumplings to the pot of chicken broth just like he taught me.
For adult children, our call to honor switches from that of obedience to their commands to taking the best advice and life lessons learned, and allowing those to impact our decisions — as employees, as spouses, as parents, as Christians.
In what ways do you honor your mother today?