Helen Suk-Louws
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Helen is a worshiper, a lover of the Word, and a pursuer of healing. She’s a wife, mother of four, and a tender of gardens.

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  1. Thank you Helen. That is so vulnerable and well said. I relate to loss, although my story is so very different. 🙂
    “It’s of precious value to fight to see God in every day and every season of Life.” That speaks of the desire but also the weight and that it is not always easy. Some days it is a fight–but we know a fight worth it. The way you are able to express yourself is so beautiful and encouraging to me. Growing and moving forward together.

    • Thank you for your words, Hopeful. Loss is experienced in many ways, each resonating with emptiness and pain. Time heals to some degree, but only God can heal the depths of our wounds and hearts. Saying a prayer for your right now, that in this very day you may see evidences of God’s love and care for you. Your name speaks beautifully of the position of your heart towards Father God.

  2. I enjoyed this very much, Helen and appreciate your transparency which is a huge encouragement. God is good and gracious to us in all seasons! Blessings to you, friend!

  3. Oh Helen. My heart broke for you when I read this. I too dreaded fall, for it is the season my father always struggled in his health battle. I did not have the added burden of infertility, although I did suffer miscarriages between our two blessings. Our oldest daughter for a few years would become fearful when she saw the leaves falling; when she was in second grade, 2 years after my father died, she became hysterical on the playground at recess. The teacher of course was very concerned and the our house. My mother was there babysitting our youngest while I attended a mandatory meeting at my workplace. When Abby sobbed into the phone that the leaves reminded her of her grandpa, my dear mother sweetly said “Well honey, Grandpa wouldn’t want you to be sad. He’s with Jesus now, and he doesn’t hurt any more.”
    Since then, our daughter has found fall to be a season of comfort, although her memory of that has dimmed at 23. Now she is dating a young man who whose father passed away a year ago at this time-ironic. Interesting how the Lord always uses the lessons in our lives to help others walk their journey.
    Thank you for sharing your story; blessings to you in this season of renewal.

      • Thank you, Shauna, for sharing your own story of healing in the fall season. The growth in your daughter reminds me of II Corinthians 1:3-4 – “Praise be to….the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” God is so good and kind!

  4. Your verse was the one I had as my ‘knot at the end of the rope’ after my mother died when I was 26. Through the years the verse has helped me over and over. The sweet comfort and sometimes the gentle push from the Holy Spirit has sustained and healed me through the years and enabled me to comfort others. Thank you for sharing your grief journey and the hope and joy that comes as we embrace the plan God has for us even when it is different from our own.

    • Kathryn, what an encouragement to hear how God made His Word come alive to you in order to minister His comfort and healing. And then how He empowered you to share it with others. As a result, we love and honor Him more. What a beautiful cyclical love.

  5. So so good.
    I’m joining you in this fight to see the hand of God in every season of life. He’s there at work behind the scenes and gives us eyes of faith. Thanks for sharing your faith-based view of this season.

    • Yes Michele, we continue to fight to see evidences of His hand and grace in our lives. And all the while He is growing us in our faith in Him. It’s a worthwhile journey!

  6. Hi Helen! Very encouraging!! You are so right, God is in the middle of our every sadness and pain. All we have to do is open our eyes and heart to Him, to allow His work in us— to experience His unfailing love and faithfulness in our lives. <3

  7. Helen,

    Such great losses all at once. I can understand why you would not like fall. This reminds me of Isaiah 61:1,2-3
    The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
    because the Lord has anointed me
    to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
    to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes.

    It is so like our God to make something good come out of what looks bad. He has plans for us to prosper us and not to harm us. I know full well that He means everything for good! God knew there would be other children that needed good Christian parents and you both would fit the bill!
    I am learning to see God in every season of life also. My aging dad had bad dementia and was put on hospice last July (2015). It got to the point he was hospitalized in January. God saw fit to heal him back to “normal”. Now I see God working in all situations.

    Blessings 🙂

    • Thank you for sharing about your recent journey with your dad, and how God bestowed on you a crown of beauty as well! What an encouragement of God’s goodness to both you and your dad.

  8. As a fellow infertility survivor, thank you for this article. So beautiful written and full of encouragement and truth. I have an infertility support blog and I’ve shared it on my blog’s Facebook page.

    • Oh, Lisa, thank you so much for sharing. It warms my heart to know that my humble words may be used by God to speak some encouragement to your friends on your support blog. Let me just affirm that God knows your hearts and your pain, and is actively working His healing and plans in your lives. Hugs to you!

  9. “Having children did not erase our pain and loss, but through them God softened the sting. More chapters of brokenness occurred, yet repeatedly God demonstrated His work of restoration within us. In so doing, He caused growth and faith and a more intimate knowing of Him. He gave life a holy perspective.”
    How true that our Father lovingly shows us such mercy through trials and joys as we seek his holy perspective. Thanks for ministering to me and so many others with your transparent words. We are blessed!