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Jen encourages women to embrace both the beauty and bedlam of their everyday lives at BeautyandBedlam.com. A popular speaker, worship leader, and author of Just Open the Door: How One Invitation Can Change a Generation, Jen lives in North Carolina with her husband, five children, and a sofa for anyone...

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  1. Miss Jennifer,

    Your gentle encouragement is much appreciated. I often find myself in the same shoes as your little girl… Allowing myself to take on the burdens of other people’s opinions/emotions/actions/decisions instead of instantly reaching out and resolving it or seeking my Heavenly Father. I loved the simplicity of the way you turned a child’s dispute into smiles and happy hearts. I find myself asking, “Why can’t it be that easy??” But… it is? Isn’t it? I don’t have to carry around the weight of people’s mean words or their opinions of me because my Savior has told me, more than once, not to concern myself with pleasing “man” and that He is here to help me carry my “load.” I just need to trust in Him to turn those tears into smiles. Knowing my relationship with Him and HIS “opinion” are all that truly matter. Thank you again; this post was a blessing to me as I am sure it will be to many others. I pray that you and your family have a wonderful day.

    This side of Heaven,
    Summer Rae

    • Thank YOU Summer Rae. !! I gleaned more from your reply. It really expounded on Jennifer’s lesson. I’m at that place where I’m finding peace in forgiveness of those who have hurt me. I also am asking forgiveness from those whom I have hurt. I am learning to trust in how Jesus sees me….instead of people’s opinion of me.
      Thank you again

  2. Thank you for this post. It encouraged me to believe the best of others. It also encouraged me to take a hard look at my priorities and make sure I am elevating others.

  3. Jen,
    I’ll join you!! Like you said, unity begins when “We lift the name of Jesus higher than our own agendas.” I know I get so caught up in me, mine, I….but when I choose to look around and include someone who may be standing outside the circle, that’s when the love of Christ truly begins. Much needed and timely reminder to pour out the love of Jesus on those who may be different than me. After all He poured out love on me, a sinner, who was different from Him.
    Bev xx

  4. Jennifer,

    God uses children to teach us all the time. This country is so divided right now that we need unity more than ever. We need to look at others the same way Jesus did- with color blind eyes. Don’t look at someone’s clothes, bank account, skin color, ideas-just love them. Have compassion for the brokenhearted. Show mercy to all. After all Jesus gave us mercy – we all deserve Hell & yet He died a crucifixion to save our souls. I pray for our country daily that God would have bring a revival back here. We need to get back to our Judo Christian roots. Love everyone & unity might happen!

    Blessings 🙂

  5. What perfect timing in today’s world ! We sure can learn a lot from such young children .
    I am with you , we all must keep this in mind as we want unity but often we are not loving unconditional, like God !

    Love , hugs , and peace all of you my sisters !

  6. I’ll join you too – it’s so often the little things we find hard. Like showing up faithfully, even though the club which once was so much fun is dwindling in numbers and some of the snipiest ones are still attending.

  7. I wish all of you were my next door neighbours…how good it is for God’s people to live in harmony. Does anyone notice that even the word HARM is in the word HARMony…we need Jesus to lavish us with His Grace to lean into forgiveness and reconnection…and His gentle courage to reach out.

    blessings to all

  8. Jennifer,
    What a sweet way for you to help your daughter resolve things, Thank-you for your sharing your post….I will try harder

    Have a blessed day all,