Walking Arm in Arm
I sat in the church pew with my friends — Michelle on my right and Lyla on my left — to sing the songs, eat the bread, drink the wine, pray the prayers, and listen to the message. I wanted to reach out and grab my friends’ hands, but I didn’t. Fear of freaking out my friends meant I kept my hands in my lap. Later, in the parking lot, I told them, “I almost reached out and grabbed your hands, but I didn’t want to freak you out.”
“You should have,” they both told me. “It would have been fine.”
When my husband and I visited Europe, we walked down street after street, in city after city, and saw pairs of women walking arm-in-arm everywhere we looked. They walked closely and it was clear their friendships were treasures.
I said to my husband, “I’m going to do that when we get home. I’m going to walk arm-in-arm with my girlfriends.”
Friendship is a gift. I’ve learned that the hard way. Finding someone who will talk you back from the edge, encourage you to follow your dream, stay up talking until 3:00 am, eat ice cream with you — straight from the container — hear your darkest confessions without flinching, and keep showing up anyway? That’s a gift. No, a treasure.
If you’ve got one good friend, you’ve got a treasure, that’s for sure. If you’ve got more than one good friend, you have what I’ve heard called an embarrassment of riches. I want my friends to know how much I love them. I want them to know they have saved my sanity on more than one occasion. I want them to know that sometimes my heart overflows with gratitude and love for them. So I’m turning a deaf ear to the voice that tells me I might just freak out my friends if I let them know how much they mean to me. A friend loves at all times. It’s as simple as that.
Decide today to become the kind of friend who hears others’ darkest confessions without flinching. Walking together, arm in arm. A friend who loves at all times.
This message was written by Deidra Riggs and appears in A Moment to Breathe, a 365-day devotional from the (in)courage community on sale now at DaySpring for just $12, and available where books are sold.