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Stephanie Bryant is the co-founder of @incourage and a podcaster at the #JesusLedAdventurePodcast. She owns a Marketing & Business Coaching company. She is passionate about guiding you to your promised land and personal brand therapy. She enjoys spending her days with her husband and their miracle daughter, Gabrielle, on #BryantFamilyFarm....

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  1. Stephanie,
    It is truly God’s grace that enables people like Lang to send funds to proclaim the Gospel to those who tortured him, or for people to minister to drunk drivers who killed their loved ones, etc. I think of the extremists who surround the Christians at our school in the Middle East and torture them and have been opening my heart as to how to minister to people who maim and kill in the name of their God. I also know that one can love and forgive others and they continue to mistreat you….it could be a spouse, adult children, people who used to be friends. I do believe there is a point, wherein to guard our hearts and not let others treat God’s precious child as worthless, that there is a time and place to set boundaries or remove yourself from the situation. Loving and forgiving does not equate to making yourself a doormat for others to wipe their feet upon. Thank you for pointing that out, Stephanie. May God grant us all the wisdom and may we be open to His nudgings on this important precept. Great post!
    Bev xx

  2. I would have loved to have overheard that Sunday morning conversation. I’m sure the aroma of grace was just as powerful in the air and just as sweet as Lang’s delicious donuts.

  3. Amen! What an amazing and selfless act Laing does. I’ve just returned from Cambodia so this story has come alive for me. Great post! God is amazing I too want to fashion myself on his image so that others too will ask & be encouraged to join the family in Christ we have, his love and compassion and protection in our lives.

  4. Stephanie,

    There is so much divisiveness & hatred in our world today. Everyone is doing what they want & not caring about each other. We all need hearts like Lang’s. A heart that cares for the less fortunate or those who have treated us wrongly. William Bowen has a quote “hurt people hurt people.” He goes on to say we should have compassion on those people. A “keen awareness of the suffering of another coupled with a desire to see it relieved.” People hurt others as a result of their own inner strife and pain. People are a product of their upbringing or religion. We should shine some of God’s light & love into their darkened world. A lot of people in this world have never heard the gospel & don’t have any idea of God’s redemptive love. It is time we started showing this to them. Let’s set aside all differences/hatred & start loving like Jesus.

    Blessings 🙂

  5. Stephanie,
    Your story, Lang’s story are a blessing…In order to be free we forgive. We are then reflecting God’s love, not condoning hurt, or deceit inflicted upon us.
    Thank-you for sharing this touching reminder of 70 x 7
    I hope that you all have a blessed day,

  6. Stephanie, you’re right – not a typical Christmas message but so appropriately Christmas! I just read an article last night a friend wrote about forgiving the man that murdered her sister and visiting this man in jail to tell him she forgave him…so powerful. It’s only God’s power that can empower us to live like that! Oh, and by the way – the donut part of your story sounded fun, spontaneous, and delicious! What a beautiful sensitivity to the Spirit’s leading!

  7. When you forgive someone, you are doing it for you and not the other person. I truly believe in this. I remember when my husband and I first got married, his parents did not welcomed me or the idea that he was going to marry someone like me. They wanted him to marry someone else and for the first decade of our marriage, his parents did not attend the majority of our events, birthdays for our kids, Thanksgiving gathering, Christmas. It was hard to understand and it was during this time that I also learned that when dealing with difficult people, they teach you everything that you do not want to become. It was when I begin to ask God to change my heart instead of asking Him why they won’t change, the prayers were answered. Over two decades now, no one would ever believe that his parents did not like me once. Thankful for this reminder.

    • Wow sister! So much courage! Thank you for this idea – asking God to change my heart. Yes. I’m struggling to love those who hurt me and this is sooooo timely. (And thank you Stephanie for this!) xo

  8. God is so mighty that through the hate in this world shines the bright light of His son. Thank you sister. What a gift to share with all and telling langs story gives me courage and pause to hear His mighty voice of mercy. Gods blessings on you and yours.

  9. Stephanie,
    At a time of year when family emotions and hurts can be so intense, this is a penetrating message on a local scale. Thank you. At a time in life when world events and views, news, political correctness, as well as, all the ways we find to divide ourselves from each other, I needed to read this. In a time when God keeps whispering to me, there are more of us (His children who are aware and love Him), than there are of those who do not know him, these words are profound. Thank you.

  10. Stephanie, I love how God stirred your spirit to go get donuts but really had a plan to offer you the sweetness of bearing witness to the power of intentional love and forgiveness. I want to listen to and follow the Spirit like this. I want to be like Lang and his wife, taking every opportunity to be bold and generous for the sake of the gospel — that others might know God’s grace too. xx

  11. Thank you so much! I needed this right now, as a family member is coming to visit for Christmas and the last time we saw each other was, well, the very last straw. I think I need to read James 3 constantly for the next week!