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Alia Joy is an author who believes the darkness is illuminated when we grasp each other's hand and walk into the night together. She writes poignantly about her life with bipolar disorder as well as grief, faith, marriage, poverty, race, embodiment, and keeping fluent in the language of hope in...

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  1. Alia Joy,
    No one likes to be weak, especially in a society that values strength and super heroes. They haven’t made a movie about the “Super Weaklings”and I don’t foresee it coming. Yet God has put me in a place of weakness on many occasions physically and emotionally. Like you, I fight against and get tired of the continuing weakness, but it’s that very weakness that has sent me running into the arms of my Savior. The blessing in the curse, if you will. In order to utterly rely and depend upon God, I believe that our pride must be taken out of the way first. The Bible talks about having a humble heart over and over again. Power and humility don’t usually go hand in hand, but in God’s economy, when we are weak (and humble)…THEN we are made strong in Him. No strength until you admit and embrace the weakness. Beautiful post and thank you, as always, sharing from your point of weakness so we know we don’t walk alone.
    Blessings,
    Bev xx

  2. “We meet pain with every good and holy offering even when it seems like too little.” -> Thank you for admitting this–that sometimes the grace of God, found sufficient by Paul and Corrie ten Boom and all the greats just does not seem like it’s enough when we’re in the sharp teeth of affliction.
    And I’m wondering if Paul and Corrie started where we are and grew into their ability to receive grace instead of deliverance and still say “enough.”
    I’m trusting for that kind of growth, and it’s a slow process, for sure.

    • I imagine it’s something that grows stronger with use. I know I can see grace in places I wouldn’t have in my 20’s or even 30’s so perhaps it is this way. The more we rely on God and learn to trust his character, the more we see sufficient grace when the world seems to be falling apart.

  3. Alia Joy.. thank you for the beautiful story of your moms sweet self.. I can see your heart and hers so clearly here. I pray she’s well and back to her normal activities . My moms in heaven as of this month and I loved waiting on her hand and foot as she did for me some 63 years ago! Yes His grace was sufficient for me and her.. His strength met me in my weakness and I praise Him for it \0/ . You’re post made me cry as I miss her and also because it’s a gift to have a good godly mom and to be one ! Blessings to and through you

  4. Alia,

    Most people don’t like being needy. The feel it is a sign of weakness. That is when we call on God to help us & that makes us strong. I have been in your shoes many times. It has’t always been easy. Sometimes I wanted to cry & make it go away. I would fight & want to leave the situation. Being weak in a culture that demands strength & do it yourself isn’t easy. Calling on God can seem like being puny. Both parents had severe dementia. I would take them to the doctor’s, cook, run errands, etc. My dad moved into an assisted living. He also had essential tremors (shaking). One day I was over there at lunch. He was sitting in the middle with one guy on either side of table. He was having trouble feeding himself. I asked if he minded if I did it. The man to the left said “you will get jewels in your crown for this”. Talk about hearing God speak to me!! He had to be hospitalized twice for dementia (psych). It was through God’s sufficiency that I was able to handle it. God allowed me to be there for them & help them out as a Christian & a daughter. No apologizing for any pain. They simply couldn’t help it & I simply had to be there. Praying for you & your family.

    Blessings 🙂

  5. We are all Wounded Healers trying to heal the pain of our family, when we are in pain.
    Lord be in us a healing in all seasons.

    God’s Love & Christ Peace!

  6. So true that we apologize for the way our pain impacts those who love us. But on the other end we would do all we can to ease their suffering and know their pain isn’t their fault.

    Thank you, Alia, for the reminder that our weaknesses aren’t faults.

  7. Thank you for the reminders here. I struggle daily with wanting more than “just” God’s grace in hard situations where we want to see restitution/justice for wrongs done to ourselves or those close to us. Currently walking through a dark time with my high school daughter who had to leave her school with 6 weeks left in the year and start over at another high school due to girls bullying and spreading lies and rumors about her all year long. She fought so hard to ignore it, but the last round brought with it too many broken relationships with people who said they were her friends, and she had no strength left to fight. So in my mind, those awful people at school won, they got what they wanted. She was the nicest kid and the people were jealous of her, and wanted her gone simply because they thought she was a threat to their popularity. I have prayed all year that God would show himself and fight for her, and not let these bullies win, and yet we continue to see them succeeding, having great relationships and enjoying life, while my daughter has to start completely over and cannot go back to a place she had loved.
    While I know God knows all and sees all and right will eventually win, I also know that there is no guarantee that these people will ever have to be held accountable for what they’ve done to my daughter, at least not in this lifetime. And seeing her hurting as a result of nothing she did, and my being helpless to fix this is just too much. I have begged God to forgive my lack of faith in His process and His timing, but I still am consumed with frustration on how wrong seems to have won this battle.
    Thank you for the reminders that we can be real and be hurting without hiding. This was what I needed today.

    • Janet, thank you for posting this, I feel your pain. I have been in a similar position with one of my children. I think many of the same things. Alia’s book, Glorious Weakness, has been such a wise comfort. Love to you.

  8. Thank you again Alia. My 21-year-old brother has been fitted with a dialysis catheter this week…I just want God to say, yes, he is healed. I don’t want to look ahead and see a lifetime of suffering for him.
    Thank you for your gentle, honest, tenacious words and your unrelenting hope. Don’t give up. You are seen and beautiful and your words are making a difference in our lives.
    Much love,
    Karli

    • Karli, it’s so hard to see someone you love with a long road of suffering ahead of them and hope and pray for God to take it from them. I’m sorry for this pain. Praying grace and peace over you and yours as you love and walk with your brother.

  9. Alia Joy,
    I hope your Mom is doing well. My Mom was critically injured in August 2017. She improved to walking with a walker and in October 2018 she broke her right foot in three places. Back to the wheelchair but at least she had a soft cast and after a month could put her weight on it. Released from that accident in January. April 2 she rolled her left foot, fell and broke her ankle/leg in three places. Hard cast, wheelchair, no weight bearing, around the clock assistance (primarily me) for 6 weeks. Then hopefully she learns to walk again. BOY DID I NEED YOUR MESSAGE TODAY!!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you so much!

    • She is doing well, thanks for asking. This was several years ago and while she’ll never be completely as she was before the accident, it hasn’t held her back. I’m so sorry for all your mom has been through. That’s so much. I’m glad this message found you at the right time. God is good like that.

  10. Alia, thanks for sharing your story about your mom’s incident. I’m glad she made it thru. Its hard when mom gets hurt or sick. Lost my mom 5 years ago. She’d been in a nursing home for 6 years. Thankful for the time I was able to spend with her. I pray you have good years with your mom.
    I’ve read the beginning of your book. Looking forward to reading more of it.
    Sitting in the dark on recliner instead of going to bed. Relax and feet up. (in)courage me is my favorite go to reads. In the quiet. In the dark. On my phone. Good night my friend!

  11. I love this story you shared of your momma.. There’s nothing like a momma’s love and it made me cry to see how much you love on her. My mom lives thousands of miles away, four state in between and I see her the most twice a year. Wished she lived closer to me so I can cook, clean, and take her to all the places I know she enjoys… I will see you soon momma!! Thank you for sharing this message.

  12. Hi Alia! I love how your stories are always real from your journey and your every day real life – and the people who you love and the experiences you share, just as they are. Yes, I relate to apologizing for needing love and care. It’s a way of saying, “I need love,” and that’s hard if you’ve learned not to express need. 🙂 I’m moved by your vulnerable words, speaking from a place that is honest and also touched by what God has whispered to you. Thank you for sharing from your heart and journey. I’m looking forward to seeing you in just a little bit at the (in)courage retreat and enjoy your company and get to know you better on this week’s journey, friend! 🙂 love, Bonnie