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Tasha is a melancholy day dreamer, a Korean girl, wife to Matt, and mama to three little warriors: two wild boys and one little lady. She loves French fries, world maps, coffee, spicy soup and wandering the world. As long as she can remember, she’s lived and stood in places...

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  1. Tasha,
    It’s astonishing the things that are said or happen in our childhood that stick to us like ugly gum on the bottom of a desk. I’m sorry for those who saw what you weren’t, instead of what you are. I remember my ballet teacher (and I loved ballet) telling me that I was too short and too “thick” to ever make it as a serious dancer. I remember people telling me I was so “cute” as they ran their finger down my ski jump nose. Like you, I didn’t want to be thick or cute…I wanted to be beautiful. It took me a long time to realize that it’s when our inner beauty shines forth – the beauty that comes from knowing we are God’s beloved – that we become radiant. So thankful that God is patient to work His Truth into His lovely daughters.
    Blessings,
    Bev xx

    • Bev, I’m so sorry those words were spoken over you. It is astonishing just how much we remember from childhood and how the words have such power. I’m very grateful for God’s patience and tenderness.

  2. Thank you for bringing light into the darkness, beauty into barren limitations. Seeking Him to find Him, the Word, who teaches us truth.

  3. Dear Tasha,
    I feel like we have so much in common every time I read one of your posts. I remember hearing the same thing except it wasn’t just because I looked Asian, but because of my weight. I remember thinking that the weight might change but my facial features will always look more Asian than white. I was proud of being half Japanese, until I went to school and was the only Asian student. It was a very difficult time for me. Some days I still feel like that little girl, not as much with my looks anymore, but instead struggling with believing that my voice doesn’t matter. Trying to find beauty in my story so that I can hopefully encourage other Asian Americans to find and be proud of their voice. Thank you for sharing a piece of yourself and inspiring me at the same time this morning. God Bless <3

    • I went through similar I felt beautiful until I went to school and noticed my my mum was black, an Indian and my father was white. We lived in Australia and sure life wasn’t that bad but words were said, teasing ensued and I was never confident after that. A lot of people young girls in particular feel this way. I pray my daughters don’t go through it and are string in their own identity. Your voice does matter I want to hear what you have to say. Enough of this doubting for all of us. You are A MAsterpiece, Gods creation. Revel in it and use your voice!!

      • Jas,
        Thank you so much for sharing that and for your encouragement. Your words reminding me I am God’s creation,also sparks that fire within me that was flickering to a stronger flame. I am grateful for YOUR voice! God bless you and your family ❤

      • Kathleen, we’ve connected often, sharing our common experiences, and I’m so glad for it. I know those feelings can stick around for so long, or creep up and surprise us. Your voice does matter. It’s mattered to me in this space and I know it stretches much further than that. Keep pressing on. We are in this together.

  4. Words have power. Like the comments of a girl in the playground or a passing comment by a stranger on the television or in a magazine….words effect us and stay with up for s long time. You are beautiful you are a masterpiece created by the most talented artist there ever was, God. How could you be anything but beautiful in your own individuality- you are in fact SO special there is no one like you in the world. Thank you for sharing and a reminder to check I am truly being open to see Gods handiwork the beauty He created in all people and nature alike.
    Jas

    • Amen, Jas. Thank you for your words. I like thinking about how we can powerfully use our words for good, too. What a gift that is.

  5. Tasha,

    Sticks & stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. That is a lie! Words spoken even offhandedly do hurt & deeply. Satan is crafty & uses any & all methods to get us to dislike ourselves. We see pictures on magazine covers or billboards & think that is what beauty is supposed to be. Anything else is ugly. God doesn’t see it that way. He sees us as lovely creatures He has made in His image. he doesn’t look at the flaws or imperfections. When God looks at us He sees the shed blood of Jesus. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I see beauty all around me. In gorgeous mountains, sunrises & sunsets, in the way people treat each other. Jesus can see an inner beauty that shines His light in this dark world. My motto is “if you don’t like what you see, talk to Jesus. He’s the one who made me this way!”

    Blessings 🙂

    • I’ve always thought that phrase was silly. I’m glad you see beauty all around you. Call it out like you have here. There’s such power in that. Thanks for sharing, Beth.

  6. I can relate. The words & actions of parents and people in my life as a child communicated rejection. I grew up with the spirit of rejection ruling my life & thought that was me. Many years later, the Holy Spirit let me know I was a sinner. As I went forward with that truth and learned God’s plan of salvation, I began to awaken to the truth of who I am in God’s eyes. Forgiveness is wonderful, but we must break the agreement we made with a lie & stand on the truth.

    • I’m so grateful for the way God pursues us. Gail, I’m so glad for the ways God has shown you who you are in His eyes: full of beauty and love.

  7. We are all beautiful to the King. That king is Jesus. That is all that matters. We don’t need to listen to the worlds lies. Or what the Devil trys to wisper in our ears. Or what the beauty magazine tell us. Or this cream or that cream will tell us. If we put on our face. Jeaus loves us warts wrinkles and everything else. We don’t have to try to popular either. I don’t have many friends. In fact I only have two. I only see one now and them may be if she is out at Church. If I get to visit her now and then as we both don’t drive. The other one I see now and then not that often. But I don’t complain. As when I see them it is nice. I have the best friend of all Jesus. Would Jesus have us want spending money on looking good. My answere would be No too that. When he in his eyes has all ready made us beautiful. When we could put that money we are thinking of spending on looking good into his work. Helping somone. A Charity in our Church say like the kids in other parts of world. I do that along with my Husband. We help different Charity’s of Gods work. I am so are you all ready Beautiful. Because God made us. We all God children he loves us. So Don’t Listen To The Devil And His Lies. The Father Love Letter Tell You that you get it on Youtube. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little

    • Yes, we are all beautiful to the King, and there’s so much more beauty around than I ever imagined.

  8. I am so sorry that someone made you feel bad about the beautiful creation you are. I have s wonderful, delightful, beautiful korean american niece/daughter of the heart that I think had similiar things said to her. Her children, 3/4 asian are the apples of my eyes. I have learned with age (and literally seeing it as I am a physician), skin color is skin deep. Seeing this, I see every shape, tone, and nationality has it’s own unique beauty. We are all humans, not different races. I envy darker skin some days as I burn easily, I want straight hair some days (I just wait for winter), and I think I have been fat since kindergarten (pictures show me that is a lie). Now, I too have begun to love me because I am the only one there us and I can do things others can’t, even if it is only making strange noises in the car. I really can do more than that, but it makes my husband laugh. We are just as unique as a litter of kittens & just as precious to God.

    • I’m so glad for the tender healing God has brought in your life-that you can see yourself as loved and beautiful. May you continue to speak this into others!

  9. So much to absorb from this post. So much to think about. (Yes, what beauty am I missing? What is God trying to show me?) But I just wanted to say real quick that the first thing I thought when I met you was how beautiful you are. I know…so shallow of me! Should I not say it? Will you even believe me? But, my friend who has so much to offer this world, you really are very pretty. (I know! You didn’t write this to ask for compliments! I promise I’m not missing the point. It’s just true. So I’m saying it.)

  10. Oh, dear Tasha! You are a beautiful soul — inside AND out! Not a model?! When I met you, I kept thinking how MUCH you reflect the light of God. Indeed, I praise God for you, and for His mercy in showing you all the amazing ways to see ourselves and one another. Thank you for inviting us into this journey of seeing ourselves and each other as the Lord Himself made us, each one His image bearers! I’m so grateful for your story today. Bless you for writing, walking and sharing it! All for Christ! With His love, Patricia

    • Thank you, dear Patricia! What a light you are. You give away so much courage and I am ever grateful for your BEAUTIFUL example.

  11. “I have become a beauty seeker, and because of Jesus there are no confines to what I seek.” Yes, yes and amen a thousand times! Beauty is my priority in art, writing, everything. It is intertwined with truth, inextricable from it. Your writing is so, so beautiful in itself. Thank you. Interestingly, I grew up with my adopted Korean sister and always felt like an ogre next to her with my acne, extra weight and crooked teeth! She was always stunning and passed through adolescence gracefully without a single zit or hint of awkwardness. But she still occasionally suffered racist comments and if I ever heard them I was ready to fight even though I was usually extremely shy and timid! I am so sorry for what you suffered but so glad Jesus has initiated you into his infinitely fuller and kaleidoscopic purview of True Beauty.

    • Thank you, Ashley! And thank you for sharing about your own grace-filled entanglement with beauty. And about your sister: I am glad you have each other.

  12. “But Jesus is a tender healer, and He delights in giving us eyes that truly see.” So much yes to this. Thank you, Tasha, for inviting us into these complex layers of your story and prompting us to examine our own. xx

  13. Simply put for me: God knows our heart and our inner beauty no matter what the world thinks of our outer beauty.

    • Amen, Carol. And I’m so grateful for how tender and patient He is with us as he helps us to know this truth in every corner of our being.

      • Praise GOD….he made us all different and noone is better than anyone else! I love the verse that reminds us of our beauty and worth!
        Psalm: 139:14