About the Author

Becky loves serving as (in)courage’s Community Manager. She is a speaker and author of No Better Mom for the Job. Becky is a huge fan of Voxer, Sunday naps, and championing women. She lives near Los Angeles and loves hiking shady trails with her husband and three spirited sons.

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  1. Becky,
    Whether our kids are 4, 12, 18, 25, or 40, it’s easy to let their behavior and actions determine our worth or success. I used to say things to myself like, “If my kids grow up to love the Lord, have a personal relationship with Him, and serve Him, then I will consider myself successful.” Guess what? Despite our very best efforts, prayers, training, discipline, modeling, our children have a free will and they are free to exercise it however they choose. I have seen kids from strong Christian homes grow up and go astray. I’ve seen kids from messed up, dysfunctional homes grow up to be leaders and model citizens. All we can do is the best we can do. Our children are loaned to us for a season. Ultimately, they are God’s children and He is their ultimate Father. Tying our worth to their behavior is, indeed, a broken ladder. Our identity can ONLY be found in knowing who and whose we are in Christ Jesus. We, moms, are so hard on ourselves. Yes, seeing our good parenting through another’s eyes helps us to have sober judgment about the awesome job we are doing. Motherhood is not for the faint of heart….my knees are worn our from going to them in prayer.
    Blessings and sharing in the joy of your newly released book – what a gift to moms everywhere!
    Bev xx

  2. Becky, I will offer you a view from the other side of mothering a four-year-old “future leader.” Those same words were spoken over my own first born as he ordered the other nursery room kids to form a train with all the chairs and then took his place in the engine. The kind nursery worker who saw leadership where I saw bossy problem child spoke truer than she knew, and, sure enough, he’s a leader at work, at church, in his home, and even in his community. Sometimes mums have to hang onto the reins even when we’re being dragged, but the end result is so worth it.
    (Hard to remember on the average Tuesday in the mothering trenches…)

  3. Wow, Becky, my kids are all grown now, but your words resonated with me! I can’t count the many times I had those feelings of inadequacy. Too many, too often. You seem to have some good answers for young moms. Bravo!

  4. “True confidence comes from leaning on the One who made you a mother.” Yes! This! As a mom of two adult daughters, two step-daughters, and Gramma Pamma to 5, parenting doesn’t end when children become adults. No Better Mom for the Job is a beautiful read for ‘mature’ Moms, too. Thank you, Becky!

  5. Becky, I too have raised a leader. We used the term “strong-willed child” back in the day when Dr. James Dobson wrote about these kinds of children. Yes, it messes with the psyche of a mama so thank you for encouraging other moms here in this devo and in your book. My saving grace back in those days was to remind myself that I was in fact hand picked to be my son’s mom, no matter what anyone else thought of my parenting or his strong personality. Keep up the good work!

  6. As a parent I often felt like a failure or a fraud. We adopted and had biological children. As the parent of adult children I still feel that way and cannot understand why God has entrusted me with raising two of my grandchildren. I feel like I failed once even though I prayed and looked to the Lord for help and guidance so I am doomed to fail again. The dynamics between my two grandchildren are so similar to those of my two daughters when they were growing up it is daunting. I have no idea how to do it differently. The happy family I dreamed of having with all my children and grandchildren enjoying life together, sharing meals together, maybe even trips, is still just a dream. If anything it is further away than ever. Everyday it is a struggle to not let grief cripple me and keep me from doing what is right, from taking the next step. The end to years of infertility and childlessness simply brought new and more pain.

    • Kathleen, I can so relate with your words! I too grow discouraged at times and battle feelings of hopelessness about my family. No one adopts to end up with dysfunction and pain! But it is truly a battle! We have an enemy who wants to get us to doubt God’s good plan for us and therefore doubt the good & loving character of God! I have been depressed and disheartened for years, but now I am choosing to praise instead! He IS doing a work even if we cannot see it. And even if my children never change I can say without a doubt that God has changed MY heart. His Presence in the sorrow and pain is truly a gift I would not trade for all the success and comfort to be found in this world. Be encouraged, dear lady, He is not finished with us yet!

  7. Right now, my brother and his wife are raising my daughter because I am sorely lacking. The proof is in the pudding. Sometimes there is a better mom for the job.

    • Deborah,

      Thank you for your comment, sharing your brave and honest and assumably difficult choices.
      May the God of all comfort, wisdom, grace and power be with you all.

  8. Loved this Becky!

    My second-born dare devil scaled the nursery toy box and up onto the ledge to stand in the window seal. He couldn’t walk yet – but he could conquer any mountain. Today he is 17 and is on a mission to live his life with boldness and courage, yet still has the tender heart of compassion. I was freaked out mothering all his crazy antics and escapes without clothing (but always with a cape). I’m so proud of the words you formed in this book to give all the moms hope in the God who created us to mother our people. Thank you.

  9. Becky,

    I’m so like you. I will like your child because I like you. Don’t ask me to work nursery or teach children. I’m not the kind of person who enjoys being around rowdy children. I much prefer older people. That aside God has made us all different. We each parent differently. We shouldn’t let our worth be tied to how our children behave or don’t behave. Each child is different. Some can be compliant & follow rules while others want to help out & be little leaders. Embrace the comments from friends. You never know how true they may be.

    Blessings 🙂