I noticed an envelope taped to our front door as I pulled into our driveway. I couldn’t think of anything I’d done to deserve a thank-you note so I figured it was a note of encouragement from a friend. I didn’t even open the garage door; instead, I parked in the driveway, hopped out of my car, and hurried to the front door to read it.
Imagine my shock when I discovered it was not a note. It was a notice from the neighborhood police, a.k.a the H.O.A. architectural committee. They had stopped by to notify us that our “front porch columns and windowsills needed to be repaired and painted within thirty days” or we’d be fined.
I don’t know which was worse — my frustration or humiliation!
I pictured neighbors sitting around a table talking about us in a homeowners’ meeting while writing other citations for excessive yard debris and inappropriate paint colors.
My husband got home a few minutes later and was greeted by his wife wagging an envelope in her hand, “There are plenty of other house in much worse condition! How could they even see the windowsills and front porch? Our house is forty feet from the curb, and we’ve got huge trees blocking the view!”
To prove my point, I marched to the street and announced that I could barely see the windows or columns. “Our house looks fine!” I insisted.
And it did — from a distance. But as I walked back into our yard and got closer to the porch, I had to admit there were a few window sills with peeling paint and parts of our columns where the wood was damaged.
That weekend, we bought paint and woodwork supplies, borrowed extension ladders, and asked my mom to babysit. Unfortunately, the damage was worse than we realized, and what we thought would take a few hours turned into a few weekends of scraping, sanding, caulking, hammering, priming, and painting.
On our last day of repairs, I was actually thankful someone had noticed the problems we didn’t see. If the damage had been left unchecked, we would have ended up with more extensive repairs and expensive replacements.
I was no longer angry at whoever left that envelope on our door. Instead, I was glad they cared enough to get up close and personal, to notice and tell us something we didn’t want to hear.
And so it is with Jesus. He sees the places in my heart and in my life that need repair. He cares enough to come up close and get uncomfortably personal at times, showing me things I don’t want to see about myself or my relationships — all because He loves me and wants what is best for me.
But He doesn’t just list out all the repairs I need to make. He offers what I need, to do what is needed: grace, forgiveness, mercy, love, patience, humility, and so much more.
It can feel really uncomfortable to be known so intimately, but it can also be comforting when we recognize the love that motivates God’s nudges and love notes found in His Word.
Is there an area in your life that’s been neglected? A relationship that needs repair or a conversation you’ve avoided because it requires too much work? Don’t let it get worse just because it’s hard.
We’ve got an up close and personal Savior who sees, knows, and loves us too much to just let things go until they fall apart. He sees what we can’t and offers all the help we need for repairs, renovations, and complete transformations.
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Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Renee,
Constructive criticism is often a tough pill to swallow. I admit that I tend to get my feathers ruffled in self defense before I’m willing to embrace words I may need to hear. Welcome to the human condition. But, you are right…I am SO very thankful for a loving God who covers me with His grace and mercy and who forgives me of all my sins. Yet, He loves me too much to leave me the way He found me. He calls me to walk in the footsteps of His Son, my Savior. Those are HUGE sandals to fill, but I am called to work out my salvation. Saved first…work it out, second. Great post and reminder this am. I bet your house looks awesome 😉
Blessings,
Bev xx
Renee M Swope says
I agree, Bev, constructive criticism is hard to hear. Those many days of work on our home gave me lots of time to think about it and recover from the unsolicited input of our HOA. It was the sweetest gift when the Holy Spirit showed me the parallel between their notice and His nudges. He truly redeemed that exhausting weekend work in more ways than one!
Krissy says
nicely written. I agree I think life throws us these curve balls and as it’s personal it’s so hard….but I love how you found appreciation in it..that you were happy someone let you know about the damage and it didn’t let things get worse.
relationships are harder. I tried and tried to be friends with a woman I knew for years. she’s snarky , jealous out right rude and mean. but a christian !! I finally felt I had to tell her that her attitude was hurting her life..her friends her family . of course she would not listen . I pray that she sees the damage up close and personal and hears my heart and concerns although uncomfortable.
Renee M Swope says
So sorry for the way things turned out with your friend. You’re right, it’s a lot more challenging in personal relationships. I’m just so thankful for His grace and kindness to love me enough to show me what I need in my own heart to become the best version of me.
Dawn Ferguson-Little says
I had a sustaion onr time to do with a friend. I could have said you know what I not going to your 50th Birthday lunch now. I was only being nice why I couldn’t eat a big meal during the day. My friend is saved. Only for another friend that is also saved she said please come. I was going to text my friend tell her that her words hurt me. She can do without me at her 50 Birthday lunch. When I was nice explained why I can’t eat big meals during the day. Then I got words that were not nice back. As she was not one bit amused that I couldn’t eat a big meal during the day. But when I got there. There was another lady we know at this persons 50 birthday lunch. She was only having something small for lunch. I had my sandwich that day. I looked over and said too myself did she tell her for as well. That I will never know. But with the grace of my other good Christian friend and Jesus I did what was right. I told my other friend yes I was hurt by her and I texted her back nicely to say I see her at birthday party later. Left it at that. Told my other friend I had prayed to God. Asked God to help me forgive her before I went to my friends birthday lunch. But I told my friend that if she did that again. I still be friends with her. But if she ever had any thing special like that again. That she asks me too. I tell her why and tell her I am still friends with her and that I have forgiven her. So we have to be careful what we say. If we need to say it to help someone and it does. We wone them. If not leave them with Jesus. But don’t say something to hurt them. As your words can wound that person. Think before you speak. My friend does not know that she hurt me that day by her words. I deleted the text. So when things get to us like words in texts spoken or in a letter. We got to hand them over to Jesus. Do what he wants us to do. If right to say something say it. If not say nothing. Just pray for the sustaion leave it with Jesus at the foot of the cross. Then if needed forgive the person and move on. As if you don’t the only person it eats us is you. As the other person who hurt you with their words if it a person who said something that hurt you. They probably are not giving you a second thought. Excellent reading as usual. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xx
Renee M Swope says
Thanks Dawn, so glad this post was an encouragement to you.
Jennifer Waddle says
Renee,
We had a similar thing happen this summer when we were working on a small kitchen remodel and had some wood stacked up against the side of the house. It seemed like no big deal to us, but we got a warning to get rid of the debris within 30 days (or else!)
My husband and I really had to humble ourselves (after our initial reaction of anger) and not only remove the clutter from the side yard, but go above and beyond by tidying up the rest of the yard.
Loved this post!
Jennifer
Renee M Swope says
It is SO humbling isn’t it? We’d been doing a lot of interior renovations, and not going through our front door for months (garage entrance convenience) so we had no idea there were repairs needed. And isn’t it just like Jesus to give me a bonus spiritual lesson with my slice of humble pie!?
Jennifer Waddle says
Right there with you, sister. Humble pie indeed!
Lisa says
I always need a good 24 hours to process things like this. Maybe it’s a letter from the HOA, maybe it’s my husband asking me to take a second look at something I’ve done or said that may not be right. Taking pause in these moments and praying about it helps us to see our situation more clearly instead of our knee jerk reaction toward anger. Great article.
Renee M Swope says
100%!! All those hours up on ladders painting gave me LOTS of moments to pause, ponder, pray and pray some more. 🙂
Michele Morin says
Oh, so GOOD!
And Jesus rolls up his sleeves alongside us and grabs a paintbrush! So grateful!
Courtney says
Oh my, I love your comment!
Renee M Swope says
Yes He does!! He’s the best. 🙂
karyn j says
I. LOVE. THIS!!! thank you for sharing! it’s amazing how the Holy Spirit will allow you to see things and learn lessons in otherwise ordinary situations.
although deep down i’ve known it for a bit, i’m realizing how prideful and stubborn i am (shock, gasp, awe). i don’t like for people to tell me i’m wrong unless i ask them and are prepared to receive it. you have to give me several moments to process the words. apparently, i’m not as perfect as i once thought…i too make mistakes (clutches pearls and faints)! Lord, show me me and help me be receptive and willing enough to humble myself and make the necessary changes you point out so as not to cause more damage in the long run. in jesus name, amen!
Renee M Swope says
LOVE your honesty and humor Karyn! And I am so grateful for the way God redeems really hard situations like this one by showing me something really good about Himself in the midst of it. 🙂
Courtney says
I love this and can always relate to your writing! Thank you!
Renee M Swope says
Awww, thanks Courtney. That means a lot. I’m so glad God gives me words that connect with your heart. 🙂
Donna E. says
Wow- This story reminds me of a song from the 80s or 90s called “When the Carpenter Came” by Gordon Jensen.
When The Carpenter Came
The rain was falling down
my roof began to leak
So I called a Carpenter
Whose shop was up the street
I told Him to come quickly
He promised that He would
It wasn’t long till I heard Him knock
on that front porch He stood
With Wisdom in His eyes
And a toolbox in His hand
I told Him I was desperate
and He seemed to understand
I didn’t know what was in store that dark and rainy day
When The Carpenter
when The Carpenter came
I asked Him to come in
He set His tools down on the floor
He seemed to know His way around
Like He’d seen the place before
Right away He went to work
And He knew just what to do
In no time flat
He fixed the roof
And I thought that He was through
But then He tore down one whole wall
Didnt ask me if He could
At first I was furious
But then I saw the rotten wood
He told me not to worry
He’d build it back like new
He said it might take some time
But He’d stay to see it through
With Wisdom in His eyes
And a toolbox in His hand
I thought He came to patch things up
But He had bigger plans
After all He’s done for me
I won’t forget the day
When the Carpenter
When the Carpenter came
He’s still at work today
And He says that He won’t stop
Until this house is perfect
From the bottom to the top
I’ve learned that I can trust Him
So I’ll wait perfectly
And if it takes forever
We’ll that’s OK with me.
With Wisdom in His eyes
And a toolbox in His hand
I thought He came to patch things up
But He had bigger plans
After all He’s done for me
I won’t forget the day
When the carpenter
When the carpenter came
You can hear him singing it on YouTube also
https://youtu.be/GRR_J3hIPew
Thanks for the memories, Renee! And it’s so true how Christ works in us!
Donna
Beth Williams says
Donna,
Love the poem/song. Fits perfectly with this post.
Blessings 🙂
Renee M Swope says
Wow Donna!! That’s crazy how closely those lyrics tie in with what God showed me that day. I’ve never heard that song and I’m so glad you shared it!!
Beth Williams says
Renee,
Just finished Robin Dance’s “For All Who Wander”. She talks about a time when she felt like letting go of God & all. But God would not let go & pulled her back up onto solid ground. We are all flawed humans living in broken Earth. Life happens down here. We take detours off the path. Mistakes happen & we find ourselves in a mess. Thankfully God who made us in His image won’t leave us cracked & run down. He will stay with us & chip away at the ugly, dirty material. He will get into the deep, dark crevices of our lives mining & pruning us till all that’s left is a pure image of Almighty God. I’m letting the carpenter do His best work on my vessel.
Blessings 🙂