A late night phone call delivered hard news. My mind struggled to keep up as lies unraveled and truth emerged. A family member’s betrayal left me feeling foolish, blindsided, and beyond angry. Years of deception collapsed into a big, complicated mess.
Memories of family beach vacations, holiday celebrations, and dinners around my dining room table appeared tainted and fraudulent. Well-meaning friends offered awkward silence or unsolicited advice. Both felt like salt being rubbed into my wounded heart.
In the months following the difficult phone call, I tried to erase reminders and remove evidence of the person from my life. I purged photos from albums and tossed once-beloved gifts. In precious family pictures, scissors extracted what my heart couldn’t.
In the dark corners of my soul, I envisioned the disheveled family member at my door groveling for forgiveness. But when no apology arrived and no remorse was expressed, the silence invited anger and bitterness into my heart. The deep pit of depression crept closer.
My life was a mess, and I needed help.
In 2 Kings 18 and 19, King Hezekiah faced his own menacing mess. The mighty Assyrians were poised to attack and destroy Jerusalem. But the king handed his problem to the One who could handle it. “Hezekiah received the letter from the messengers and read it. Then he went up to the temple of the Lord and spread it out before the Lord” (2 Kings 19:14 NIV).
King Hezekiah didn’t waste time with worry, freeze in fear, or kick himself for not being stronger. He didn’t try to power through on his own strength, overthink the situation, or pause to elicit advice from his staff. With a formidable foe at the city’s gates, he hitched up his robe, hiked to the temple, and spread the news before his mighty God. “And Hezekiah prayed to the Lord: ‘Lord, the God of Israel, enthroned between the cherubim, you alone are God over all the kingdoms of the earth. You have made heaven and earth.’ ” (2 Kings 19:15 NIV).
Perhaps the king fell prostrate on the floor as his pleas reverberated around the temple’s walls. Maybe Hezekiah’s cries echoed mine: Here you go, God. This is too big, too hard, and too painful. I can’t handle this.
The only way to survive my painful season was to run to God like King Hezekiah. With raw honesty, I emptied my heart. God knew the twisted thoughts that littered my mind and still met me in my heartache. Most importantly, my Maker understood the sting of betrayal and rejection.
Together, we muddled through the mess.
Christian counseling, accountability partners, and Scripture memorization paved the path towards healing. Index cards with verses about forgiveness and hope were taped to bathroom mirrors and kitchen cabinets. God’s Word became a soothing balm for my broken and betrayed heart.
The king’s mess wasn’t unmanageable for God nor was mine. He heard Hezekiah’s prayer and saved Jerusalem from destruction. 2 Kings 19:34 says, “I will defend this city and save it, for my sake and for the sake of David my servant.” The God who heard the king’s pleas in the temple was the same God who heard my late-night cries. God delivered the Israelites from their mess, and He guided me through mine — one baby step at a time.
Dear friend, when we are surrounded by the enemy or wounded by those who claim to love us, we can run to God. He always welcomes us with open arms. Before His throne, we can present our pain, lay down our heavy load, and spread our suffering. Our God is the Maker of Heaven and Earth. Enthroned between the cherubim, He is God over all the kingdoms of the earth, and He can handle our messes.
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Ann Peters says
GOD bless you and yours! It’s what I needed to read this morning. Thank you!
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Good Morning, Ann!
Praise God for delivering words you needed to hear. Have a wonderful day.
Debra says
Perfect words from our Father, thru a willing servant. Thank you, just what was needed today.
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Thanks, Debra.
All praise to God. May you have a blessed day!
TAH says
Thank you!!! God bless you… being struggling, really struggling with some messed up issues from my family. This encouraged me, but I know I still need help.
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Dear Tah,
Thank you for sharing. May you feel God’s mighty presence in your life today!
Bev Rihtarchik says
Good morning Krista,
I am queen of relying on my own strength and overthinking things. Thank you for the reminder no matter what mess we find ourselves in, God can make a way out. I have gotten better in calling on Him first, rather than as a last ditch, “Help!” Not sure where, in PA, you’re from? I was born and raised in Pittsburgh — my blood still bleeds black and gold even though I’ve lived in the South for 24 years. At the non-profit I head up which ministers to orphans and impoverished children in hard to reach countries, we initially contacted Operation Christmas Child to bring shoeboxes into the area we serve, but sadly they said they were not able to go there just yet so we we started our own program to bring Christmas to the children of this area. I invite you to my blog (just click on my name or picture) and check out my Missions tab. I’m joining with you in having a heart for these precious children of God. Enjoyed reading your post!
Blessings,
Bev xx
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Hi Bev, thanks for reading and for introducing yourself (Yes, I bleed black and gold too!)
May God continue to bless your work with children.
Anonymous says
I can identify with “My life was a mess, and I needed help…Here you go, God. This is too big, too hard, and too painful. I can’t handle this.” I’m thankful that “He can handle our messes.” I realize I can’t do this on my own.
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Hi,
Thanks for sharing.
When we are weak, He is strong.
MaryJo Sallade says
Isn’t it awesome how Heavenly Father gives us answers to our difficulties in His word? Hugs to my precious sister in the Lord!
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Hi Mary Jo,
Sending a hug your way! God heard your prayers during those hard, messy years. Thank you for faithfully standing with me. You are a blessing in my life.
Allison Wixted says
Krista, thank you for this wonderful post! It was like balm to my heart in the middle of my own personal mess!
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Hi Allison,
Thank you for reading. Life can be very messy. May God’s love and wisdom guide you through your mess.
Penny says
Your words are a blessing to read this morning, thank-you for sharing.
Blessings to all,
Penny
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Thanks, Penny.
Janet Williams says
One baby step at a time….
Thank you Jesus!
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Hi Janet,
Baby steps keep us humble. All Glory to God!
Kaye says
Thank you for your words and His reminders to always lay it before Him!
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Thank you for reading, Kaye.
margueritecoutinho@yahoo.co.uk says
I love the story of Hezekiah and his victory over the evil Assyrian king. You have used it as a point of reference to your own situation so effectively. It is something we can all identify with. It’s awesome.
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Hi Marguerite,
I am so thankful for King Hezekiah’s example of how to pause and petition God through prayer. Blessings to you!
MB says
God restores messes, I am a perfect example. I too got that not so expected news of disception and betrayal. Mine came one year after an incident that resulted in my nose being broken in three places for being in the place my spouse called me to, his mothers. A year later, the husband of the young lady there who had been with him told me she saw it all happen. My 3 year old son was in my arms. I don’t know to this day which hurt the most, him almost killing me with his son in my arms or finding out later it was because she did not get out before we arrived and he was angry afraid I would see her. Either way, it took years, tears, pleading with God go remove the image of my face from my mind, and my baby screaming for help for me. All I know is that I knew my only hope was Jesus. It has been 38 years now and I have tried to help women in abusive situations. I have learned what we go through will make us stronger, God will take it and turm it for good to help others. I know this has been lengthly but just maybe someone will benefit from this one instance. It was not the worse, I did leave and 3 years later he passed suddenly from a rare blood disorder. God bless you all, I am blessed by your sharings.
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Dear MB,
thank you for sharing your story.
Blessings!
Beth Williams says
Krista,
This world is full of messes. Some we create ourselves & some just happen to us. My story deals with aging parents & geriatric psych. I had to put my dad into gero psych hospital twice. There were days I would visit & upon leaving have to stop in the lobby to calm down. Often would cry out to God to take daddy home. This isn’t my dad anymore. First time God graciously healed dad & gave him to me for 1 year. The second time dad died in hospital. I gave God my messes & asked Him to give me strength & patience to deal with it. You stated it perfectly “Before His throne, we can present our pain and lay down our heavy load. He can handle our messes.” Praising God for taking our messes & making beauty from them.
Blessings 🙂
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Hi Beth,
Yes, beauty rises. Thanks for sharing.
Karen Jeffcoat says
Thankyou so much for this. The personal problem re the hurt could have been written by me. It is exactly what i have been going through since the week before Christmas, and i still hurt terribly. I take comfort in these words and am grateful to the friend who knows my situation and sent it to me. I pray its as much comfort to any others feeling in exactly the same place
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Dear Karen,
May you feel God’s presence as you work through your mess.
Blessings to you and your friend.
karyn j says
thank you for sharing this. it was exactly what i needed. baby steps! yes Lord…baby steps!
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Hi Karyn,
Praise God for the words you needed to hear.
Blessings!
Diane Thiel says
Thank you. I am struggling with a mess I caused hurt someone dear to me many times by neglecting him. GOD has worked on my heart that humbled me more and more. I pray my husband can love me thru this pain. God is bigger than all and I ask Him to heal all the hurt restore my husbands heart for our marriage and help me to remain humble in His work and words that hold this rag in the finished work of Jesus. GOD bless and keep you.
Krista Lynn Campbell says
Dear Diane,
Thank you for sharing the beautiful prayer of your heart. May God bless you and your marriage.