About the Author

Melissa Zaldivar is a social in the world of academics and an academic in the world of socials. She's an author and podcast host with a BA in Communications and an MA in Theology. She loves a good sandwich, obscure history, and wandering around New England antique shops.

Related Resources & Gifts
Find more at DaySpring.com
& Gifts
Find more at
Recent Posts

Reader Interactions


  1. Well, I guess I never thought of it this way. In an effort to try to be liked and such, I am not always authentic. I am an edited version of the real me. This is a lot to think about.

  2. Integrity translated as completeness and completeness being part of the definition of Shalom gives so much more depth to my understanding. Thank you for sharing!

  3. So good. A great reminder. When I think of the word integrity, my Dad immediately comes to mind. He was the same man at home as he was in public. He never wavered from his morals, values, or beliefs. He was the truest man I’ve ever known.

  4. What a wonderful message! I was talking with my daughter this morning and she was sharing how much my grand kids are learning this exact lesson..
    “Am I a whole person? Or am I abandoning myself in favor of an edited version?” …. or in their understanding
    “am I being who Jesus made me or am I pretending to do something, like something or follow someone just to be popular”
    We don’t need to be kids to struggle with our wholeness or our “chance to walk in integrity”
    Thank you Melissa

  5. Why are you stepping on my toes? 😉 This is so good, friend! “Am I a whole person? Or am I abandoning myself in favor of an edited version?” This echoes something I’ve been sitting with for a while. Thanks for putting voice to it. xoxo

  6. Melissa,

    So spot on & much needed in our age of social media. Everyone posts stuff in order to get likes. What are we like when the doors are closed & no one sees us. Are we an authentic version of ourselves or just pretending to have favor with people down here? This reminds me of “The Walk” by Stephen C. Chapman-the chorus: Cause you can run with the big dogs
    You can fly with the eagles You can jump through all the hoops
    And climb the ladder to the top But when it all comes down You know it all comes down, down, down, down, down To the walk. Basically are we walking the walking or just talking the talk?

    Blessings 🙂