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Melissa Zaldivar is a social in the world of academics and an academic in the world of socials. She's an author and podcast host with a BA in Communications and an MA in Theology. She loves a good sandwich, obscure history, and wandering around New England antique shops.

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  1. I really needed to hear this as well. I moved to a new area and him three months later my very good friend move to Florida so her husband could work closer to his main office and travel would it be so heavy on the family. The loss is heavy for me and I’ve been feeling it for years. I wanted our friendship to flourish and grow but I was too scared to put any effort because once I knew she was leaving that was it. I know I need community but…

  2. A someone who has moved a bit in the last several years, I understand both sides. I cherish having known the friends I have made and although we all do not connect with each other as often as we all say we would like, it is always a joy to get a text, email or card in the mail. Thank you for sharing this

  3. Long ago I worked with a young woman, “Julie,” who avoided relationships because she knew they would only be living in the community for three years while her husband to earn his master’s degree. Good-byes are just too painful, she said. At the end of the three years Julie and her husband attended a reception for the graduating students. She confided in me the next day that she regretted her decision of not making friends; the people at the reception had been such a delight. Her experience became a life-lesson for me as we’ve moved seven times ourselves. Though good-byes ARE painful, I think isolation and loneliness would be worse.

  4. Melissa,

    We were made for community. God said it is not good for man to be alone. Making friends isn’t always easy. Life gets busy or we know we’ll only be there for a short while. That is no reason to not try. The wise Solomon said this in Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! You might have to be the one to take the first step, but I promise it will be worth it. Sure you may be friends for a short while, but they can help you through trials or celebrations. One last thought: Jesus made friends wherever He went. He was always on the move. Didn’t stay in one area long. Yet He put forth an effort to see & love on people. That is what He is asking of us.

    Blessings 🙂