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Lucretia is a wife, mom of three, and a TEDx and Q Ideas speaker (Charlotte, NC, 2017). As a former college professor, she designed the popular ‘beginners’ course and study guide, What LIES Between Us: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing. She is the creator and director of the Brownicity.com...

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  1. My word of the year is trust and I really resonated with your experience “I chose to trust Spirit more than I trust my feelings.” It’s hard to sometimes sit with those we love in those hard places but I don’t think God is calling us to fix their problems or resolve the limbo, but rather be present, listen, let Him move and work, perhaps being a conduit of his message. Thanks for sharing!

    • Hi Andrea!
      Instead of us engaging in the moment with judgement, we receive it as an opportunities to grow our trust and our faith.

      I am grateful that you can resonate.

      Thank you for reading.

  2. I needed this today! This hit home: The good news is that in the absence of certainty, God is fully present and magnified. God is in this in-between place.

    I’m in this in between place…finishing at my current job and living in one place, but actively looking for a new job and new place to live (in a new city) as I’m getting married this June. I feel in limbo and unsettled, but I need to remember that God is fully present and with me in this in between.

    • Hi Hilary!
      Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. I was married in June as well (20 years ago!).
      May God’s presence be tangible as you move and shift. May you be encompassed with shalom.

      Thank you for reading.

  3. Thank you, Lucretia! I needed this AM. I can be the placeholder & offer community to those in limbo. Blessings! (((0)))

  4. I attend a very small church. We are beginning a search for a new pastor. One of the concerns that keeps popping up is that we have gone down in attendance even with some long time members. But we have community lunches, potlucks, coffees and attendance is really amazing- more than half are not from our church. I think I am going to remember this- it doesn’t have to be a Sunday formal worship! We are having church all week long. Thank you.

    • Hi Madeline!
      Yes! ‘We are having church all week long. I love that!! We truly get to BE THE CHURCH! Thank you for sharing.

      And thank you for reading. I am so glad that my story could bring your encouragement.

  5. I believe your message today is resonating with many as it is with me.
    Sometimes we get caught up in not attending church. I know that I do. Before Covid I was at church every Sunday never missed a day, but once Covid hit there was no church just online but with that brought me to a new place which is I began reading the Bible and I believe that I have grown closer to God than if I would’ve sat in that pew every Sunday. We need to find our God, who is not only in a church building.

    • I totally agree with you. I have been closer to the Lord since not attending church every Sunday. There are several great shows and church services on tv and online. I find I am making more time for ‘private time’ with the Jesus. I am more at peace than I have ever been. God bless.

  6. Lucretia, I am now 77 years old and when I was a child my mom and I went to church every Sunday but my father would never go with us. I always asked him to go with us and he would always say he had already been to church, his church. My father spent a lot of his time outdoors and as we lived out in the country, he spent most of that time alone. But as I discovered, he spent his time communing with God in his own way. After my father passed away when I was 14, my mother was concerned about whether or not my father was a born again believer. Our pastor reassured her that my father knew Jesus. He could do this because he had often gone to our farm to visit my dad and spent time talking with him and sharing their testimonies. Church is a place where we can communally share our common beliefs but not the only place to worship our Savior.
    Just as David spent his time caring for his sheep, he also spent time communing with the Lord.
    Thank you for the reminder that God is everywhere we are and always available.

    • Hi Loretta!
      WOW!! Thank you for sharing about your father and likening him to David. It’s all so beautiful. Nature continually resonates God’s voice and love, and so its an easy place to feel at one with him.

      May we resonate God’s love wherever we are.

      Thank you for reading.

  7. I understand this. I feel in limbo, but need to understand and feel connected to God.
    I am just going to let go and let God hold me.

  8. This really hit home. My denomination is splitting – mainly over the inerrancy of Scripture. The church I attend has been my church for over 50 years – my children grew up in the church. However, my beliefs are solid and I may have to join another denomination in my city because the belief of the church splitting off hasn’t yet set up a church here. I’ve been a widow for two years and since then I have only attended Sunday school. One couple has already left the church from the Sunday school class. I’ve been a member since 1969. I’m in limbo. I listen to several sermons on TV but miss the old way. However, I won’t back down because I strongly believe in the the Bible is the divine word of God.

    • Hi Sallie!
      WOW! That sounds difficult. I am sorry that you and your church are going through such a painful process.

      I pray that everyone is. able to hold on to the essence of God during this transition. May you all be encompassed in love and compassion for one another even as you read scripture differently. May goodness prevail.


  9. Lucretia, this is just beautiful. I am not amazed in how the Lord uses you to manifest in the lives of His people. Honestly, I was thinking about the meaning of your given names early this morning- giver of hope and bringer of light. You are truly living up to your names. May He continue to bless, anoint, and keep you.

  10. Hi Lucretia! You share my sister’s name. I too would like to thank you for sharing your story. So many of us are in limbo (this includes me). Yes I’ve felt a sense of guilt not returning to my church or church in general, especially when I talk with family. Yet the amazing relationship that I’ve cultivated with the Lord, in these last three years, supercedes any feelings that I may have. I purpose to never go back to formality and “just going through the motions” of church on Sunday. I will take a “page from your book” and seek out community in other ways. Thank you again. God bless!

    • Hi Cheryl!
      Based on her name, I’m sure your sister is a lovely person…lol.

      I am so happy for you! Tell your guilt that you don’t need its protection — that you and God are good and that you are growing in your trust and faith.

      I applaud your courage and commitment. I pray that you are encompassed in love and community.

      Thank you for reading and sharing.


  11. Thank you Lucretia for the blessing of your words & story for my heart & soul.
    May I suggest calling your Potluck a Pot Blessing? – for it truly is more blessing than just what blessing comes via the pot! 😉
    Shalom Shalom

    • Hi D.
      I am glad my story brought you some comfort. Thank you so much for your suggestion about the name change as are gatherings are truly a blessing.

      And thank you for reading.

  12. Lucretia,

    Covid did a number on all of us. My church shut down for a bit in 2020. At first there was no church at all. Deep down I enjoyed staying home & watching TV preachers & You tube videos of my church. Then I missed being around people. I chose to go to church where my MIL attended-a different denomination. My church eventually started up again & I went back. During that time I would often call a couple of elderly women in the church & keep them updated. My way of checking on them.

    God made us for community. He didn’t want us to be isolated & alone. Even now I check on my people & see how they are doing. Don’t want to lose their friendships.

    Blessings 🙂

    • Hi Beth!
      You are right. “God made us for community. He didn’t want us to be isolated & alone.” Knowing that you are checking on your people makes my heart smile. Thank you so much for doing that.

      Thank you for reading and sharing.

  13. Thank you for sharing. This hit home for me. I have been in limbo for quite some time and it has not felt good, not one bit. There have been ups and many downs however, I am learning that God is purposeful. I’ve decided to trust in the one who holds it all & as you said not rely on my feelings.

    May God continue to bless & keep you!

    • Samantha,
      You’re welcome. I am glad that you could find comfort in my story. May you be encompassed in God’s presence at all times. I think that when we move outside of our comfort spaces, we meet God in the liminal spaces. We experience how big He is.

      Thank you for reading.