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Melissa Zaldivar is a social in the world of academics and an academic in the world of socials. She's an author and podcast host with a BA in Communications and an MA in Theology. She loves a good sandwich, obscure history, and wandering around New England antique shops.

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  1. Melissa, this really was for me! At 70, I still struggle with this. I will take this to heart. Many thanks.

  2. I’m reading first comment. I’m 68 and still struggling also. How many? Prayers for fellow strugglers.

  3. Amen, Melissa! May we always as 1 Kings 22:5 says in part ” first inquire the Word of the Lord”. His opinion, His instructions matters most! Blessings (((0)))

  4. AMEN SISTER! You are a true kindred Spirit of mine, and I’m SO GLAD The Lord has given you this Wisdom and that you are sharing it with everyone.

    Soli Deo Gloria!

  5. Thank you for this powerful encouragement! I am growing as a writer and definitely get knocked around by such voices from the past. Your perspective is restorative. I don’t want to shrink back from sharing… the overthinking part in me comes from “friends” whose voices echo discouragement. Let the voice of God and the truth of His word be louder.

  6. OMGOODNESS Thank you Melissa for your wonderful, honest, beautiful “from the heart God gave you” words.
    I’m sooo grateful you continued to share your “miracle” writing.
    I can be very loud and obnoxious…still at 62! I can Interrupt and just pull the conversation to me!
    I’m much more inspired when I choose wisdom and listen. Thank you Jesus for 2 ears! \0/

  7. Melissa, your story definitely resonates with me. One of my best friends once told me “No one wants to hear your opinion!”. So I am very, very slow now to express an opinion. I never do without carefully considering my audience. For better or worse.

  8. Thank you!
    This so spoke to me and my fear of not being enough!
    A comment that “You can’t keep friends” that happened 30 years ago still makes its presence in my heart.
    Thank you for reminding me that God sees me differently, He is and always will be my friend!

  9. “If you are carrying sharp words spoken over you in a moment of true unkindness, consider this a post just for you. Imagine me sitting across from you and saying, ‘Those words weren’t for your good or growth.'”

    Melissa!! I know you wrote this several weeks ago, but the timing of its publication is remarkable; Friday afternoon, someone who works at my organization delivered a series of verbal body blows that left me in a raging puddle. I felt like I was in an episode of The Twilight Zone, it was SO out of left field! Too long a story to recount here, but the above passage was the sweetest thing to read :). An encouragement prompted by the Holy Spirit :). I HATE that that person’s words burrowed into your spirit, but it’s beautiful to see where you landed…and to know who you are. And, I’m glad you followed the call to ministry in your life. I see Jesus in you and your words.


  10. Such a good reminder as I struggle often with allowing myself to believe painful words from others I loved and admired rather louder than God’s promises and Truth.

  11. Melissa,

    God gave us two ears & only one mouth to hear first then speak. Proverbs 16:24 “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” That is what I pray my speech is always-kind, encouraging, & sweet. often times I bite my tongue or walk away from the situation. Trying my best to show this world God’s love.

    Blessings 🙂